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What's the point of a relationship with no sex?
Anon or delete please (as she uses TSR)
Hello. At the end of the summer holidays (just before uni), i met a girl who i instantly liked. We got together. We have been getting along just perfect in almost everything; apart from in the bedroom. She does not want to have sex; due to her religion (Islam).
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
I know sex isn't everything but i feel as if a barrier has been placed on our relationship. It's got to the point where i can't get it off of my mind and is starting to depress me. I've sought advice from friends; they think i should just end it. I really don't want to because i like her... but this sexual situation is getting too much.
We have done simple foreplay (she says Oral is sex) - but a simple man cannot live off this!
Any questions or anything just ask.
I'm dreadfully sorry if i sound callous or offensive; it's just how i feel
Hello. At the end of the summer holidays (just before uni), i met a girl who i instantly liked. We got together. We have been getting along just perfect in almost everything; apart from in the bedroom. She does not want to have sex; due to her religion (Islam).
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
I know sex isn't everything but i feel as if a barrier has been placed on our relationship. It's got to the point where i can't get it off of my mind and is starting to depress me. I've sought advice from friends; they think i should just end it. I really don't want to because i like her... but this sexual situation is getting too much.
We have done simple foreplay (she says Oral is sex) - but a simple man cannot live off this!
Any questions or anything just ask.
I'm dreadfully sorry if i sound callous or offensive; it's just how i feel
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Don't pressure her into doing something she'll sincerely regret. She'll probably end up resenting you. If you can't deal with it, dump her.
Hmm, a relationship, in my opinion, is a strong friendship with bonuses. Kissing is a bonus, thus you're in a relationship.
Just be honest with her, if you need sex and she can't give it to you then the relationship isn't going to work for you.
Why do you think sex is so important, though? Isn't it just nice being with her? Feeling her in your arms? Talking to her? Is that not enough for you?
Just be honest with her, if you need sex and she can't give it to you then the relationship isn't going to work for you.
Why do you think sex is so important, though? Isn't it just nice being with her? Feeling her in your arms? Talking to her? Is that not enough for you?
I can see why you're fustrated and hence the dilemna you're in. When would she be happy having sex? Marriage? (I can't remember how Islam works).
Anonymous
Anon or delete please (as she uses TSR)
Hello. At the end of the summer holidays (just before uni), i met a girl who i instantly liked. We got together. We have been getting along just perfect in almost everything; apart from in the bedroom. She does not want to have sex; due to her religion (Islam).
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
I know sex isn't everything but i feel as if a barrier has been placed on our relationship. It's got to the point where i can't get it off of my mind and is starting to depress me. I've sought advice from friends; they think i should just end it. I really don't want to because i like her... but this sexual situation is getting too much.
We have done simple foreplay (she says Oral is sex) - but a simple man cannot live off this!
Any questions or anything just ask.
I'm dreadfully sorry if i sound callous or offensive; it's just how i feel
Hello. At the end of the summer holidays (just before uni), i met a girl who i instantly liked. We got together. We have been getting along just perfect in almost everything; apart from in the bedroom. She does not want to have sex; due to her religion (Islam).
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
I know sex isn't everything but i feel as if a barrier has been placed on our relationship. It's got to the point where i can't get it off of my mind and is starting to depress me. I've sought advice from friends; they think i should just end it. I really don't want to because i like her... but this sexual situation is getting too much.
We have done simple foreplay (she says Oral is sex) - but a simple man cannot live off this!
Any questions or anything just ask.
I'm dreadfully sorry if i sound callous or offensive; it's just how i feel
If that's how you feel, that's how you feel. Yes there are other important things in a relationship, but sex can also be an important part. I think it's good that you are trying to understand her point of view and aren't pressuring her but if it really drives you insane,and you can't *ahem* cope with it in another way, then unfortunately I think your friends are right - you will have to dump her. It sounds harsh, but it's better than you trying to get her to do something she's not comfortable with which will only end up making both of you feel bad.
If sex is a big deal to you in a relationship, then i would suggest that perhaps the relationship you're in isn't the right one. I'd probably think differently, had it not been for the fact that about a year ago i was in the same position as you, but my boyfriend was a strict catholic, not muslim. I was really happy with him, but gradually became more and more unhappy because there was no sexual relationship. It always made me think of how different it would be to be with someone who i loved but also had a sexual relationship with.
Anyway, the point of sharing my experience is that if you really cannot handle not having sex in the relationship, then you should perhaps re-evaluate the relationship. I know sex isn't the be all and end all, but if you desire it and she cannot for certain reasons, it can bring about bigger problems in the future.
Anyway, the point of sharing my experience is that if you really cannot handle not having sex in the relationship, then you should perhaps re-evaluate the relationship. I know sex isn't the be all and end all, but if you desire it and she cannot for certain reasons, it can bring about bigger problems in the future.
In Eastern country and Islam religion mostly. Having sex before marriage is forbidden
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
mangthjik_riche
In Eastern country and Islam religion mostly. Having sex before marriage is forbidden
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
Seriously, go and improve your English.
OP, theres no point to a relationship for anyone of TSR frequenting age without sex. Sorry but that's the way it is, we all have hormones and needs, wether we chose to supress them for religious dogma or not is something else.
Let's put it this way, i give you 9:1 that in a while you won't be with her anymore, why drag something making you unhappy out?
EDIT:
Wow TSR.....just read most of this thread.... you people need to go discover sex and THEN talk about lovey dovey stuff ignoring sex all together, far harder than you would think. Pontificating and being hypocritical is not a good thing TSR... keep in mind one day you might be in this sit.
Let's put it this way, i give you 9:1 that in a while you won't be with her anymore, why drag something making you unhappy out?
EDIT:
Wow TSR.....just read most of this thread.... you people need to go discover sex and THEN talk about lovey dovey stuff ignoring sex all together, far harder than you would think. Pontificating and being hypocritical is not a good thing TSR... keep in mind one day you might be in this sit.
i don't know. it's just frustrating.
The thing is that he should appreciate her religion. To be honest, dumping a girl only because of not having sex with her, is "being an ass", indeed, as someone mentioned. Someone trying to be "a wisdom speaker" ( HDS ) and insluting others for their views is a little bit of a hypocrite, isn't he? Love is undefinable, yet a simplification here might be used, saying that "love is a complex feeling, which entwins inseparably around sex". Still, as far as I can remember, the one that created the thread said that "he liked her very much" so there was done no talking about "love" etc. Therefore, sex is not a needed component. What I can read from his words is that he simply needs sex. But, mate, you have got a girlfriend, whom you really like. If you break up with her because of lack of sex will be unequivocal and show your, pardon my register, immaturity.
Yet, still, if you need sex desperately, just leave her, but remember to explain to her that it was sex that made you do this.
Best regards
Yet, still, if you need sex desperately, just leave her, but remember to explain to her that it was sex that made you do this.
Best regards
I waited 3 years for my gf, it wasnt hard!
HDS
OP, theres no point to a relationship for anyone of TSR frequenting age without sex. Sorry but that's the way it is, we all have hormones and needs, wether we chose to supress them for religious dogma or not is something else.
Let's put it this way, i give you 9:1 that in a while you won't be with her anymore, why drag something making you unhappy out?
EDIT:
Wow TSR.....just read most of this thread.... you people need to go discover sex and THEN talk about lovey dovey stuff ignoring sex all together, far harder than you would think. Pontificating and being hypocritical is not a good thing TSR... keep in mind one day you might be in this sit.
Let's put it this way, i give you 9:1 that in a while you won't be with her anymore, why drag something making you unhappy out?
EDIT:
Wow TSR.....just read most of this thread.... you people need to go discover sex and THEN talk about lovey dovey stuff ignoring sex all together, far harder than you would think. Pontificating and being hypocritical is not a good thing TSR... keep in mind one day you might be in this sit.
i think this aswell. im not going to be with her forever so why not have fun whilst it lasts
Half the replies on this are just irritating.
Fact: OP is dating this girl
Fact: the girl does not wish to have sex
Fact: OP finds it stressful (probably a better word somewhere) to be in a relationship where he can't have sex
If it's causing trouble for him, he's right to bring it up. No, dumping someone for lack of sex isn't the nicest thing to do, but people can't help feeling the way they do.
Especially if you're a teenager, I don't understand the point in dragging out a relationship if you're not happy in it.
Fact: OP is dating this girl
Fact: the girl does not wish to have sex
Fact: OP finds it stressful (probably a better word somewhere) to be in a relationship where he can't have sex
If it's causing trouble for him, he's right to bring it up. No, dumping someone for lack of sex isn't the nicest thing to do, but people can't help feeling the way they do.
Especially if you're a teenager, I don't understand the point in dragging out a relationship if you're not happy in it.
I'm asexual so I'd help you answer the topic title, but I'm aware it's rhetorical and that like every other time I'd get 100 'Who Quoted Me' on why sex is omgnecessary (as if I can change my sexuality. >D)
If someone clicked on this genuinely interested in views on the point of a relationship with no sex, they can PM me.
As for the situation:
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
If you're grudgingly in the relationship, don't you think you should end it? If it's putting that much strain on the relationship then perhaps you're just too different in views and it seems like you aren't prepared to wait for her - so it's either going to be end up splitting up anyway because it got too much, or she feels a bit under pressure (JEDWARD, sorry) and sleeps with you and likely regrets what she's done. I think the kindest thing is to let her go.
If someone clicked on this genuinely interested in views on the point of a relationship with no sex, they can PM me.
As for the situation:
I accept this, but just cannot see the point in a relationship without sex.
If you're grudgingly in the relationship, don't you think you should end it? If it's putting that much strain on the relationship then perhaps you're just too different in views and it seems like you aren't prepared to wait for her - so it's either going to be end up splitting up anyway because it got too much, or she feels a bit under pressure (JEDWARD, sorry) and sleeps with you and likely regrets what she's done. I think the kindest thing is to let her go.
MarcvsAntonivs
Someone trying to be "a wisdom speaker" ( HDS ) and insluting others for their views is a little bit of a hypocrite, isn't he?
???? When did i insult anybody for their views (in this thread)????
I'm being realistic here, if you're reffering to me telling some of the posters on here to back off OP i'm just being honest because they're big big hypocrites. Let's face it the average age of people on TSR is (in my mind) not above 20, if even that, we're talking about 15, 16, 17, 18, 19 year old kids with raging hormones, we all KNOW that they need to release that sexual energy and that, yes, it is a priority at this age as we all also know that i'd guess 90% of relationships formed at this age don't (and aren't mean to) last.
Sex and love have nothing to do with each other unless you want them to. Look @ porn...sho me the love there.
Sex for teens is alot of times necessary and you gotta realize that. People go to prostitutes....why? its not out of love i can promise you that.
The point is everyone sees it differently... if you don't wanna have sex without love thats your choice but don't impose it on others like OP.
I'm trying to be realistic. You're trying to be insulting.
Calling OP imature is unfair. You could be called immature for your 'disney' views on sex and love.
OP came for advice, if thats how op feels thats how op feels. End of story, it doesnt make him immature and i doubt he came here for people to tell him he's an ass.
Anonymous
i think this aswell. im not going to be with her forever so why not have fun whilst it lasts
Sorry it's a **** situation mate, but life's a bitch with a 13" strapon....it does go on though and here definitely (afaik) isnt a shortage of females.
mangthjik_riche
In Eastern country and Islam religion mostly. Having sex before marriage is forbidden
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
Sex just allowed if you had marriage. Then if you ask why?
Because it’s to protect girl it’s self.
In major East culture and opinion, the girl who had many making sex with boy with relationship is same like Ho-oker. In eastern marriage isn’t just marriage of 2 people but also marriage of 2 Big Family.
If you really love her respect her and if you want sex just find other woman to make sex
LOL. Can't tell if this is taking the piss or not.
If you're on TSR and asking this question you're probably young, i think a bit too young to be in a sex less relaitionship.
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