How do you know if someone asks you out for a joke?

Hi, all through some of early secondary school, I used to get asked out by quite a few different boys. I usually always said no, as I barely knew them, and it seemed like they were just asking me out randomly, and also I was a lil scared of rejection and skeptical as I'm not that confident with myself with relationship stuff, so I'd just assume they were joking. I know this was years ago, but I was thinking, was I right in being skeptical and turning them down, or do you think I should have given them a chance if they might have been genuine? I've only been out with one guy, he asked me out and we were good friends to begin with so I could easily trust him. But now I'm single and no chances seem to come anymore. I just need a lil help with what I can do better for the future, thanks :frown:

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Reply 1

Melana

14

In my experience, people really don't do that. It would be too much of a risk of embarrassment for them. Be more trusting!

Reply 2

Notker

3

Happened to me in year 6. There was a girl I liked, a guy one day told me that she liked me as well so I asked her out - she laughed, it was a joke they were both in on. I've never asked a girl out since. Moral of the story: it's probably a ploy to humiliate you; don't bother.

Reply 3

Circe

Notker

Happened to me in year 6. There was a girl I liked, a guy one day told me that she liked me as well so I asked her out - she laughed, it was a joke they were both in on. I've never asked a girl out since. Moral of the story: it's probably a ploy to humiliate you; don't bother.

That is the saddest damn story I've ever heard. :hmmm:

Reply 4

DenitsaV

Who cares whether it was a joke, if you like him/her say yes, smile, be mature, don't fall for such lame tricks, if it was a joke, bad for the person because he only proved to be immature and stupid, and either way you should not care - you acted appropriately. No one can laugh at your "humiliation" if he himself acted so terribly, have some self-confidence! ;o))

Reply 5

Studentus-anonymous

12

Learn some basic observations of human behaviour and it'll make things allot easier.

Hell, check for enthusiasm alone, its not that hard to read someone's face and known when they are being insincere.

Reply 6

artorscience?

11

Whilst that sort of behaviour was pretty common in secondary school, by the time you reach 16+ people tend not to be interested in the juvenile methods of humiliating people. Plus, at my high school it was always pretty obvious who was doing joke ask outs - it would be guys from one of the popular groups asking out the girls who they thought were the geekiest and most socially incompetent to make them squirm and then retell the story around the school - it was pretty easy to spot and the usual candidates were generally smart enough to realise who was a jackass and ignore them.

Reply 7

DenitsaV

Yeah, but remember in A Walk to Remember the popular guy fell in love with the geek (!) :biggrin:

Reply 8

Beautiful_Plumage

I once laughed in a guys face after he asked me out, thinking it was a joke...he was being serious. :frown:

Reply 9

Lloyd_wills

1

Notker

Happened to me in year 6. There was a girl I liked, a guy one day told me that she liked me as well so I asked her out - she laughed, it was a joke they were both in on. I've never asked a girl out since. Moral of the story: it's probably a ploy to humiliate you; don't bother.

AWWW that moral sucks!!! F*** that man, go for it, if they say no then your not going out with them, if you dont ask then your not going out with them! NOTHING TO LOSE MATE :yep:

Reply 10

BubblesMcGee

artorscience?

Whilst that sort of behaviour was pretty common in secondary school, by the time you reach 16+ people tend not to be interested in the juvenile methods of humiliating people. Plus, at my high school it was always pretty obvious who was doing joke ask outs - it would be guys from one of the popular groups asking out the girls who they thought were the geekiest and most socially incompetent to make them squirm and then retell the story around the school - it was pretty easy to spot and the usual candidates were generally smart enough to realise who was a jackass and ignore them.

God, this sounds familiar. That was me!
OP - you're a bit older now, right? So chances are anyone asking now means it. Plus I'd say being friends first is better if you feel a bit insecure about things like this.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Hi everyone, thanks for the answers, very helpful :nod:

Reply 12

Notker

3

Lloyd_wills

AWWW that moral sucks!!! F*** that man, go for it, if they say no then your not going out with them, if you dont ask then your not going out with them! NOTHING TO LOSE MATE :yep:

Except your diginity. :s-smilie:

Reply 13

Lloyd_wills

1

Notker

Except your diginity. :s-smilie:

Hahahaha :P na dw about that lol! You'll soon get it back once someone hot says yes :woo:

Reply 14

divyaravishankar

2

I agree. I have this **** happening to me as well or at least going to. Some people say this dude is going to ask me out on valentines day as a joke. They need to get a life. My feelings are hurt and it happened to me before by a guy i really really liked. I think something is wrong with me as I am always their target. I have hearing aids and glasses and I'm in yr 11. It damn hurts. But I believe that one day you will find someone who appreciates you for you and you just have to be patient

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