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Desperately want to transfer medical school!
Hi
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
Also I may seem ungrateful complaining about my place in a med school, when so many people were unlucky to receive 4 rejections. I'm not ungrateful, and I cherish the opportunity to study medicine, I'm just unhappy at the uni and don't think I'll be able to stick it out for 5/6 years.
I dont think Med schools let you transfer! Due to the different structures and I'd say that it is highly unlikely that your medical school's course structure is the same as another.
Chunkeymonkey62
I dont think Med schools let you transfer! Due to the different structures and I'd say that it is highly unlikely that your medical school's course structure is the same as another.
yeah i was thinking that. Though because the first year doesn't count towards MBBS I think, perhaps it wouldn't matter as much?
Also by transferring I'd still be transferring to a med school in the middle of the year. I would still prefer that to staying in the uni I am now though.
Dropping out would really be a huge risk since med school is already hard to get into and I don't think med schools would look to kindly on someone dropping out. Doesn't exactly scream determination to do medicine.
Hence I feel really stuck, I just don't know what to do
Go speak to your tutor/helper guy. What uni is it?
i agree with the person above. speak to your tutor about this. you will not be the fist or the last person in this situation.
but you also need to consider that if you are a shy person at this uni chances are you will be a shy person at all unis. you could just stick it out and see how it goes people alway tend to be a bit cliquie in the first few month but that will calm down after the first year and the novelty of being at uni wears off.
if not you dont need to make friend on your course. you could join a society at the uni or volunteer locally and make friends that way. there are ither ways to make friends.
sorry your struggling with this i know that it is hard to stay somewhere you dont feel comfortable. however please do leave or try to change the uni you are at now because this may make all medschool think you are not dedicated to medicine, after all it is the people on your course that are the problem not the university its self. talk to you tutor.
but you also need to consider that if you are a shy person at this uni chances are you will be a shy person at all unis. you could just stick it out and see how it goes people alway tend to be a bit cliquie in the first few month but that will calm down after the first year and the novelty of being at uni wears off.
if not you dont need to make friend on your course. you could join a society at the uni or volunteer locally and make friends that way. there are ither ways to make friends.
sorry your struggling with this i know that it is hard to stay somewhere you dont feel comfortable. however please do leave or try to change the uni you are at now because this may make all medschool think you are not dedicated to medicine, after all it is the people on your course that are the problem not the university its self. talk to you tutor.
resee
Hi
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
For my entire first year at medical school I was considering dropping out/transferring and was completely miserable with the place. I'm generally quite an antisocial person who finds it difficult to make friends and is very shy. I stuck it out, and while I still don't have many friends, I'm a lot happier here and glad I gave it another try. I expect I would have had exactly the same problem regardless of which medical school I went to.
When it comes to transferring medical schools, I do know of people who've successfully managed it but the problem generally is to do with the different structures of courses at different medical schools and the order in which they teach things. Provided there are particular circumstances, it is possible.
I wouldn't recommend dropping out and reapplying through UCAS for somewhere else as there's no guarantee that you'll get in anywhere and they would probably have issues with you dropping out.
After all that rambling, I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to think very carefully about whether you really think being at a different medical school would help or not, or whether you'd have the same problems regardless of where you were. Do you have advisors/personal tutors/similar? Have you spoken to any of the staff at the medical school about the problems you're having?
resee
Hi
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
I'm sympathetic, because everyone's been in your shoes. I promise you, you don't finish five years at medical school without your Year of Hell, its part of the package. You're just getting it at the start.
If your school have bothered themselves with putting you in the seat you're in, its because they thought you were worth investing in. If you quit now, you're just saying that you aren't, that they were wrong to do that. As far as I can tell, the only way out of this spot, and I've been there myself, is to man up and get on with it. Find something else (Sport, music, books, whatever....), vent out the frustration, then pick yourself up and throw yourself back at it. You're trying to do something difficult, its not going to run perfect straight off, get used to the idea. That's what makes it worth doing.
everyone goes through it at some point, some more than others. Im outgoing but my first year i wasnt enjoying it as much as i should because i had a bad bunch in halls with me. However as soon as i moved out in 2nd year and made new friends, settle into the course etc had a ball of a time. maybe you should try joining some societies etc. stick with it it will all get easier, it doesnt seem it now but it will. You get to know a lot of people in medicine because you move tutor groups etc a lot, so you will find people you like. You just might have to make that extra effort. Transferring isnt a good idea cus at your new place people already have friendship groups, so you may infact find it harder.
resee
Hi
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
I'm currently a first year student. However I'm not very happy at the uni I'm attending. I feel lonely and I haven't made many friends (I haven't been able to integrate properly). I do hang out with others and tag along, but I still feel very lonely, and definitely feel a bit of an outcast (i.e. secluded from friendship circles etc.) It's been around 10 weeks into the course now.
I know some may criticise me for entering med school in the first place, as I'm shy and struggle to make friends with others (doctors/medics are expected to be rather outgoing). But I genuinely think I'd make a good doctor. I'm good at volunteering, and I care a lot about others. I feel a bit guilty about it, as in interviews I come off rather well (rather outgoing/jokey), so I think med schools get a false perception of me when they let me in. I've got no idea why I'm good at interviews, it's mostly everyday conversations with my peers that I struggle with, as I'm inherently shy.
Anyway, I feel that if I could transfer unis, I could maybe get another crack at it. Uni was a big shock for me, and I wasn't really able to fit in. If I could give first year another go, I think I'd be able to do better this time around. In any case, I'm miserable at this uni, and a change of uni I'd welcome regardless of whether I make more friends or not.
So I was wondering can students change med schools? I don't think med schools will look to kindly on those dropping out to reapply to other med schools. I've heard other people drop out from uni to go to a different uni for other courses, but I haven't heard of any similar stories for medicine.
I'm really miserable at uni, at it probably won't be long before my work starts to suffer too. Is there anything I can do?
OP take it from me everyone experiences this. I even tried to transfer out of the uni im at but failed. Its just something you get used to. It took me a year to get used to uni and the life. It varies for different people. Try to focus on the course and enjoy the course, sooner or later you will start liking it there. ANd try and make more of an effort with people. It'll work out!
Transfer ARE possible but you need extenuating circumstances in order to do so and they have to be pretty severe. Transfers are usually only allowed after the second year of the course anyway. So you will have to spend another year at the uni your at whether you like it or not, and who knows you may get used to it.
Stick at it! I bet you there are tons of people in your year feeling the exact same way. Do you have any interests from school that you would like to continue? Sounds cliche but societies are a great way to keep in touch with like minded people (and, heaven forbid, meet non-medics).
I hate to say it but I think if you transfer to another uni you'll be worse off. You'll be joining a group of people who will be fundamentally the same as the ones you've just left (what's actually so wrong with them anyway??) but who have already had half a year to get to know each other.
For me, the second half of the year was so much better than the first, and second year even better still. I bet half the people in the friend circles you feel you're "tagging along with" feel exactly the same - outgoing people are just better at putting on a pretense. If you feel you like people, get to know them, they won't think it's weird that you've just appeared now. Some of my best friends this year are people I didn't know existed in first year; with such a huge spread of people I'm sure there'll be someone you click with and it's never to late to start chatting to someone
I hate to say it but I think if you transfer to another uni you'll be worse off. You'll be joining a group of people who will be fundamentally the same as the ones you've just left (what's actually so wrong with them anyway??) but who have already had half a year to get to know each other.
For me, the second half of the year was so much better than the first, and second year even better still. I bet half the people in the friend circles you feel you're "tagging along with" feel exactly the same - outgoing people are just better at putting on a pretense. If you feel you like people, get to know them, they won't think it's weird that you've just appeared now. Some of my best friends this year are people I didn't know existed in first year; with such a huge spread of people I'm sure there'll be someone you click with and it's never to late to start chatting to someone
Hey, I'm not even a medic but I saw the title and I can empathise with you. I think it's important you keep going at it. I'm much like you in terms of socialising but I think changing course could cause a lot of hassle and potentially make things worse. I know it's not exactly the same but I took ages to fit in at school and make friends with people, just because groups have been formed you're not excluded, the people there will be happy to chat to you and make friendships.
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