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Chose between bf and university
Me and my bf were having a conversation earlier, and I mentioned the fact that I want to go to uni. (hopefully next year) My bf then went really quiet and said ‘perhaps we better split up then before we get too serous”. I asked him what he meant, and he said that if I go to uni, he couldn’t carry on the relationship, as there would be ‘no point’ and he ‘hates long distance relationships’ because ‘there pathetic’ he then went on to say, he couldn’t hack only seeing me like three times a year. Hearing him say that, was a real kick in the teeth to me, I love him so much, and hate the thought of us splitting up, especially over something like that. I feel like I have to chose between the two, and I don’t like feeling like this.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
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1. Can He Go With You?
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
Its true, if he truely loved you, you could make it work. No it isnt ideal, but you cant have each other on a tight leash. So ask him what he wants from the relationship, because if he feels a ldr would be pathetic then he doesnt value you enough!
The Colonel
1. Can He Go With You?
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
he couldn't really go with me
the uni is in manchester, and I live in south wales. so it's not that far wayThe Colonel
1. Can He Go With You?
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
2. Can you go to a local uni
3. Push Comes To Shove, Choose Uni, You'll regret it later otherwise
he couldn't really go with me
the uni is in manchester, and I live in south wales. so it's not that far waytoo true
Make your own mind up and dont let other people tell you what to do, they will all say the "sensible" option is to go with uni, but then they dont feel about your boyfriend like you do. Remember you can always go back to an education. Bear in mind also though that your boyfriend may feel differently about you than you do about him - if you would be willing to go to uni and have a long distance relationship but he thinks there'd be "no point" and it would be "pathetic" then there's a difference there that needs thinking about.
The fact that he is making you chose is enough grounds to dump him. He should see that this is really important to you and support you no matter what.
Your boyfriend shouldn't make you choose between him or University! I know its really difficult but you need to make it clear that this isn't a choice you are willing to make. If he loves you enough he'll understand that, if not he isn't worth being with. I know it might be harsh but its the truth sweetheart. Good luck and I hope things work out. 
UNI!.. if he loves u, he must support u, and he should wait till u finish the uni..
Every post more or less says what I have to say on the subject. Your boyfriend shouldn't make you feel like you have to choose between your education and him - it's not fair on you. He should accept that you want to go to university and he should support you – well in an ideal world.
From my interpretation, it seems as though your boyfriend may have said what he did without much thought on the matter - he was probably put on the spot with the prospect of losing you and grasped at any opportunity to keep you by 'threatening' to dump you. I think you should talk to him - explain how a long-distant relationship would work between you (that you'd visit him whenever you could/phone him etc) - and then see if he changes his mind. If he still has the attitude: 'me or university', it'll be hard, but it's time to call the relationship to an end. I don't think anyone should be blackmailed.
How long have you two been going out can I ask?
From my interpretation, it seems as though your boyfriend may have said what he did without much thought on the matter - he was probably put on the spot with the prospect of losing you and grasped at any opportunity to keep you by 'threatening' to dump you. I think you should talk to him - explain how a long-distant relationship would work between you (that you'd visit him whenever you could/phone him etc) - and then see if he changes his mind. If he still has the attitude: 'me or university', it'll be hard, but it's time to call the relationship to an end. I don't think anyone should be blackmailed.
How long have you two been going out can I ask?
Hayley_2k4
Me and my bf were having a conversation earlier, and I mentioned the fact that I want to go to uni. (hopefully next year) My bf then went really quiet and said ‘perhaps we better split up then before we get too serous”. I asked him what he meant, and he said that if I go to uni, he couldn’t carry on the relationship, as there would be ‘no point’ and he ‘hates long distance relationships’ because ‘there pathetic’ he then went on to say, he couldn’t hack only seeing me like three times a year. Hearing him say that, was a real kick in the teeth to me, I love him so much, and hate the thought of us splitting up, especially over something like that. I feel like I have to chose between the two, and I don’t like feeling like this.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
yes.
the relationship survived for over a year and then came to a close. we are both good friends to this day.
depends on the distance and how long you're away for. i saw my then girlfriend pretty regularly as she came home at weekends a lot and i visited sometimes. her uni was only 60 odd miles away (long distance by northern irish terms!)
Hayley_2k4
Me and my bf were having a conversation earlier, and I mentioned the fact that I want to go to uni. (hopefully next year) My bf then went really quiet and said ‘perhaps we better split up then before we get too serous”. I asked him what he meant, and he said that if I go to uni, he couldn’t carry on the relationship, as there would be ‘no point’ and he ‘hates long distance relationships’ because ‘there pathetic’ he then went on to say, he couldn’t hack only seeing me like three times a year. Hearing him say that, was a real kick in the teeth to me, I love him so much, and hate the thought of us splitting up, especially over something like that. I feel like I have to chose between the two, and I don’t like feeling like this.
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Has anyone else been in a situation like this?
Uni
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