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is this lust

i hang around this girl yeah and like i like her but not in that relationship kind of way but as in brother/sister kind of way. thing is i get totally jealous when she is with other boyz or like if im not treated the same or better than the rest of the boyz she know. it is soo irritating and lyk wen we txt or chat on msn she does short convos but in person she is baare talkative. wot do you reckon, thanks in advance :smile:

Reply 1

besomebody

8

Why would that be lust?

Reply 2

theBOON

No that's Philia

Reply 3

dedicated_titan91

OP

nice point loool, my bad. back to my problem doe wot shud i do

Reply 4

SerpentineLara

6

I really hope you made those spelling mistakes on purpose ...

But to answer your question.
: No, that is not lust.

Reply 5

HumorousGent.

16

Never mention 'lust' and 'brother/sister' in the same post again.

Reply 6

dedicated_titan91

OP

ok i get the picture but wot shud i do

Reply 7

spacepirate-James

18

Why is the word "boyz" somehow easier/quicker to spell than "boys"

I'm rendered nonplus...

Reply 8

killbrown

i think you just feel selfishly for her. its called 'mate retention'. google it.
its a psychological reaction when someone u like interacts with others. many people have this condition. its not lust unless your sexually attracted to her and want her in a sexual way.

shane

Reply 9

killbrown

and are you sure you dont fancy her?

Reply 10

dedicated_titan91

OP

killbrown

i think you just feel selfishly for her. its called 'mate retention'. google it.
its a psychological reaction when someone u like interacts with others. many people have this condition. its not lust unless your sexually attracted to her and want her in a sexual way.

shane

yeahh truu but like at the same time i do want to go out with her but its probably because i knw shes wifey material if u get me, if i find another gal that is wifey material then i wud go bak to normal with her

Reply 11

meercatman

14

Nah, that's not lust. Lust is all about sexual desire, and if there is none there, then it can't be. As you describe your relationship with her as a sisterly one, maybe you just feel protective over her. :yep:

dedicated_titan91

lyk wen we txt or chat on msn she does short convos but in person she is baare talkative. wot do you reckon, thanks in advance :smile:

Reply 12

dedicated_titan91

OP

yo i dont get the last bit :s-smilie:

, wots so funny bout the last bit

Reply 13

killbrown

if you want to go out with her just ask her?

what do you mean wifey material?

Reply 14

dedicated_titan91

OP

like she looks like a person who is ideal for a gf, besides i don't have feelings for her in that way but like i just like jamming with her and stuff, but just her txts and msn convo kills it

Reply 15

killbrown

ok im confused

do you want to go out with her? do you see yourself happy being herboyfriend?

do you want to kiss her?

If the answer to all those is 'No', then your just a jealous type person and want her undivided attention and enthusiasm on msn and texts which is not possible.

Theres nothing wrong with it, many people are like that.

But if the answer to all those is 'Yes' then your seriously wasting your time. ask her out.

Reply 16

dedicated_titan91

OP

yeahhh i guess your right u knw, but lyk dats totallyy normal right, cuz i want the feelings to go cuz i dont want them to grow. i seriously don't see myself goin out with her but eventually those feelings wud grow into something. i just don't knw wot

Reply 17

9MmBulletz

16

dedicated_titan91

yeahhh i guess your right u knw, but lyk dats totallyy normal right, cuz i want the feelings to go cuz i dont want them to grow. i seriously don't see myself goin out with her but eventually those feelings wud grow into something. i just don't knw wot