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    Over the past couple of weeks i've found out that like my two of my best friends (1 boy and 1 girl) are constantly arguing at each other. I have been highly tramatised by their constant bickering with each other and have been constantly asking the reasons behind this arguing. just yesterday i found out that each has secretly convided in me that they fancy the other...

    i dont know how to deal with this situation as i know that guys aren't very good at dealing with this situation but i just want to know what is the best advice that you can offer... i dont want to fall out with either of them but am finding myself increasingly stuck in the middle...

    any help would be appreciated!
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    Over the past couple of weeks i've found out that like my two of my best friends (1 boy and 1 girl) are constantly arguing at each other. I have been highly tramatised by their constant bickering with each other and have been constantly asking the reasons behind this arguing. just yesterday i found out that each has secretly convided in me that they fancy the other...

    i dont know how to deal with this situation as i know that guys aren't very good at dealing with this situation but i just want to know what is the best advice that you can offer... i dont want to fall out with either of them but am finding myself increasingly stuck in the middle...

    any help would be appreciated!
    get them both drunk and put them in a room togehter....
    dont tell one person and not the other, get them to try and figure it out themselves, u jus try and set the scene
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    Maybe they're both sexualy frustrated. Maybe if you told each friend what you heard together then things may change. A problem shared, is a problem halved
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    i thought about doing that but the impression i got is that if i intefere with their love/hate relationship all the hate will get directed at me!
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    i thought about doing that but the impression i got is that if i intefere with their love/hate relationship all the hate will get directed at me!
    Then if it does, you argue and say you tried to make it right, it wont be all directed at you dont worry, they should thank you.
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    (Original post by kriztinae)
    get them both drunk and put them in a room togehter....
    dont tell one person and not the other, get them to try and figure it out themselves, u jus try and set the scene
    lol, interesting concept but how exactly do i 'set the scene'...?
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    (Original post by Markus)
    Then if it does, you argue and say you tried to make it right, it wont be all directed at you dont worry, they should thank you.
    and what if they dont thank me and i get pushed in the face! i just no i'm going to nothing at this rate
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    lol, interesting concept but how exactly do i 'set the scene'...?
    wel u cud go out together with the two of them, and invite a female friend to help u, at the beg of the nite make sure everyone has a bit to drink, then go off with ur female friend and leave them alone. somethin is bound to happen!!
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    and what if they dont thank me and i get pushed in the face! i just no i'm going to nothing at this rate
    You only think this at the moment because it worries you, and the way thing are at the moment look far from positive. But if things do work out and they become friend/partners then all can be well again

    Al lthis bickering i think is steming from the frsutration of knowing that the other doesnt know their true feelings.
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    (Original post by kriztinae)
    wel u cud go out together with the two of them, and invite a female friend to help u, at the beg of the nite make sure everyone has a bit to drink, then go off with ur female friend and leave them alone. somethin is bound to happen!!
    i like the song of going away with the female friend... (less said here the better)

    the problem is that neither of them will go out with the other... which has made things surprisingly akward when going out
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    (Original post by Markus)
    Al lthis bickering i think is steming from the frsutration of knowing that the other doesnt know their true feelings.
    How to you know this?
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    How to you know this?
    Makes sense, unless you can come up with a better reason why they are bickering like this.
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    i like the song of going away with the female friend... (less said here the better)

    the problem is that neither of them will go out with the other... which has made things surprisingly akward when going out
    well then invite them both out for dinner for 2.
    dont tel them the other is ocming, when they both arrive, leave. tell them you two have alot to talk abt

    otherwise u can be straight abt it, invite them both round to urs and dont sya the other one is coming, then when they both are there say iv had it with u two, u both fancy each other, jus get on with it. and leave the room!
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    ok... thanks hope this'll work btw
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    (Original post by kriztinae)
    well then invite them both out for dinner for 2.
    dont tel them the other is ocming, when they both arrive, leave. tell them you two have alot to talk abt
    The only problemo with that though is that because both will be really surprised, then they may take it out on 'revenged' (sorry dont know your name) which may cause problems. I think just telling them both together is the best bet. Personally.
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    ok... thanks hope this'll work btw
    let us know how it all goes
    good luck!
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    ok... thanks hope this'll work btw
    Good luck :cheers:
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    (Original post by Revenged)
    Over the past couple of weeks i've found out that like my two of my best friends (1 boy and 1 girl) are constantly arguing at each other. I have been highly tramatised by their constant bickering with each other and have been constantly asking the reasons behind this arguing. just yesterday i found out that each has secretly convided in me that they fancy the other...

    i dont know how to deal with this situation as i know that guys aren't very good at dealing with this situation but i just want to know what is the best advice that you can offer... i dont want to fall out with either of them but am finding myself increasingly stuck in the middle...

    any help would be appreciated!
    Hey dude,

    well my parents used to do that to each other all the time before they eventually got divorced, and it annoyed me highly So I can kind of understand what you're going through. I think it's important to realise that at the end of the day, it's not your problem, so don't feel like you have to be dragged into it :p: However it is kind of you to want to help out.

    If you wanted to, I guess, reduce their arguments/supposed grudges against each other, I'd get them to talk to each other! E.g. have them get a coffee together, even with you in the background if it gets too much. Get them to communicate on their own, and not use you as a medium. What they are doing is a bit immature, and yes that reminds of when my parents didn't want to speak to each other and used me as the messanger :mad:

    Anyway yeah, sorry getting off track. Point is, you shouldn't feel like 'you have to choose'. You've a right to be both of their friends

    Best of luck with everything,

    DB_x

    P.S. Hope this post isn't too late.
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    p.s. Congratuations on being an absolute idiot.








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