You think you love her but then again you think you don't

Ive been with my gf for gettin on for 2 1/2 years maybe more! an i really loved her until we broke up after a yr n half an then she went off with some lads an we wnet our own way i was a reck but then got over it an things had nevr been well but then we ended up together again an have been since But things have never been the same for me but i know i still care, but at the same time i know i want more an wished i hadnt been dragged in to the mess wen we broke up. oooooooooh confusion sorry if this makes no sense but if theres any1 thats been in the same im intrested,

Reply 1

saz_1989

2

I'm the same now. I thought that I'd been in love, but now I wonder if I have. With the new boyfriend, I don't know if I'm in love...I want more...but then I want to split up...like I don't want to love anyone unless I get more...is that what you're trying to say?

(I'm not very good with words so I had to say it in first person)

Reply 2

Lone Ranger

OP

Lauren

I'm the same now. I thought that I'd been in love, but now I wonder if I have. With the new boyfriend, I don't know if I'm in love...I want more...but then I want to split up...like I don't want to love anyone unless I get more...is that what you're trying to say?

(I'm not very good with words so I had to say it in first person)

yeah its along those lines i dont no weather im ina routine, an ive got the point where i dont feel like there is true true love an i dont know what an where am goin

Reply 3

Mark S

17

I hate meeting up with new girls, like totally new, the small talk part is particularly painful...

Reply 4

saz_1989

2

maybe you should have a bit of time alone to think about things?

Reply 5

Lone Ranger

OP

[QUOTE="Lauren"]maybe you should have a bit of time alone to think about things?[/QUOTE

probably but things seem to be goin down hill an if i gave the relationship time it may do more harm than good oh i dunno, i do need time i think so i cant wait to go on hol with my mate

Reply 6

saz_1989

2

if things are going downhill that's even more reason to have time to yourself. there's no point flogging a dead horse. it's hard breaking up with people and it's even hard trying to figure out whether you want to or not, but it's gotta be done.

Reply 7

Lone Ranger

OP

Lauren

if things are going downhill that's even more reason to have time to yourself. there's no point flogging a dead horse. it's hard breaking up with people and it's even hard trying to figure out whether you want to or not, but it's gotta be done.

i dont wana be so confused i feel so awful inside, like incomplete an i just what some sort of peace, i cant figure out wheather its whats shes done in the past or weather i want more, sum1 mor elike myself or weather im jus stressed at mo n other factors effectin ma relationship, i seem to be like on a see-saw

Reply 8

saz_1989

2

hmm. well you should sit down and write out a list of good and bad things about her, about the relationship. then write down good and bad things about being single. think about being single. will you miss her more than the relationship? or will you be upset at having split up and then get over it? i think the thing is, once you've split up with someone and got over them, when you get back together you have the knowledge that if you split up again, you can get over them again. you also have the worry in the back of your mind that you WILL split up again, and hence you try subconsciously to get less involved in the relationship, to save yourself that potential hurt. when you first fall in love with someone, you imagine you'll be together forever, and you don't worry about splitting up. once someone's broken your heart, it's very hard to trust them with it again, no matter how much you love them.

there's two things i can suggest you do: number one is talk to your girlfriend about it. number two is talk to yourself. perhaps if you find out what she wants, then maybe you'll find she wants the same thing as you and you can fall for her again knowing that you're not going to get hurt. or perhaps she feels the same as you, in which case you just need to follow your heart.

if you're worried about her having been with other people, don't. from a girl's pov, once you're in a relationship, you don't think about anyone else from the past unless you're not satisfied with the relationship you're in. i know people can't stop obsessing over ex's (myself included) but the thing i always think of is: they were x many years ago, they can't still love that person because they're loving someone x years younger, and the person will have changed, got older, got a boyfriend/girlfriend, etc etc.

You think you love her but then again you think you don't

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