bf of 4 years pulled out my hair and hit me when he was drunk Watch

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i've been so upset because last friday my bf of 4 years hit me and pulled out lots of my hair so my scalp is hurting and I am bald in several places.

does anyone know whether it will ever grow back? it hurts so much i can't even sleep on the bald damaged patches.

i have bruises all over my body but i know they will go away but im so scared of losing my hair :'( I dont want to be permanentely damaged.

cant believe he loved me above everything else in his apology e-mail and that he regretted it. if you love someone you would never want to hurt them. he also called me nasty things :'(

i feel so sad about everything. what shall i do to get over him completely? i thought he was the love of my life but now i just want to feel indifferent about him.. please help me with any useful advice, thanks in advance
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interesting.....

if u were with him four years wot made him fly off the handlr now all of a sudden?
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i can forgive a lot of things, but I CANNOT, repeat, CANNOT ever forgive anyone for messing with my hair. not only would I dump him, I'd report him to the police and sh1t on his porch.
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Do you think he deserves a second chance?

You need to give yourself some time to seriously consider what you do next, because this obviously isn't a healthy situation to be in; but if he truly regrets it, you at least need to speak to him before you make any decisions, so as you can get your closure.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
i've been so upset because last friday my bf of 4 years hit me and pulled out lots of my hair so my scalp is hurting and I am bald in several places.

does anyone know whether it will ever grow back? it hurts so much i can't even sleep on the bald damaged patches.

i have bruises all over my body but i know they will go away but im so scared of losing my hair :'( I dont want to be permanentely damaged.

cant believe he loved me above everything else in his apology e-mail and that he regretted it. if you love someone you would never want to hurt them. he also called me nasty things :'(

i feel so sad about everything. what shall i do to get over him completely? i thought he was the love of my life but now i just want to feel indifferent about him.. please help me with any useful advice, thanks in advance
yes your hair will grow back but it will take time, get your hair cut to chin hight and hide bald patches as best as you can, a hairdresser would be of more help than I am depending of many things such as thickness of hair etc. etc. ( my sister has alepecia and she does this) sorry but i don't know haw to treat the pain tell me what type of pain and i might ( stinging/burning etc etc)

"apology e-mail" = WHAT THE HELL this guy gets drunk and beats the crap out of you and sends an e-mail, track him down and get some assurence, did anything happen in the 4 years or before that even, i understand him being scared to see you and all but still you deserve more than a few lines of text, get an answer or a SPOKEN apology at least!

hope this helps
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i can forgive a lot of things, but I CANNOT, repeat, CANNOT ever forgive anyone for messing with my hair. not only would I dump him, I'd report him to the police and sh1t on his porch.
LOL. I thought you were going to say, "messing with my face/hitting me", or something .

Girl hair. Srs biz.
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Retards the OP wasn't the one saying she can't forgive people for messing with her hair
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I’m very sorry to hear that you had to go through this. :console:
The hair will grow back - I once lost a patch of hair in my head due to alopecia and it soon grew back.
I can't believe someone would do that. It just makes me sick.
If I were in your situation I would hit him back really hard with something on the head. Let him know how it feels. The police are just a waste of time but you never know they might help. Definitely don't go back to him. People like that deserve to live a lonely life
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Second post of the OP made me think this is a complete troll.

'CANNOT forgive anyone for messing with my hair' over hitting her... wow
1) enigma posted that, not the OP

2) enigma was clearly being tongue-in-cheek

Seriously, I swear 90% of TSR members have aspergers and are incapable of not taking things literally.
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I apologise O-ren and the op, I usually do not read the name then the post - I just scanned through the posts first, thinking she did it. I should have been more careful. Blablaablaa, it isn't very nice to call people retards.
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1) Sounds like a troll

2) If it is real, don't be with people who drink alcohol, simple.
I downed a few beers last night but seemingly managed to resist the urge to commit assault.... :confused:
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can you go into more detail? I mean did he just out of the blue pull your hair and hit you, or was their an argument where you were drinking?

It's a tough one. If he's been nice for 4 years then...maybe talk in person about it, he might be afraid to see you hence emailing. However if this is how he is when drunk then...not a good sign for the future.

I know if I got drunk and psychically hurt my girlfriend I'd feel sick about it, hell I'd be so shocked I wouldn't even know what to do. I'd probably assume they'd want to leave me and I wouldn't blame them at all even if it had been years.

Things like this is why I don't drink much.
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(Original post by enigma373)
i can forgive a lot of things, but I CANNOT, repeat, CANNOT ever forgive anyone for messing with my hair. not only would I dump him, I'd report him to the police and sh1t on his porch.
:rofl:

So true as it might never grow back
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I downed a few beers last night but seemingly managed to resist the urge to commit assault.... :confused:
Not everyone is like you :p: .; But in general everyone who consumes alcohol, has a limit to where they start to lose their responsibility. After which they could do something which they would later regret when they snap out of it. The risk is far too great.
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i can forgive a lot of things, but I CANNOT, repeat, CANNOT ever forgive anyone for messing with my hair. not only would I dump him, I'd report him to the police and sh1t on his porch.
:lolwut: Why do girls like their hair so much? lol
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Well is it the first time this has happened in your relationship? And what happened before it?
It's definitely not right for him to be hitting you though- I don't think it's a good idea for you to be with someone who can be like that when they're drunk, even if it is just a one off. Four years is a long time and it will take time to get over him- just try spending time with friends or something, try to keep yourself busy so you're not thinking about it too much.
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Sorry to hear about this.
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Psychically eh? I've never gotten psychic powers as a side effect of alcohol. :confused:
hahaha...yes of course psychically! To be exact I meant me getting drunk and the old telekinesis getting abused, accidentally throw her across the room or something.
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i've been so upset because last friday my bf of 4 years hit me and pulled out lots of my hair so my scalp is hurting and I am bald in several places.

does anyone know whether it will ever grow back? it hurts so much i can't even sleep on the bald damaged patches.

i have bruises all over my body but i know they will go away but im so scared of losing my hair :'( I dont want to be permanentely damaged.

cant believe he loved me above everything else in his apology e-mail and that he regretted it. if you love someone you would never want to hurt them. he also called me nasty things :'(

i feel so sad about everything. what shall i do to get over him completely? i thought he was the love of my life but now i just want to feel indifferent about him.. please help me with any useful advice, thanks in advance

1) alcohol is never an excuse
2) an apology email? seriously? the least he could have done was come and see you in person
3) Yes, your hair will grow back. I can't say this will happen immediately but if you go to a health shop you can take supplements to make it grow quicker or oil your hair on a regular basis
4) there's no process in getting over someone. I hate to say it, but don't forget what he's done to you. Don't make excuses for him and don't try and justify it
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(Original post by R£SP£CT)
Not everyone is like you :p: .; But in general everyone who consumes alcohol, has a limit to where they start to lose their responsibility. After which they could do something which they would later regret when they snap out of it. The risk is far too great.
You're responsible for your own alcohol intake and if you act like a **** I will hold you responsible drunk or not (third person not first).

Stop pigeon holing like you did in your first post on the thread.
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