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    So here's the situation. I went out with a boy for over 2 years, and we broke up on fairly good terms (i thought). We have been broken up for three months at least, but he saw me out with another lad and he hit me, and threatened the guy. I had to go to hospital with really bad bruising and pain.

    Now i don't know what to do, as i see my ex everywhere. He goes to my college and lives very near me. I can't avoid him, so i need advice on what to do now. Should i sort it out with him or avoid him completely?
    Thanks for any help u can give
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    sort it out with him then you dont have to try and avoid him wherever you go. also you wont be scared to go anywhere with your new fella incase you see him. but if hes the violent type then make sure your not totally alone with him when you talk to him, you might need somebody there to look after you if it turns nasty.
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    Aaaawww hun, you didn't deserve that and he is bang out of order. :hugs:
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    (Original post by *angeleyes*)
    but he saw me out with another lad and he hit me, and threatened the guy.
    he hit you :eek: stuff him
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    (Original post by *angeleyes*)
    So here's the situation. I went out with a boy for over 2 years, and we broke up on fairly good terms (i thought). We have been broken up for three months at least, but he saw me out with another lad and he hit me, and threatened the guy. I had to go to hospital with really bad bruising and pain.

    Now i don't know what to do, as i see my ex everywhere. He goes to my college and lives very near me. I can't avoid him, so i need advice on what to do now. Should i sort it out with him or avoid him completely?
    Thanks for any help u can give
    Hit him back! With a shotgun shell.... :rolleyes:

    Sorry. No laughing matter. I'd recommend you try and talk to him, but as said take backup in case he does get violent again. You don't really want to live your life feeling threatened - talk to him and see if you can sort this out. Don't let it go on too long, or it could develop woth detrimental effects - which wouldn't be good. Anyway, just my advice...

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    restraining order obviously...
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    My advise will make things worse..
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    Talk to him. Say exactly what you want, straight to the point, and don't falter! (Even prep what you want to say..) I'm a great advocate of talking to ppl, but from my experience (although its never been violent), you must stick to your guns! You should feel better for it.

    And no, definitely dont stop going places with your new bf.. Theres no reason why you shouldnt enjoy yourself
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    he hit you :eek: stuff him
    Innit, have him done for assault!
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    A guy should never hit a girl, ignore him, don't talk or text him. Make him come to you and apoligise, make him feel bad about it.

    Hope you're ok.
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    I say calling the police sounds like a good idea - but failing that, blank him completely. I agree with Scooot. Hope you're alright now, you deserve better than that
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    You went to hospital because you got punched an had a bruise?

    Putting aside the pillaging of the NHS, phone him and ask him what his problem is. He's a stupid bugger.
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    He hit you - that's called assault. If I were you I would have called the police already. You do NOT have to take that kind of behaviour. If you'd prefer to sort things out with him, then have a word with him and advise him that if he acts like that again you won't hesitate in calling the police and having him arrested. It's none of his business who you're dating - you've split up and he has no right to lay a finger on either you or your boyfriend.
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    several options

    phone the police (best advice-let him crap himself when the police knock at his door, do this quickly. they are likely to take photos of your bruising etc, and you have a witness. they will follow it through and get the bugger.

    give us his address :secruity::damnmate:

    get a group of male friends to give him a reason to keep his distance away from you.

    The latter two are to be taken much less seriously. phone the police.
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    (Original post by LibertineNorth)
    You went to hospital because you got punched an had a bruise?

    Putting aside the pillaging of the NHS, phone him and ask him what his problem is. He's a stupid bugger.

    I went to hospital because the doc thought my collarbone was broken due to the extent of the bruising and swelling. It's the first time i've been to hospital since i was born so is it ok?
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    i don't want to call the police in case they tell me i'm wasting their time. His explaination is that he did it because he loves me, and doesn't want me to be with anyone else.
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    the police arent there to ridicule you, there to help and protect etc etc...
    and assult isnt something they are going to take lightly.. obviously you will have evidence from doctor reports... seems a bit stupid to let him get away with it
    and so what if thats his 'explaination' doesnt excuse his actions -.-
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    I also suggest calling the police. This guy's lost his mind and you need protection from him.
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    ive been in a similar position but the attack was more due to him being in a drunken rage which ended with me in hospital with broken ribs and bruises.

    i called the police and they do listen to you-thats what they are there to do!!!
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    QUOTE=*angeleyes*]So here's the situation. I went out with a boy for over 2 years, and we broke up on fairly good terms (i thought). We have been broken up for three months at least, but he saw me out with another lad and he hit me, and threatened the guy. I had to go to hospital with really bad bruising and pain.
    He hit you nasty cow :eek: . You really need to talk to him, but DON'T be alone when your doing it.
 
 
 
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