I feel low/a bit depressed

1

I feel so low recently and i have no idea why, i just feel so f-ed up.

Bascially it's the summer hols my exams are over (yay!) i should be enjoying myself but i'm not. I've stayed at home all week and felt worse and worse. I feel like everything i do is wrong, i get a book out from the library-turns out rubbish, get a film out-turns out rubbish. My parents are thinking of divorcing which is messing me up because at ever chance my mum gets she asks who i would live with if they divorced, and then tries to be extra nice to me to make me pick her. My parents think i'm a druggy alcoholic , so they tiptoe round me all the time. I've become a hermit, sitting at home depressed. All my upper-class friends are going out clubbing, and what they dont realise is that im not frikken rich and cant afford to spend £50 every night of the week. Instead of being sympathetic they exclude me even more, even when they know i could be going out with them. Even my best friend has completly ditched me, and thinks shes much "cooler" than me now, cos she goes clubbin gmore (wtf?). To be honest i'm a pretty girl and do get alot of male attention but guys don't seem to like me, and it seems like im never going to find a guy. I'v e stopped eating again so look kind of sick and ill looking. I feel sick to the pit of my stomache and i don't know why, every minute of the day i just want to break down and cry. Literally the high light of my day is going to sleep so i can just forget everything.

I know i sound like a complete ******, but everyone sees me as a happy smily confident person, and it feels like that persons gone. Please reply (i dont know what i expect,but somethings better then nothing)

Reply 1

Juno

20

Reply 2

glitterxsparkle

10

*hug* if you feel 'ditched' by your friends why don't you go out yourself and meet new people. You could always get a job that way you wouldn't have to stay at home and you will make money. I think you need to get out of the house (away from the parents). Have you got or know anybody that lives in another part of the country? Maybe you could go there for a break. I think you need time to find the happy you again!

Reply 3

Onearmedbandit

17

I'll be your friend :smile:

I feel a bit like you...

Reply 4

Scooot

Hey, I sent you a little PM. Keep your chin up. I'll make a proper reply later for you.

:hugs:

Reply 5

tishysquishy

10

~the_one~

I feel so low recently and i have no idea why, i just feel so f-ed up.

Bascially it's the summer hols my exams are over (yay!) i should be enjoying myself but i'm not. I've stayed at home all week and felt worse and worse. I feel like everything i do is wrong, i get a book out from the library-turns out rubbish, get a film out-turns out rubbish. My parents are thinking of divorcing which is messing me up because at ever chance my mum gets she asks who i would live with if they divorced, and then tries to be extra nice to me to make me pick her. My parents think i'm a druggy alcoholic , so they tiptoe round me all the time. I've become a hermit, sitting at home depressed. All my upper-class friends are going out clubbing, and what they dont realise is that im not frikken rich and cant afford to spend £50 every night of the week. Instead of being sympathetic they exclude me even more, even when they know i could be going out with them. Even my best friend has completly ditched me, and thinks shes much "cooler" than me now, cos she goes clubbin gmore (wtf?). To be honest i'm a pretty girl and do get alot of male attention but guys don't seem to like me, and it seems like im never going to find a guy. I'v e stopped eating again so look kind of sick and ill looking. I feel sick to the pit of my stomache and i don't know why, every minute of the day i just want to break down and cry. Literally the high light of my day is going to sleep so i can just forget everything.

I know i sound like a complete ******, but everyone sees me as a happy smily confident person, and it feels like that persons gone. Please reply (i dont know what i expect,but somethings better then nothing)

*huggy* It sounds like you are having a really tough time so you have every right to feel down. Try not to let the little things get to you though (like the video etc). You can get yourself out of this. Try sitting your parents down and telling them how you feel; it doesnt seem as if they have even spoken to you properly about them divorcing. Once you feel that your feelings and opinions are more valued, things will perk up a bit :smile:

. Carla18 has some good ideas, so just try and get out there and get to know some decent people! From what you say is your normal self, you'll make friends in no time :biggrin:

Reply 6

Gexko

2

I know how you feel a bit, have been sitting around at home since coming back from travelling a couple of months ago (am on gap year) but cant really get myself motivated to do anything. None of my friends live near me and most of them are in foreign countries on wonderful travels neway. All seems a bit ****.

But actually if you think about it you might find u've not been abandonded by all ur friends, you might just be overlooking some cos ur so preoccupied by the others (my problem). if u still feel lonely then maybe get a part time job somewhere so u can meet new people and get a bit of cash coming in.

perhaps if you're honest with some of your friends about not being able to afford to go clubbing you could get them to come and see you instead and have some fun without spending so much cash.

sorry i'm trying to think of stuff but i dont know what you've tried so hope i'm not just repeating stuff you've already tried.

maybe try joining a sports club or a gym or something? i find a bit of regular exercise helps keep me in a good mood. part time job is good idea tho too :smile:

even if life seems **** now, it will get better, you'll be fine, we've all felt a bit like that sometimes.

hope this helps :hugs:

Reply 7

~the_one~

OP

1

hug* if you feel 'ditched' by your friends why don't you go out yourself and meet new people. You could always get a job that way you wouldn't have to stay at home and you will make money. I think you need to get out of the house (away from the parents). Have you got or know anybody that lives in another part of the country? Maybe you could go there for a break. I think you need time to find the happy you again!

I can't really meet new people from a cold start, if you get what i mean. And literally all my friends have ditched me so i cant even be introduced to new people. And i did try to get a job but that fell through (they wanted CV's what the hell am i ment to write:1988-born 2005-still alive?!). I've only got my sister to go and visit and i will next week for a weekend but to be honest i'm not very close to her.

it doesnt seem as if they have even spoken to you properly about them divorcing

completely true, but they lead hectic city lives so i only really see my parents a few hours in the evening. The thing is even if they did talk it through with me, no matter how well they but it across it's going to mess me up. Arghhhhh i dunno

Reply 8

tishysquishy

10

completely true, but they lead hectic city lives so i only really see my parents a few hours in the evening. The thing is even if they did talk it through with me, no matter how well they but it across it's going to mess me up. Arghhhhh i dunno

If I was in that sort of situation, i would try and talk it over with them. I would be dead scared about doing it just in case it sparks off a fight and tears etc., but its most likely that they will want you to feel safe and loved, and so won't shout at you/make you feel as if you dont have a say. If you prepare what you want to say to them; then you will feel less frustrated and flustered when you do indeed talk to them, and it ensures you get all your points across, and it would just be easier :smile:

(i love this smiley).

Reply 9

aleathiel

16

i know what its like to feel down and heck with a parent who's just been diagnosed with cancer i have plenty of reasons to feel down but im trying as hard as i can not to by spending time away from my family.. i know it sounds strange but spending a bit of time out of the house with my friends helps take my mind off it..
try calling your friends to go out, if they dont want to then move on and try to find some other friends.. although this is easier said than done but if you're on your summer hols now maybe sign up to do an activity of some sort? it'll get you out of the house and you'll meet new people too!
good luck :smile:

Reply 10

Gexko

2

if u havent got much to put on your cv i wouldnt worry too mcuh just put down what you've got and see what happens. i mean u've been to school havent you?

ummmmm, its not like u need qualifications for most of the sort of jobs people take before uni age neway. :smile:

Reply 11

JoeCool_Lemming

I really understand what you're saying in your first post. Been there. Many times. I'm really sorry to hear it, and I hope things change for you. PM if you ever want to make a new friend, or add me to MSN :hugs:

Reply 12

saz_1989

2

*Offers supersize chocolate bar*

Go outside and enjoy the sunshine, it'll make you feel better. Do some exercise cos that releases happy hormones. Don't worry about your friends, you can always make new ones, and if they think badly of you for not going clubbing, you should definitely make some new ones! You could go clubbing but offer to drive perhaps? Then they'll buy you non-alcoholic drinks all night. Keep your chin up, this will pass I promise.

Reply 13

habosh

13

I agree on exercise dont do it at home you know what go to a gym,you feel more willing to exercise.plus maybe they don't mean to,I've got one of my friend that I adore honestlybut sometimes I foget to tell her to come or something,someytimes my friends do that an I feel I was betrayed but it's nothing it's just that they didn't think of you at the time were in rush stuff like that,just go like why didn't you tell me you stupid idiots I'm just a freak because i'm your friend you dumb piece of **** and believe me next time they go out they might remember you :p:

and try to cheer up if your parents want to get a divorce then you might feel better because that means they are not happy with each other,if they didn't get it they will fight more and you'll feel alot more worse,plus when they are separated they might just treat you extra nice each so that you wont love the other more and so you'll get whatever you want :biggrin:

(try to think positive)

Reply 14

durhamlad1

9

can see how you are, so far my holidays have been a non event, sorted my new job and i'm been paid but i've had no time to do anything yet, wait to see how the next few weeks are find something to do to pass time.

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