Why do I get jealous whenever my bf goes out

Whenever my bf goes out his mates (all boys) I find myself getting…like jealous. I start thinking there prob slagging me off, or convincing him to dump me. Anyone ever felt the same? if so, how did you get over this problem?

Many thanks

Reply 1

pikaboo

13

Just natural insecurity? You've got to think that you're allowed to have fun without him and so is he. If you trust him then you've got nothing to worry about - a bit of laddish banter won't change anything.

Reply 2

j'adore

yeah i had that the first time i went out with my boyfriend, sign of paranoia, but really common at the first stage of relationships

takes time to get over this problem as u'll soon learn to trust him as ur relationship develops don't worry about it, it's common :smile:

what i use to do was just talk to my friends or listened to music to keep my mind off what he was doing etc..

Reply 3

musicbloke

17

one of two possibilities,

a) You really like him but don't trust him - may result in him being untrustworthy in the past or you having bad experiences with blokes

b) You're being self-obsessed

MB

Reply 4

clairey87

1

Well I feel a little pang of jealousy when my bf does....which is hardly ever!....but I am mates with his mates and I know that they are lovely guys. You've got to let him go out, he needs, as my bf puts it, "man-chums" to do man things with. I wouldn't want to go and play snooker with him, just like he wouldn't want to come on a proper girly shop with me! I think it's pretty normal though to feel a little jealous. x x xx

Reply 5

saz_1989

2

I'm only like that now my bf is on hol, although I do think I want to dump him. I was friends with one of my bf's friends first, and then I already knew some of his other friends from lectures and formals. So I just got to know his friends. I also have loads and loads of friends, so I'm never stuck for someone to go out with. My best advice is to put your friends first, because they'll last a lot longer than your bf.

Reply 6

jd27

Lauren

I'm only like that now my bf is on hol, although I do think I want to dump him. I was friends with one of my bf's friends first, and then I already knew some of his other friends from lectures and formals. So I just got to know his friends. I also have loads and loads of friends, so I'm never stuck for someone to go out with. My best advice is to put your friends first, because they'll last a lot longer than your bf.

^^^ well said! A few of my friends got out of serious relationships recently - most of them badly - and began to really regret the way they'd ignored their friends. It's easy to do, but make sure you don't forget about your friends, as they'll be the ones who are there for you if something goes wrong!

Reply 7

Scooot

I'm still jealous of my ex, everytime she goes out, and that really upsets me still.

God damn. :frown:

Reply 8

Chickadee

Hayley_2k4

Whenever my bf goes out his mates (all boys) I find myself getting…like jealous. I start thinking there prob slagging me off, or convincing him to dump me. Anyone ever felt the same? if so, how did you get over this problem?

Many thanks

I get that aswell :frown:

I feel insecure, paranoid and jelous whenever he sees people that arent me. And its pretty irrational but I cant help it :frown:

Reply 9

Hayley_2k4

OP

12

^ you sumed it up 100%

Reply 10

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Hayley_2k4

Whenever my bf goes out his mates (all boys) I find myself getting…like jealous. I start thinking there prob slagging me off, or convincing him to dump me. Anyone ever felt the same? if so, how did you get over this problem?

Many thanks

yeah i did a couple of times but you have to get used to it..... sure a fella i used to go out with i never brought him anywhere with me out (same with all my friends and their boyfriends....girls nights out only!).....(only on rare occasions when it was just me and him) and he got extremely jealous, so i just spent more time with him when i have caught on he was getting jealous just ask from your boyfriend maybe once a week just you and him :smile:

xoxo

oh and edit: im sure hes talkin about how great a girlfriend you are :biggrin:

if he was talking about you behind your back im sure you would have heard it by now.... :smile:

xoxo

Reply 11

Asian cutie

1

lol i soo get this too. i dont know why thou, with me its not jealousy (well...) i guess i just feel left out, but he goes out a lot without me so i guess ive got used to the feelin but it hasnt got easier. i do ask him to txt me, and i trust him with my life i just dont trust other girls

Reply 12

Logan

4

I really had a good experience towards this back with my first girlfriend. Too insecure. Everytime she leaves school or house without me knowing or i know that she's with another guy, i feel jealous and insecure. Thinking about the fun that she could experiencing and me not being there... pretty stupid really. Until i realized it was normal (one of me mates told me)

Reply 13

jen1987

u probably dont trust him even tho u may think that you do.. i think you just have to learn to trust him, if hes going to get with anyother girl or slag u off then hes a looser but nothing you say can stop him doing it because some people are just born to$$3rs

Reply 14

E12_MAT

my girlfriend has been like this for about 18 months but u get used to it and supportive texts when ur out to her really helps.

i spent so much time with one mate she asked him if he was gay with me! :eek:

Reply 15

grace

15

i get jealous when my bf goes out with his mates...probably because i've been in the situation where im the only girl with him and 'the lads' and even his mates who have gfs spend the whole time drooling over other girls.

my bf had the tact not to do it in front of me but i just know that when i'm not there he does. I don't think he'd do anything but i hate the fact that this world is just full of pretty girls in tiny clothing (it doesn't matter that i wear next to nothing when i go out, only when other girls do it! lol)

Reply 16

lady

E12_MAT

my girlfriend has been like this for about 18 months but u get used to it and supportive texts when ur out to her really helps.

What a lovely boyfriend! Why arnt all lads like this!

I used to get jelous when my boyfriend went out with all of his mates and think that they would try to make him cheat on me and stuff, but it was completly irational, now i know his friends i think it makes it easier.
I still get pangs of jelousy sometimes but i think thats only normal. I know my boyf would never cheat on me, he's just not that kind of person so i really have nothing to worry about.

Hope it gets easier for you, it will with time, you have to remember your boyf has chosen you! If he wanted to be with anyone else he would be.
xxxx

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