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    (Original post by ~nat~)
    hey all, this will seem like such an unimportant thing to most people, but id really appreciate people's thoughts

    I've been invited to a house party by someone in my year on Thursday night. She's invited a few people from my year, but mostly form out of school, and its a joint birthday party with someone who used to go to my school (who i don't actually know very well!). Now, the girl who has invited me is very academic, but unfortunately knows she is and is quite boastful and has irritated people so much that she's not friends with many in the year, even those which she has invited.

    Now, i'm very shy, and found out today that the only people i'll know at this huge party, the other people invited in my year, have said to her that they are going, but are all planning to text her at the last minute to say they can't make it. I would go, but i will literally only know one other person who is going, and since its a joint party, a lot of people will be going, getting really drunk, etc, which isnt really my thing. I don't know whether to do the right thing and go, but most likely not have a great time, or to say last minute i cant go - but feel very guilty as i like to think im a nice person - and have let her down (shes the type of person to hold grudges!). Rather stupidly, i stopped her today to ask her address (shes moved house), so that implies that im intending to go.

    What should i do? :confused:
    Pull the classic. Ring 999 then put the phone down.
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    (Original post by ~nat~)
    hey all, this will seem like such an unimportant thing to most people, but id really appreciate people's thoughts

    I've been invited to a house party by someone in my year on Thursday night. She's invited a few people from my year, but mostly form out of school, and its a joint birthday party with someone who used to go to my school (who i don't actually know very well!). Now, the girl who has invited me is very academic, but unfortunately knows she is and is quite boastful and has irritated people so much that she's not friends with many in the year, even those which she has invited.

    Now, i'm very shy, and found out today that the only people i'll know at this huge party, the other people invited in my year, have said to her that they are going, but are all planning to text her at the last minute to say they can't make it. I would go, but i will literally only know one other person who is going, and since its a joint party, a lot of people will be going, getting really drunk, etc, which isnt really my thing. I don't know whether to do the right thing and go, but most likely not have a great time, or to say last minute i cant go - but feel very guilty as i like to think im a nice person - and have let her down (shes the type of person to hold grudges!). Rather stupidly, i stopped her today to ask her address (shes moved house), so that implies that im intending to go.

    What should i do? :confused:
    Why don't you go and enjoy meeting lots of new people? it's nice to make friends!
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    (Original post by allisandro)
    Why don't you go and enjoy meeting lots of new people? it's nice to make friends!
    Exactly. How boring would it be to go everywhere knowing everyone!
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    (Original post by J.F.N)
    You need to find a way to get around your inhibitions without alcohol. Here's what you do:

    The next time there's a party, go naked. Thats right--go to the party bare-ass. You'll feel liberated and you'll easily overcome any inhibitions you'll have from then on. Guaranteed. And, I also guarantee ya that everyone at that party is gonna notice you, and remember you. You'll be the hit of the next party even if you don't go naked.

    That is all.
    haaaa
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    thanks for everyone's suggestions - still not quite sure what to do, but if i go, i'll let you know how it goes....
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    I seem to know nothing about everything, so take this with a big pinch of salt.

    If your shy like you say and find it hard to talk to people you dont know, then this party is not going to be fun for you, other people may say it will be, but they are different to you and so will find different situations more appealing. I think you will end up standing around all night getting bored, and feeling more and more like you shouldnt have gone, especially as people get more and more drunk and intimidating.

    On the other hand, you are a decent person (so u seem) and would feel bad knowing that girl is upset because no one turned up to her party, for this reason you feel you should go. As others have suggested I reckon you should tell her that you have to go at 10 or what ever time you consider to be early and say you have a prior engagement. Say it was a cool party and leave. If the party was a laugh and ur having a good time, you could perhaps grab a few peeps numbers keep in touch and then hopefully you'll be invited to other similar parties in the future.

    NETWORKING <---- tis all about that. Oh and having fun. PEACE#
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    My advice is, if you are shy, than go and stay around the people you know. That way they might introduce you to new people, and you can have a good time. If you are worried about the drinking thing, lay off it so you keep your head, and if anyone gets drunk, clear off.

    The thing is that you need to decide if you feel up to it or not. It is highly unlikely that you will be left out, after all, it's a party, and people socialise. An idea is to stay in the corner, and if someone asks you to join them in a dance or whatever, say yes.

    And most of all, don't go with a cloud hanging over your head. Then people will blank you. Smile, laugh, and then others will too.
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    I've just thought of another thing!! (Yes, I'm back!).....you're female, which means that you'll get attention off pretty much all the single guys (and maybe some of the non-single guys :rolleyes: )....so whatever happens, you won't be stuck all alone because you're a girl and will get attention.

    It's worse for shy guys, cos girls never approach guys since they like "guys with confidence" :rolleyes:

    If you're incredibly attractive that's a bonus too and you'll have nothing to worry about
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    Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm generally shy at parties, and I still get loads of offers to dance. A couple of times I was asked to go upstairs lol. I mean, I was reading a book and I still get asked. Thats just wierd. I guess I'm better looking than I thought.

    My point is that even if you are shy, people may still notice you, so don't worry.
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    Well it also depends on what kind of parties you go to - whether they're full of sluts or actual decent people :p:
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    (Original post by Euge)
    I guess I'm better looking than I thought.
    Lol.

    My point is that even if you are shy, people may still notice you, so don't worry
    Good point.
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    Thanks.

    And if the party is full of sluts, don't get drawn in. The last thing you want to leave the party with is a pregnancy.
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    No fear of that. ~Nat~ sounds like a good girl to me.
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    sanelunatic - you got both options exactly right there!

    euge - hopefully if i did go, there will be at leat one other shy-type person there. And i agree about the 'cloud-over-your-head' scenario - if i look miserable, i'll be miserable!

    dobbs - you're back!!! yes, that single girl + room full of guys thing just may be true. But whether it'll be full of 'decent people' or 'sluts' is something i dont know yet, because i dont know the people going!

    play_the_world - thanks i like to think im a 'good girl'...well, in comparison to most of the girls in my year. but is being a 'good girl' a compliment, or a subtle phrase for being a boring girl!
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    (Original post by play_the_world)
    No fear of that. ~Nat~ sounds like a good girl to me.
    Don't judge a book by it's cover :p: For all we know, she's 16 years old and already got 4 kids from 7 different fathers (some of them are unsure exactly who is their father)

    But then, I'm guessing that's not the situation lol
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    I sure hope not. That would mean she'd first conciever when around 13 at least. Brrr . . .
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    (Original post by ~nat~)
    hey all, this will seem like such an unimportant thing to most people, but id really appreciate people's thoughts

    I've been invited to a house party by someone in my year on Thursday night. She's invited a few people from my year, but mostly form out of school, and its a joint birthday party with someone who used to go to my school (who i don't actually know very well!). Now, the girl who has invited me is very academic, but unfortunately knows she is and is quite boastful and has irritated people so much that she's not friends with many in the year, even those which she has invited.

    Now, i'm very shy, and found out today that the only people i'll know at this huge party, the other people invited in my year, have said to her that they are going, but are all planning to text her at the last minute to say they can't make it. I would go, but i will literally only know one other person who is going, and since its a joint party, a lot of people will be going, getting really drunk, etc, which isnt really my thing. I don't know whether to do the right thing and go, but most likely not have a great time, or to say last minute i cant go - but feel very guilty as i like to think im a nice person - and have let her down (shes the type of person to hold grudges!). Rather stupidly, i stopped her today to ask her address (shes moved house), so that implies that im intending to go.

    What should i do? :confused:
    if ya really think ya wont have a good time or wont be confortable....then dont go ya dont want a s****y night just because of stuck up people - do what you feel and good luck xoxo
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    (Original post by ~nat~)
    play_the_world - thanks i like to think im a 'good girl'...well, in comparison to most of the girls in my year. but is being a 'good girl' a compliment, or a subtle phrase for being a boring girl!
    It was a compliment. I don't know whether you're boring or not; it is of no consequence really. But I do realise now that you are a girl who knows what she likes, which is an admirable thing! Now...follow your heart!
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    (Original post by dobbs)
    Don't judge a book by it's cover :p: For all we know, she's 16 years old and already got 4 kids from 7 different fathers (some of them are unsure exactly who is their father)

    But then, I'm guessing that's not the situation lol
    oh great, you've found me out.... and you are one of the fathers! :eek:

    tammy_girl - thanks, i will go with my instinct, me thinks

    play_the_world - thanks for your compliment, and i will follow my heart!
    :flybye: <----- following my heart!!
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    (Original post by ~nat~)

    tammy_girl - thanks, i will go with my instinct, me thinks
    n/p ~nat~ and good luck hunny ^_^ xoxo
 
 
 
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