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Guys: Honestly, would you ever...

...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ? :frown:

Opinions, anyone? :confused:

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Reply 1
Depends how long before we got married I guess :wink:
Reply 2
so when do you want to get married?
i know a few guys actually who decided that they didn't want to have sex before marriage and one is my best friend.....however most guys aren't like that but take you're time and you'll find someone very special ! good luck!
Reply 4
IZZY!
so when do you want to get married?


In around 2015. :biggrin:
Reply 5
I would. But does fingering etc count as sex? (No actual stick-in-hole sex)

Even if that weren't allowed I still could if the girl was so special and warranted such sacrifice.
Reply 6
Amanda
In around 2015. :biggrin:

well. it is a very big commitment to do - no sex for 10 years more :eek: :eek:. you are very good looking and i m sure u ll find someone who will understand u.
Reply 7
Personally, i dont think that i would be able to be in a relationship with someone with those view for too long, unless i felt v.serious about her, but thats just me!
Im sure there are lots of men who would be willing to wait. A mate of mine thinks exactly like you...i know for cert that hes had opportunities to loose his v, but he actually wont budge on his views! :smile:
Reply 8
Amanda
...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ? :frown:

Opinions, anyone? :confused:


If she was truly worth it, I think I could but then again, it's easy to say that when you're not confronted to the situation and the urges...

and would you say no to any sexual activity? Because if you don't, what exactly is the point? I know girls who have said no to sex before marriage but acted quite promiscuously for other things.
Reply 9
Amanda
...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ? :frown:

Opinions, anyone? :confused:

Never, atleast for me sex is a part of a relationship, no reason two people caring for eachother shouldn't enjoy themselves, sharing a wonderful experience. ^^
Reply 10
yes. well probably. :smile:
Reply 11
IZZY!
well. it is a very big commitment to do - no sex for 10 years more :eek: :eek:. you are very good looking and i m sure u ll find someone who will understand u.


hehehe I'm not in a relationship now, my question was just like in general, even though I'm deff. too young to get married now, I'm talking about a few years down the road.. :smile:
Reply 12
yes I would.
Reply 13
Amanda
...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ? :frown:

Opinions, anyone? :confused:


i would because i'm different...i personally feel that similarity of personality is bigger factor in a relationship than sex, and i can wait a few more years yet to find the perfect girl:cool: - sex is not everything guys:eek: - for shame:mad: - i'd prefer a nice intellectual conversation on a topic of my interest with someone of similar hobbies etc, over sex anyday:cool:
Reply 14
Amanda
hehehe I'm not in a relationship now, my question was just like in general, even though I'm deff. too young to get married now, I'm talking about a few years down the road.. :smile:

but still. you ve got loads of years to wait.
Reply 15
Amanda
hehehe I'm not in a relationship now, my question was just like in general, even though I'm deff. too young to get married now, I'm talking about a few years down the road.. :smile:


americans plan early then, lol...brits leave it till thier 30's
Phil23
i would because i'm different...i personally feel that similarity of personality is bigger factor in a relationship than sex, and i can wait a few more years yet to find the perfect girl:cool: - sex is not everything guys:eek: - for shame:mad: - i'd prefer a nice intellectual conversation on a topic of my interest with someone of similar hobbies etc, over sex anyday:cool:


:dito:. Probably why I'm 17 and have never ever had a girlfriend.... :frown:

-Saruman
Reply 17
yea sure why not... i wouldnt make a huge effort to make the relationship special etc since its unlikely how far the relationship will go?
mmm dont see the big fuss..
Reply 18
Phil23
americans plan early then, lol...brits leave it till thier 30's


I'm more of a mid-twenties person myself. :smile: If I waited until my 30's, and if my husband & I wanted children, I don't want to be like mid-thirties and not be able to concieve. Adoption is fine but I'd much rather try to have my own first.
sorry forgot to ask.....does your future husband have to be a virgin too.....??? that might decrease numbers slightly.......