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    (Original post by technik)
    we british lads arent all dirty sluts only interested in bagging a girl although many are like that.
    :rofl: nice!!
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    (Original post by Amanda)
    :rofl: nice!!
    indeed.

    i often wonder about the wisdom of the name "United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland"
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    (Original post by technik)
    indeed.

    i often wonder about the wisdom of the name "United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland"
    Interesting.
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    how about your ex that you had your first with??? did he leave you for some stupid reason?? wellp, some guys understand a woman, sometimes they even give a man what they want just to stick to em (same goes for men) and yeah, we do look back and say... i was a bit wrong
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    (Original post by technik)
    indeed.

    i often wonder about the wisdom of the name "United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland"
    The wisdom is that without ‘Great’ it would be confused with Brittany, great meaning ‘big’ and the suffix ‘-y’ of Brittany meaning ‘little’. In French, ‘Grande Bretagne’ and ‘Bretagne’.

    As for a girl who would want to remain a virgin until marriage, I would be in two minds. On the one hand it could perhaps give more ‘worth’ to being married. However, I would probably feel that withholding sex till after marriage would mean artificially keeping the girl I love and myself artificially apart from one another, without any real reason. I would only have sex with a girl whom I was in a good relationship with, who I loved, but that does not mean postponing being close with her for the sake of a holiness that I have no belief in.
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    I love sex, I have one night stands, and I'm known to be a walking *cough*. But....

    I wouldn't actually care. It wouldn't even make a difference if I thought she was "special", I'd treat the relationship exactly the same as any other. The fact that I'm want a relationship with them instead of a no strings arrangement shows that they're special anyway. Sex just would not play a part for me I'm afraid. I'm sure there are other people who agree with me on this, and that sex isn't an important factor in a relationship? I guess it'd be hard if NO physical contact was allowed, but I'd almost certainly not mind the lack of any sexual contact.

    I suppose in a way I'm being a hypocrite, as I wouldn't want to be in a sexually open , yet at the same time, "emotional" relationship. So that must mean I *do* think sex is very important, in terms if trust at least. Or is this just a view that society has imprinted onto me? So if anyone can argue for or against me through that point, I'd love to hear it because it absolutely does my head in!!! And apologies to the thread starter if this part has gone off topic, send a PM our way and I'll delete it.

    So to round up...no sex? No problem.
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    I wouldn't have a problem with it and I know a number of guys who would agree.

    It would make it easier if manual and oral was allowed but if not I could probably do it if the girl was special enough
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    if the girls means the world to you and is one of the most important things to you then its not really an issue is it!
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    In my opinion, any man who could knowingly keep himself off sex until marriage is worth it because of the willpower he posseses. I don't have a problem, I'm 14 and never had sex, never even been in a position to have sex (alone, bedroom etc.). I just feel that if sex is the only thing keeping your relationship together, you should try and become porn stars.

    Bottom line? Sex without love is meaningless.
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    i'm not having sex before marriage, it doesnt bother me if my future had sex before we got married with someone else, but she aint having it with me till we get married
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    I couldn't do it! Sex is a lovely thing which I share with my BF who I love a lot. And even sex with a stranger can be just a bit of fun if you are careful and don't get attached.

    I can see how if you were a virgin you could manage tho - until I lost mine, I didn't really feel interested in sex. But as soon as I did - well it turned me into a sex obsessed crazy lady :rolleyes: I love it.

    Perhaps one day when you are in a serious relationship, you will feel that the time is right whether you are married or not. After all, marriage is just a signature on a bit of paper!!!
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    (Original post by mtbab)
    i'm not having sex before marriage, it doesnt bother me if my future had sex before we got married with someone else, but she aint having it with me till we get married
    we ahve a match on the threa, mtbab + amanda....


    i'm only kidding, It's suprising to hear of a bloke with this vieew, y do you want to wait? xx
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    (Original post by Amanda)
    ...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ?

    Opinions, anyone? :confused:
    i could live with that - anyone who loves you enough to marry you should respect your wishes
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    (Original post by mtbab)
    i'm not having sex before marriage, it doesnt bother me if my future had sex before we got married with someone else, but she aint having it with me till we get married
    do u masturbate?if u do, u ve lost ur virginity already.lol
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    (Original post by Amanda)
    ...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ?

    Opinions, anyone? :confused:
    Honey I am in exactly the same boat-I am a Christian and I personally do not believe in sex before marriage and its really tough because most guys do expect sex even after a period of time and it is really tempting but you just have to stick by you rguns because you know that when you do finally get married it will be with the one who loves you truly for who you are and sex is not essential but a way oof expressing how much he loves you.
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    i can't understand why people want to wait, you think after your married your first time will be special and magical. but everyone knows everyones first time is crap. if you wait your missing out on vaulable practice, practice needed so that when you do find the one you reallllllly love you can be super good. no one likes a bumbelling idiot between the sheets heheh you got to try before you buy, it'd be a nightmare if i ended up marrying mr. crapshag!!! my opinions biased anyway, i'm a nymph.
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    But the point that the people who wait are trying to make is that if you wait, it will be much more special, and therefore psychologically feel a lot better.

    I've often found that the people who said their first time was rubbish were the ones that took the first opportunity that came to them, and realised that their right hand was much better.

    On the other hand (no pun intended), those who did wait for the right person thought it felt really good. People seem to say that there's a very large overlap between the psychological and the physical when it comes to sex. Great sex could be between just two very proficient people, or two people who love each other.
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    (Original post by Amanda)
    ...date a girl who wanted to remain a virgin until marriage?? Because it seems to me like not many do, and they either (1) don't want to date me anymore after finding out or (2) pretend to be okay with it, in hopes that they will be the one to somehow "change" the way I think and get me to give in... Maybe I'm just looking for some type of guy that doesn't exist... ?

    Opinions, anyone? :confused:
    I wouldn't not be with a girl just because she didn't want to have sex until marriage. If you fall for someone and you love them, how can you not respect the way they feel??
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    I probably hold a view which could be seen as quite similar to the threadstarter's, but mine are not for religious reasons: I believe such acts are too intimate and special to be seen as something all couples would do casually. I'd wait a long time and have to be very serious with my bf before I did anything.
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    But sex is something so enjoyable, its the closest (physically) you can ever get to someone. If you meet at eighteen and don't want to have sex until marriage, say 10 years down the line, thats a long time to go without sex, if your boyfriend has had it before.

    Saying that, i understand that their feelings should be respected, but with sex comes a whole new bond. You have experienced something amazing together. For me and my boyfriend, i waited 6 months before we slept together, and when we did, it just proved to me that he was the one. But i don't need marriage to define that!

    What if you wait to marry someone, who isn't right for you in the end, sleep together and never realise that the ex you broke up with because of sex was the one who would make you happiest.

    There's just so many ways to look at the problem; i think sex matures you in a way. I don't mean that all the 15 year olds going out sleeping with 5 men every week are mature, but when you have reached that stage in a relationship, something just *happens* you change in a way. I did. I no longer looked at sex as a taboo subject, nor did i find it as funny as i did before i had it. It kind of made me grow up a bit.

    Does anyone understand what i mean?
 
 
 
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