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    hi, i know this sounds a bit lame, but i'm quite scared about going away to university and coping on my own etc. as i've never really been away from home for longer than a few weeks at a time and that if i i.e. got ill no one would really notice if i casually died in my room. i know this sounds ludicrous, but does anyone feel the same way or have advice to offer?
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    Which uni are you going to?
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    its natural to be worried about huge changes...
    i bet everyone has 2nd thoughts about it ._. but yea think of it as an adventure

    and if no one else finds you, the cleaners will
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    i know what you mean, its all been a good idea and now its like "i have to live with strangers" and its scarying me! I'm reading lots to avoid thinking about it, lol
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    Uni is great! Best days of your life. If you're worried about being ill, your bedder will come in every day; even if you leave your bin outside the door, every three days. Plus you'll have to go to supervisions and see your friends and sports/music practice so you'd be missed if you were ill!
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    Don't worry - university is the best experience of your life for most people - you've chosen a University because it offers you what you want in terms of what it's like, what subjects it's good at, the location, etc etc etc. - so immediately you've got something in common with the unknown people you'll be living with! Conversation starter in Freshers Week: "So why did you decide to come to (insert name of university)?"

    For example, I'm at Durham and in my college (Trevs, obviously the best!) EVERYONE has a good group of friends, from the really quiet guys who do Computer Science and all hang around playing computer games and don't really drink or go to social activities, through the really sporty types who are always in the gym, the "popular" ones who must be on every college photograph and run for every single student position, and so on! You're guaranteed to find people that you'll get on with!

    I've just finished my first year, and some of the friends I've made I KNOW will be people I'll know for the rest of my life (And some will probably be major parts of my life - i.e. Best Man, housemates, maybe wife lol).

    Anyway, it's summer - relax! Have fun!! Nothing to worry about right now!
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    (Original post by Lauren)
    If you're worried about being ill, your bedder will come in every day; even if you leave your bin outside the door, every three days. Plus you'll have to go to supervisions and see your friends and sports/music practice so you'd be missed if you were ill!

    Assuming you go to Cambridge, of course.
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    (Original post by Lirael Abhorsen)
    hi, i know this sounds a bit lame, but i'm quite scared about going away to university and coping on my own etc. as i've never really been away from home for longer than a few weeks at a time and that if i i.e. got ill no one would really notice if i casually died in my room. i know this sounds ludicrous, but does anyone feel the same way or have advice to offer?
    I wouldn't worry too much. I'd never been away from home much at all and I was a bit of a loner at school and I've managed a whole year without having a nervous breakdown. And while gaining friends. Now that you mention it, it is quite scary.

    You'll probably have too much to do. If you're worried about not making friends or something, use the new-ness of university to encourage you to do something new like archery or juggling (or rowing if you're into things like that).

    Also, strangers are often surprisingly nice.
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    i'm going to nottingham university, and its hopefully not going to be too bad as my sister and her best friend go there so they'll probably keep a look out for me for months and months i haven't thought about it, i think my conscience has been repressing it but now i am a little nervous thanks for advice though, i'm sure i'll get over it.
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    I know wot u mean. It is quite a scary thought, but at the same time it'll open a new, exciting chapter in life!! (least i hope so..)

    We'll have an awesome time, so keep smilin

    The thing to remember in this case is that if u feel ill, dont go to your room, just go lay in the middle of a corridor or somethin. Then ppl WOULD know (again, i hope!) if u were to casually die! :p:
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    ow my god..dont worry mate. theres gotta be likeminded peeps, unless youre really really really odd and have lived in a cave until now...dont worry about it.youll be fine...
    ive ben looking forward to uni for sooo long...i moved to doncaster in 2002...went to the worst scholl in the town (didnt know it was that bad) full of chavtastic peeps. having a gap year now still semi-bored, as most of my mateys live in leeds and I darent even wanna meet any one from the 6th form where out of 120 year 13s 10-15 actually went to uni.....im that bored im even doing a friggin countdown...68days 18hours and 55mins left..exactly...i just cant wait...off to turkey for a good 6 weeks then its uni..althugh we've a maths exam on the 3rd day of uni..why would they do that during the freshers week :confused: tits..
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    Everybody feels this, especially if you're close with your family etc. The truth is, that yes the first few weeks of university are hard, but once you get those out the way, you've made friends and you're about to have the best time of your life. I've just finished my second year of university and I've made some great friends. Every day just gets better and better, I assure you.
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    (Original post by svidrigailov)
    Assuming you go to Cambridge, of course.
    Or Oxford, or Durham, plus any university halls of residence usually will have cleaners who will at least do the landing/corridor and living room - and people living on your landing/corridor would almost certainly knock on your door once in a while, especially if they hadn't seen you in a few days!

    Also, on the topic of supervisions - the vast majority of topics will have some sort of tutorials now and then which will be compulsory, and if you don't go to them someone will have to get in touch with you.

    So it's not just Cambridge where they seem to look after you :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Lirael Abhorsen)
    i.e. got ill no one would really notice if i casually died in my room.
    i'm sure the smell of rotting carcass would alert someone eventually

    you'd have to try incredibly hard in order to cut yourself off like that. uni seems like a wholesome, friendly and inviting place on open days at least...
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    [QUOTE]i'm sure the smell of rotting carcass would alert someone eventually

    LOL this amused me hopefully they'll give me a good funeral if nothing else
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    just sit in the bar and chat to people.

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    (Original post by dobbs)
    Or Oxford, or Durham, plus any university halls of residence usually will have cleaners who will at least do the landing/corridor and living room - and people living on your landing/corridor would almost certainly knock on your door once in a while, especially if they hadn't seen you in a few days!

    I meant, of course, that bedders and supervisions were specifically Cantabrigian institutions. Oxford has scouts and tutorials.

    So it's not just Cambridge where they seem to look after you :rolleyes:
    I do not think I said otherwise.
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    (Original post by sleepyeba)

    you'd have to try incredibly hard in order to cut yourself off like that. uni seems like a wholesome, friendly and inviting place on open days at least...

    It is surprisingly easy.
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    Uni is a scary place! Be afraid, very afraid!
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    It's not scary! Well it is for the 1st week but then you'll make loads of friends who will take care of you, and you will take care of them. Think how lucky you are your sister is there already. Some students will go there knowing nobody, coming from a different country, imagine what it'd be like for them if they were ill and couldn't communicate how they were feeling to a doctor or to any friends?

    In your halls you'll probably have a warden and so you tell them your ill and they look out for you. And if you are THAT ill you still have a phone to call a doctor/999.
 
 
 
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