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Boyfriend/Girlfriend's past sexual habits

We've already had a thread about whether your boyfriend/girlfriend's sexual past matters to you. But are you bothered to know WHAT your boyfriend/girlfriend has done with their previous partners, which "acts" they've performed...

And if you found out your boyfriend/girlfriend had performed certain acts with a previous partner but tells you that they wouldn't with you, how would you react?

OK, I'm trying to keep this as less crude as possible :redface:

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SamTheMan
We've already had a thread about whether your boyfriend/girlfriend's sexual past matters to you. But are you bothered to know WHAT your boyfriend/girlfriend has done with their previous partners, which "acts" they've performed...

And if you found out your boyfriend/girlfriend had performed certain acts with a previous partner but tells you that they wouldn't with you, how would you react?

OK, I'm trying to keep this as less crude as possible :redface:



lol ive found out couple of my ex's performed sexual acts with their previous partners but really its nothing to do with me personally as I was not involved at that time - I'd be slightly annoyed but nothing major really xoxo
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SamTheMan
We've already had a thread about whether your boyfriend/girlfriend's sexual past matters to you. But are you bothered to know WHAT your boyfriend/girlfriend has done with their previous partners, which "acts" they've performed...

And if you found out your boyfriend/girlfriend had performed certain acts with a previous partner but tells you that they wouldn't with you, how would you react?

OK, I'm trying to keep this as less crude as possible :redface:



Someone i was dating told me about his odd acts with his ex..... :rolleyes: we broke up that week...
Reply 3
Annik
Someone i was dating told me about his odd acts with his ex..... :rolleyes: we broke up that week...


I think that sums up how you feel about it then... lol
Reply 4
Okay the ex has done the following:

At 14 she had sex with a paedophilic 23 year old (apparently he said he was 17 before they had sex). She went back to his house the first time she met him and lost her virginity. Of course that upset me. Which is why I had to dump her, that and all her other 'problems' and psychotic episodes were very draining.

Also she has kissed a girl (she says the girl kissed her and jumped on her face but she lies a lot). Kissed a few other lads and been out with them while we were going out. Although she says nothing happened.
Reply 5
-TMG-


Also she has kissed a girl (she says the girl kissed her and jumped on her face but she lies a lot). Kissed a few other lads and been out with them while we were going out. Although she says nothing happened.


hmmm.. i thought guys would like that lol
Reply 6
LOL I meant with her not them...typo
Reply 7
Okay the ex has done the following:

At 14 she had sex with a paedophilic 23 year old (apparently he said he was 17 before they had sex). She went back to his house the first time she met him and lost her virginity. Of course that upset me. Which is why I had to dump her, that and all her other 'problems' and psychotic episodes were very draining.

Also she has kissed a girl (she says the girl kissed her and jumped on her face but she lies a lot). Kissed a few other lads and been out with her while we were going out. Although she says nothing happened.

Oops...It wasnt me :biggrin:
Reply 8
-TMG-
LOL I meant with her not them...typo


huh??

I meant.. guys (like u...im thinking ur a guy..should hav checked ur profile first but hey) wud like the lesbian action..
Reply 9
Men only seem to like faux-lesbianism - girls playing together to please a guy. They tend to get scared away by proper lesbians.
Reply 10
Yeah but I thought you meant the guys had been out with both girls just because theyd kissed when the guys didnt. Not very many people know about it.
Reply 11
It wouldn't bother me, they might of have a bad experience or just been doing it to please their old partner and not enjoyed it at all. You have to remember they're ex's for a reason..
SamTheMan
We've already had a thread about whether your boyfriend/girlfriend's sexual past matters to you. But are you bothered to know WHAT your boyfriend/girlfriend has done with their previous partners, which "acts" they've performed...

And if you found out your boyfriend/girlfriend had performed certain acts with a previous partner but tells you that they wouldn't with you, how would you react?

OK, I'm trying to keep this as less crude as possible :redface:


I would want to know what they were doing, but if it gets too disturbing, I would dump him. I would rather my boyfriend be a virgin though.
Hmm, and in answer to the second question, he'd probably have good reasons not to do it with me, for example he isn't very comfortable doing things with me, that he'd done with his ex. So I wouldn't let that bother me too much.
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Madelyn
Men only seem to like faux-lesbianism - girls playing together to please a guy. They tend to get scared away by proper lesbians.


hmmm... good point...

But I bet a guy would be turned on if two girls were secretly at it.. hmm i dunno actually...

Make a poll!! lol..
Reply 14
I wouldn't care to know to be honest.
ditto.
Reply 16
I think you have a right to know - not just who they've been with but at least a general gist of what they've done, because they might expect you to live up to it and do something you aren't prepared to do! Call me old-fashioned but I'd like to know what I'm getting myself into if I'm planning to be intimate with someone.
Reply 17
I think knowing the *ahem* ins and outs *ahem* can makes things worse.
Reply 18
hmm, i think a rough overview may be necessary, but tbh you can, and the base system is used to that effect around here. :cool: I'd want to know what he felt comfortable and liked, so long as he wasn't a male-slag, he'd be alright. :rolleyes:
Reply 19
I don't want details. all I know is I'm the 6th person he's slept with. Anything else I can live without thanks :smile: