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It's just nerves. It happens to virtually all guys at some point in their life virgin or not and if it happens once you can't stop thinking about if it'll happen again. Try to be more spontanious, maybe focus less on her pleasure because that introduces a time delay where you'll be mulling things over in your mind.

If all else fails use viagra although i'm of the understanding that doctors only give it for medical conditions and not for psychological issues.
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relax.. let her give you a blowie for quite a bit
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happened here... just forget about it... and RELAX.. and it should work
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I used to have the same problem with my girlfriend. I was considering going to see my GP, but after the 4th/5th time trying we were both so much more relaxed and it was fine. It hasn't been a problem since.

Hang in there!!...
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im a 18 yr old male and have been going out with my gf (19) for nearly 6 months, we are both still virgins.

A couple of months ago we tried to have sex, but because of a combination of her being quite tight (even tho i finger her often with 2 fingers) & me having a fairly large penis, i couldnt 'fit' it in at all, the head wouldnt even start to go in (it stayed hard no problem).

So since this we have tried sex numerous times, but i keep on going soft just before or when i try to put it in her, its really distressing me, my girlfriend is understanding, but i guess she must be a little annoyed because we both really want sex.

I always make sure shes ready for it, through foreplay and / or lube, but then when the time comes, i suddenly go soft.
I can masturbate or recieve handjobs easily staying hard until cumming, so i dont think i have a proper erection problem, maybe just nerves.

But what can i do to solve this? I have thought Viagra, but is this something to see my GP about, would he proscribe me it?
It kinda dents my ego thinking i need viarga at 18, and this is all getting to me, i cant help thinking im a failure

Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Probably nerves continually reinforced by following and subsequent failures leading to a feeling of being inadequate which further feeds back into the problem, try to relax more.
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It's definitely a psychological problem, and most likely erectile dysfunction. You're thinking too much about the primary failed attempt. Just let that past you and you should be fine, but that's obviously easier said than done .
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maybe you are too nervous before sex?
try relaxing a bit maybe and just enjoying it and not thinking to much about it ?

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**** ring, or if your too tight to buy one, a zip tie will do.
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Cruel but true: the more you worry about this, the more likely it is to happen.

**** rings are good for keeping an erection (they reduce the blood flow out of the penis) rather than getting one. If you want to try this, don't get a fixed size one that's too small.

Having her on top may also help, because you don't need to 'do' anything except lie back and go 'at last!'
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(Original post by emanuel_arsenalfc)
relax.. let her give you a blowie for quite a bit
you gentleman :love:
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this happend to me a few months back to and im only 16, i also have a fairly large penis and it was hard ans she was ready but it wouldent fit at all not even just the tip, my penis actully bent from me and her trying to get it in and omg that hurt so badly, now everytime i try to have sex with someone else it basicly turns into a gummy worm, but if im by myself it stays hard as hard can be, what do i do?
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Hey so just to let you know I went throught the exact same thing as you. A few things.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im a 18 yr old male and have been going out with my gf (19) for nearly 6 months, we are both still virgins.

A couple of months ago we tried to have sex, but because of a combination of her being quite tight (even tho i finger her often with 2 fingers) & me having a fairly large penis, i couldnt 'fit' it in at all, the head wouldnt even start to go in (it stayed hard no problem).

So since this we have tried sex numerous times, but i keep on going soft just before or when i try to put it in her, its really distressing me, my girlfriend is understanding, but i guess she must be a little annoyed because we both really want sex.

I always make sure shes ready for it, through foreplay and / or lube, but then when the time comes, i suddenly go soft.
I can masturbate or recieve handjobs easily staying hard until cumming, so i dont think i have a proper erection problem, maybe just nerves.

But what can i do to solve this? I have thought Viagra, but is this something to see my GP about, would he proscribe me it?
It kinda dents my ego thinking i need viarga at 18, and this is all getting to me, i cant help thinking im a failure

Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Yeah man dw its chill, i experienced that the first time too. Its literally just nerves. Slapping my stick on the table usually helps me get in the mood again if i go soft. If that's too uncomfortable, try nailing your foreskin to a weighty bit of wood. It'll increase length, at the very least.
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