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I've having a lot of trouble recently as i've discovered my girlfriend takes anti-depressants. She says it's not strong ones but I feel that there has to be another solution...
Please, what do you think?
(helpful comments please!)
I agree with you, but unfortunately you're not going to be able to easily change her mind, so it's something that you'll either have to put up with or offer up an ultimatum for.
Try broaching the subject of her coming off them, and see how she reacts for a better idea of how things will be in future.
People don't just take them for 'depression'.
If thier pecribed I wouldnt mess around with the meds.
Just offer her suport and she may chose give them up.
Do not. I repeat NOT try to replace her pills with plecebos or anything like that - I know a similer situation that went wrong because of this
Why is it that you have concerns with your girlfriend taking anti-depressants? Have you spoken to her about it much? And is she getting any sort of therapy, or talking to anybody?
Is she taking them for depression, too?
Don't rule them out completely. Anti-depressants can be very beneficial in combination with other sorts of therapies, and some people find that anti-ds help them to cope better on a day-to-day basis, which means that they can then be in a better position to deal with whatever problems they are experiencing. Plus, any medication-taking should be done under the supervision of a dr., she shouldn't just give them up without consulting her gp first.
What is she on them for? Depression, bulimia, anorexia?
Whatever she's on them for, it's her choice when you get right down to it. What is it you don't like about them?
I started antidepressants 3 months ago after several years of severe manic depression, I never wanted to go on them myself, but I have to say they do really help. They're not a cure, you have to have counselling / CBT in my case alongside, but they help a lot of people so much.
Coming off them is also risky, as you will have major withdrawal symptoms. Even if she does decide to stop taking them, she will still have to take them for another 3 months or so, gradually lowering the dose as her doctor tells her to. You cannot just stop them.
I feel you're an ass.
If she needs anti-depressants then she does, whilst they rarely fix things they can often be crucial in coping until things are better. If it's a temporary stress making her depressed no doubt it'll go away, otherwise she may need (or be having) some form of counselling. May be something you've not even thought of.
Why does it matter if she's on them though, it shouldn't matter to you.
Stop complaining and just support her.
Whatever your personal opinion on them may be it's down to your girlfriend and her doctor what medication she takes, even if in your view there is another solution it seems this is working for her right now (guessing from the fact you only just realised she was on them) so if both she and her doctor feel it's ok for her to take them then that's what she should be doing...
If she was depressed when you got with her, all you should be doing is showing support that you will help her through it. What if she comes off them and is depressed again?
Edit anti depressants aren't just for depression she could have a migraine, she might have ADHD and other problems, you should talk and ask before you assume
I find myself being distressed because I feel there's something I should do. Btw the ant-depressants ARE for curing depression. She has said that she has overcome most of it though.
I think you need to educate yourself a bit more about antidepressants. There's nothing wrong with taking them, they can help some people a lot. Your girlfriend clearly feels they are helping her. Do you know what kind she's taking?
You probably need to have another conversation with your girlfriend but be supportive, you have no right to tell her she's got the wrong solution when you don't even know what the problem is.