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my 2 1/2 year relationship ended..

I was with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years and we broke up over the weekend, im feeling really awful about it. She said that she needed space and didnt want a relationship anymore so i told her that we should do what makes her happy and we broke up, its really hard as i keep thinking about her all the time.

Any ideas becuase i dont have a job, i work from home and im really miserable all the time...

I'm sorry *hugs*

I'm really sorry to hear that, it must be hard for you *hugs* take it easy and trynot to think about it. get together with all your mates and remind yourself why they're your mates! :biggrin:

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adamu

I was with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years and we broke up over the weekend, im feeling really awful about it. She said that she needed space and didnt want a relationship anymore so i told her that we should do what makes her happy and we broke up, its really hard as i keep thinking about her all the time.

Any ideas becuase i dont have a job, i work from home and im really miserable all the time...

That's really **** mate I'm very sorry to hear that =( There's nothing I can really say to help, when my 18 month relationship ended that was bad enough and i wasn't even in love with her. I have no idea how i'd cope if my current girlfriend ended it with me though. I know it hurts now but it's my belief that each break up only has a certain amount of hurt you can feel from it, so while it might be tempting to find a rebound and mask your feelings with pretend feelings for someone else, all this does is delay the hurt, and it's gonna come out eventually so you may aswell get it over and done with now. This is what happened with my ex; I sat around and was a mopey bastard for a month while she went out and pulled new people, the thing was I actually got over her and all she did was ignore her feelings for me and hoped they'd go away, so then 6 months later when i found somebody new she only then started getting over me, and it took her just as long as it wouldve done in the first place. It's just a theory but it might make you feel slightly better, believing that for like every hour it hurts, it's one less hour you're going to have to hurt in the long run. Sounds pretensious as hell but it's been true from my experiences.

Reply 4

friendlyneutron

11

I'm really sorry about that :frown:

there doesn't seem to be any quick fixes to getting over someone, unfortunately, just time, reflection and good mates in my experience - although it must realy suck at the moment, I promise you it'll get better.

Reply 5

adamu

OP

thanks guys your comments mean a lot. Hope your all this nice at Uni

Reply 6

Frogsofhope

2

adamu

thanks guys your comments mean a lot. Hope your all this nice at Uni

What uni are you going to? Hope you have an amazing time! My only advice would be to try get over things, or at least come to terms with them before you go to uni, you don't want to be really down in your first few weeks. Although if you are i'm sure there will be at least a few people in a similar situation who you can talk it over with, and help each other out. Either way good luck :redface:

Reply 7

hugatree

11

Sorry to hear that. :hugs:

Same for me last August but it was me who ended it 'cos I didn't love him afterall. You'll feel better soon (or at least I hope so for you :smile:

) and find someone who'll never want to leave you.

As for things to do... it would have to be outside, preferably with people to talk to, so I suggest a new hobby/sport? :s

Reply 8

twiga

15

Exercise is good for helping you feel better, maybe a martial art to get rid of all the pent-up frustration and anger and upset? It also gives you a feeling of confidence which I can imagine ur probably lacking at the moment. I hope you feel better soon x x x

Reply 9

Sophdoph

1

As everyone else has said, I'm really sorry. I'm in a long term relationship, 2years, and can't imagine how devestated you must feel...it's a big loss for you. Try and keep healthy, eat well and exercise and be kind to yourself. Do your favourite hobbies, sport or music, whatever it is to try and inspire yourself that everything is OK really.

Take each day as it comes and know that it isn't the end of the world, and you will get through this.

Reply 10

strawberry_wise

13

heh I got dumped by a guy I really liked not long ago so I went on holiday with my mates...it was a cheap thing we just went camping in Wales but it really helped me. So perhaps you should do this! :smile:

Only bummer was that the guy who dumped me kept ringing me n hanging up :mad:

Reply 11

adamu

OP

Cheers for the suggestions ppl - im already into bodybuilding so thats my sport amongst other things, im actually starting to feel much much better about it all! I seem to have loads more confidence when im out now, im ok i think!

Reply 12

jonnaemilia

Sorry about your situation. I'm actually almost in the same position now myself... I just told my boyfriend of 2,5 years, that I don't think that this relationship has a future. Not at the moment anyways. Maybe in a few years or so. Ever since I made this decision, I've been working out as well and I've been working full days. I think about things when I'm alone but I don't want my thoughts to show when I'm at work. I think the best way to heal the heart is give it some time. Although I'm the one here who has taken the big step, it's not easy for me either. This will probably take some months but hey, how strong will I be after I've survived through this? VERY.

I don't know if anything I just said made any sense. But anyhoo, at least you know that it might not be an easy situation for your partner to say bubbye to a long-term relationship.

Reply 13

adamu

OP

thanks jonnaemilia - that did make sense

Reply 14

Spider

I'm sorry to hear that mate. But life goes on, you'll meet plenty of new people, and hopefully have an even better relationship which lasts forever!

Reply 15

adamu

OP

i hope so! any girls interested? lol

*lame*

Reply 16

saz_1989

2

You'll get over it. It's hard now, but in a month you'll look back and think "why was I like that?!". Just keep busy and spend loads of time with your mates. Mates rule. They slag off your ex, tell you how great you look and keep your mind on fun things.

Reply 17

Apricot Fairy

16

I was in the same position as you this time last year. I'm afraid all you can do is try and get on with your life. Go out with friends as much as possible, and keep doing things to take your mind off it. Time is a healer, but it does take a lot of time...

But at least you're going to uni soon, so you will have loads to do and lots of new people to meet, and you'll be so busy it will be fairly easy to forget about her a lot of the time. Just take it easy.

*hugs*

Reply 18

adamu

OP

You'll get over it. It's hard now, but in a month you'll look back and think "why was I like that?!". Just keep busy and spend loads of time with your mates. Mates rule. They slag off your ex, tell you how great you look and keep your mind on fun things.

Lauren - i wish my mates were that supportive. They are all very macho and spend most of the time taking the piss actually...

:frown:

Reply 19

hippieglitter

19

You must have things about the place that remind you of her. Dont destroy them but put them away, they just encourage to think of her more, which doesn't help.

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