My mate's bf keeps trying it on..What to do?

Ok..here's the deal..
There's a girl in my class..she's not a best friend but we go on nights out and hang out. She's been going out with her bf for a year..and I hate him! He's sooooo not cute and really greasy! Anyhoo..I met him a while ago on a night out and was just being nice to him. He kept, however, touching me really obviously. And i know he was doing this to her other mates too. She got upset bout it but he made it clear that he was jst messing round. BUT he then added me to msn and told me that he liked me..he asked me out for lunch and the cinema (..he even cancelled with her one night and then asked me out straight after :eek:

) He said that he couldn't help how he felt and that he would risk his relationship with her! First I tried to explain that i liked someone else and that I wouldn't never do that to a friend..he was persistent so i finally blocked him.. the trouble is, we're having a night out this week and i expect him to be there. I KNOW he's gonna try it on! The thought of him makes me wanna vomit! I try to keep away but he seems to follow :frown:

Do I tell my mate about him? You would think yes would be the easy answer BUT they are breaking up soon for uni..so is there any point in telling her now? And also she's the type of person who would take it out on me, and i don't want us to part for uni on bad terms..and i don't wanna hurt her! On the other hand, I can't let him carry on. She keeps telling me how in love she is..and I feel so uncomfortable! :confused:

HELP!

Reply 1

jd27

Annik

Ok..here's the deal..
There's a girl in my class..she's not a best friend but we go on nights out and hang out. She's been going out with her bf for a year..and I hate him! He's sooooo not cute and really greasy! Anyhoo..I met him a while ago on a night out and was just being nice to him. He kept, however, touching me really obviously. And i know he was doing this to her other mates too. She got upset bout it but he made it clear that he was jst messing round. BUT he then added me to msn and told me that he liked me..he asked me out for lunch and the cinema (..he even cancelled with her one night and then asked me out straight after :eek:

) He said that he couldn't help how he felt and that he would risk his relationship with her! First I tried to explain that i liked someone else and that I wouldn't never do that to a friend..he was persistent so i finally blocked him.. the trouble is, we're having a night out this week and i expect him to be there. I KNOW he's gonna try it on! The thought of him makes me wanna vomit! I try to keep away but he seems to follow :frown:

Do I tell my mate about him? You would think yes would be the easy answer BUT they are breaking up soon for uni..so is there any point in telling her now? And also she's the type of person who would take it out on me, and i don't want us to part for uni on bad terms..and i don't wanna hurt her! On the other hand, I can't let him carry on. She keeps telling me how in love she is..and I feel so uncomfortable! :confused:

HELP!

I would do one of two things:

a) don't go on the night out, wait until they break up so that you can hang out with her without him.

b) go on the night out, wait for him to say/do anything, then make a big scene and scream about how disgusting his behavious is. This will:

-shame him
-make your friend see that it's clearly not your fault and nor do you appreciate his attention.

I'd go for the latter, but if you don't fancy big scenes, the former will do...

Reply 2

viviki

14

Go on the night out, see what hapens make it clear that if he tries anything you'll tell her.

Reply 3

Mata

16

Honestly?

I would knee where it hurts. He won't try it on with you again, and he can't tell her that you did it because then you could tell her why.

I hate to be violent but... needs must. And this is honestly what I would do, unless he was mates with you too (which he isn't).

Reply 4

Annik

OP

2

Mata

Honestly?

I would knee where it hurts. He won't try it on with you again, and he can't tell her that you did it because then you could tell her why.

I hate to be violent but... needs must. And this is honestly what I would do, unless he was mates with you too (which he isn't).

lol.. i like that! THANKS :biggrin:

Reply 5

Gexko

2

Yeah, slap him one :smile:

Reply 6

saz_1989

2

A short sharp slap when he tries it on will let him know exactly what you think of his behaviour.

Other less violent methods include:
pushing him off
shouting
telling his girlfriend and plotting how to get revenge together

Go out with him.

OP

S. Tham

Go out with him.

no thanks..
I call him "vomit boy.."

Reply 9

S. Tham

Tell him ur a lesbian? Then snog his girlfriend right infront of him! The shock will definately scare him off! hehehe

Reply 10

Font

S. Tham

Tell him ur a lesbian? Then snog his girlfriend right infront of him! The shock will definately scare him off! hehehe

nice sig

Ramunujan is awesome :cool:

Reply 11

Annik

OP

2

S. Tham

Tell him ur a lesbian? Then snog his girlfriend right infront of him! The shock will definately scare him off! hehehe

i think he wud like that...?

Reply 12

S. Tham

lol so wud me and most of the ladz on TSR im sure! hey why not record it an PM to me LOL!
Also wouldn't it be better if you tell him the next time he trys it on with you, 'wha the f*** are you doing, you p****, you got a girlfriend, you dumb peice of rotten hamster crap' Insult him and tell him that you would never go out with him, even if the continuance of the human race depended on you and 'vomit boy' having THE SEX.

Thanks Phil! I know Ramanujans great, If only he was introduced to the Mathematical Universe earlier and had he been an Aethist, very tragic really....

Reply 13

SamTheMan

17

Yes your friend should find out as she deserves to. It's the most respectful thing to do no matter what the consequences. So what if they're breaking up soon? They'll break up earlier, so what?

The problem isn't totally the guy's fault. If the girl had a better judgement of character and better taste, then maybe she wouldn't have a boyfriend who's attempting to cheat on her.

Reply 14

jd27

Annik

no thanks..
I call him "vomit boy.."

Telling him that might work....

Reply 15

nas7232

19

Annik

no thanks..
I call him "vomit boy.."

Vomit on him, that'll teach the sleasy lund :wink:

.

Reply 16

Annik

OP

2

nas7232

Vomit on him, that'll teach the sleasy lund :wink:

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hahahahahaha...!!!

Reply 17

hippieglitter

19

I'd go with the knee him in the soft bits idea but first i would tell him really firmly to stop it or i'd tell his girlfriend, but the firm telling probably won't work if he is prepared to risk his relationship with your mate. I well aimed blow with a knee or even a foot will ensure he won't go near you again or if you are feeling really destructive and don't have a problem with putting your hand near that area a squeeze and twist can be delightfully crippling.

Reply 18

hypomania

10

You're sitting down together. Make it as if you're about to kiss him, and when he closes his eyes and opens his gob, stick your foot in his nuts and stand on it, as he sits there shouting in pain and make sure you stamp it real good, like you're putting out a cigarette stub. Then when his gf comes and defends him, tell her that he was trying it on. :p:

Then you slap him, then your mate slaps him and you walk off together with your noses in the air and he is left crying on the floor :p:

!

Reply 19

Annik

OP

2

hmmm why is everyone sooo evil?? - this is why i love TSR :biggrin:

Erm.. well to update people: he didn't even turn up.. he was working.. O well! I was kinda looking forward to hitting him in the balls!! No doubt Ill be seeing him sometime in the next few weeks anyway..and vomiting on him :biggrin:

My mate's bf keeps trying it on..What to do?

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