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Am I not over him or is this normal? watch

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    Basically, I went out with this guy for 10 months and he dumped me really harshly - but that was quite a long time ago now, nearly 18 months. He wouldn't let us stay friends but recently we've spoken once or twice. I have a new boyfriend who I've been with for nearly 4 months who really loves me.. I love him, though I find it hard to fall into the relationship like I did with my ex - I'm not sure if I'm just a little worried about falling in love and getting dumped again. I don't want to dump him but I am worried about whether I'm being mean if he has stronger feelings for me than I have for him.. it's not a problem when we're actually together at all, everything's perfect then - it's just when we're apart that I find myself getting at him and I don't know why.

    I guess the thing that spurred me into questioning this is I've just seen that my ex has a new gf, and on msn his status is all about how he loves her etc (they can't have been together more than a few weeks!) and I actually found myself feeling really struck by it. I have no idea why I'd feel like this if I'm completely over him so I'm wondering: is it normal to have residual feelings for an ex? Because I think it may be slight feelings for my ex causing the problems with my current bf and if they're always gona be there then I'll just get over it but if it's not maybe I need to actually work on getting over him a bit more!

    Thanks in advance for any help
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