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Few cases, though, are as frank about the matter as this one out of Australia (Herald Sun, 1/10/10). Bill and Jasmine (not their real names) have two daughters, now aged nine and 11. Bill and Jasmine have been battling over custody of the girls for seven years. Apparently Jasmine has had custody during all that time. During the custody case, Jasmine made allegations of sexual abuse of the children by Bill, charges that were dismissed as "totally false."
Meanwhile Bill, whom judges have described as"courteous," "intelligent," "principled" and having "much to offer his children" has spent or lost almost half a million dollars attempting to have contact with his daughters and to defend himself against his ex-wife's false allegations. He's also lost his house and his job in the process.
By contrast, judges have called Jasmine "dreadful," "cruel" and "malicious." In addition to her false claims against Bill, she abandoned her first child at age two and refused further contact with her.
But whatever else the family court judges have called Jasmine, they and all of us now call her "sole custodial parent." The end of their seven-year battle, the outcome of all the heartache Bill has suffered and sacrifice he's made, is that he - the man with so much to offer his daughters - is prohibited from ever seeing them, at least until they're adults.
And it should come as no surprise that it's all in the best interests of the children. To live exclusively with a dreadful, cruel and malicious woman, who abandoned outright her first child, is in their best interests. Don't believe me?
But in last month's ruling, the judge said: "The necessity to preserve the children's physical, emotional safety and welfare is overwhelming. However unsatisfactory this outcome is for the father, it is the outcome most aligned with the children's best interests.
"In addition, it is the only outcome which will afford the girls the peace they require now while permitting some possibility of a relationship between the father, (the children) and their siblings in the future, however long term that may be."
But the judge added: "It is a sad fact in the family law jurisdiction that a determination which is most consistent with the best interests of the children can appear to reward bad behaviour on the part of one parent and work in apparent injustice for the well-motivated best performing parent."
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'Dreadful, Cruel, Malicious' Mother Gets Exclusive Custody Over better dad watch
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- 13-01-2010 23:00