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    Like tonight for example, would rather not be on my tod and want some intrigue, However can also be quiet and understated, dont like cheap sentiment or loudmouths a lot of the time. So it'd need to be the kind of woman who wants to do stuff but doesnt need entertainment all the time, who uses me for such(if you know the type) I have plenty going for me, reckon I have empathy, am genuine etc. Not too nice or cloying either. But it's just I'm unreliable in my life and not totally stable in my life situation, something of a dreamer. I wonder if my lack of finances and stability affects my chances with a woman. There muct be other sensitive women out there who want soemthing different(i mean, ii want something different from my upbringing, 2.4 kids etc, butI want a genuine romance before too late, something lasting) So do I need more career success? or are tons of folk miserable in work? Am I looking wrong, cos like I say, I have enough to offer I think..I'm just understated.
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    Just basically tired of being alone, have had some more realisation that I can't drift forever, focusing is hard but I want to do myself justica nd my dreams. I feel my whole life and adolescence has sort of stalled things, and there is a lot of latent potential for love, in me, however idealised that concept is. I'm past the age for games, like I say I'm not cloying or sentimental but I do want something meaningful, a real female friend in my life.
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    Yeah good luck pal. Go join the back of the line tbh.
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    Quit cyberbullying. It's already been stated that you don't come on HandR just to ***** at threadstarters, it's more than a little petty.
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    You sound really nice But if you're going to go out there actively looking for someone, unless you find someone exactly the same as you in female form, you'll scare the majority of them away by being so needy, and so obviously ready for something really serious.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Quit cyberbullying. It's already been stated that you don't come on HandR just to ***** at threadstarters, it's more than a little petty.
    Quit whining. Cyberbullying? No wonder you're struggling to find a girl.

    I wasnt *****ing at you, I was pointing out that you are just one amongst thousands upon thousands of 'romantic' type guys looking for a girl. Your starting post just reaked of self love as you attempt to boast about these amazing self qualitys you apparently possess.

    What exactly did you expect from the replies to your topic? You ask no real questions and seem to have created it purely to boost your own confidence in your attractive qualities.
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    You sound really nice But if you're going to go out there actively looking for someone, unless you find someone exactly the same as you in female form, you'll scare the majority of them away by being so needy, and so obviously ready for something really serious.
    I don't think I'm needy, like I say, I'm pretty detached most times and in my own world. But when I do finally focus on something, intermittently, I really focus, if that makes sense. Maybe thats what confuses them. I'm not ready for something serious as in time commitment per day, or having kids, but I wouldl ike to have a sutained relationship that isnt all about instant gratification, that is romantic and worked at. Plus, most single women of an age at my age or a bit older(who I often go for) would be looking for something serious more than someone who's about 21
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    (Original post by Reue)
    Quit whining. Cyberbullying? No wonder you're struggling to find a girl.

    I wasnt *****ing at you, I was pointing out that you are just one amongst thousands upon thousands of 'romantic' type guys looking for a girl. Your starting post just reaked of self love as you attempt to boast about these amazing self qualitys you apparently possess.

    What exactly did you expect from the replies to your topic? You ask no real questions and seem to have created it purely to boost your own confidence in your attractive qualities.
    And your post reeks of a typical bitter TSR user coming on an HandR thread for no other reason that to be cynical, and boost their own confidence by putting someone down. It says something about such people that anything remotely positive you say about yourself is deemed chronic narcissism.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And your post reeks of a typical bitter TSR user coming on an HandR thread for no other reason that to be cynical, and boost their own confidence by putting someone down. It says something about such people that anything remotely positive you say about yourself is deemed chronic narcissism.
    Ive nothing to be bitter about, nor do I much need to confidence boost. I come on H+R Purely for my own amusement and to offer real advice (albit in a non-traditional format).

    As I said, from the sounds of your post, you've mentioned nothing particularly exceptional. Simply being romantic and looking for something serious right off the bat doesnt even being to differentiate yourself in any meaningful way.

    Prehaps spend your evening actually attempting to meet these females you desire rather then whining about it on the forums.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Like tonight for example, would rather not be on my tod and want some intrigue, However can also be quiet and understated, dont like cheap sentiment or loudmouths a lot of the time. So it'd need to be the kind of woman who wants to do stuff but doesnt need entertainment all the time, who uses me for such(if you know the type) I have plenty going for me, reckon I have empathy, am genuine etc. Not too nice or cloying either. But it's just I'm unreliable in my life and not totally stable in my life situation, something of a dreamer. I wonder if my lack of finances and stability affects my chances with a woman. There muct be other sensitive women out there who want soemthing different(i mean, ii want something different from my upbringing, 2.4 kids etc, butI want a genuine romance before too late, something lasting) So do I need more career success? or are tons of folk miserable in work? Am I looking wrong, cos like I say, I have enough to offer I think..I'm just understated.
    Your lack of finances, as you put it, affects your chances with a superficial woman. There are lots of things that can be done without money, and in all fairness, it removes the possibility that a girl will fall for you just because of your financial affluency, which is sure a good thing

    As long as you've got interesting things to talk about with someone, and interests other than yourself, you shouldn't have much trouble meeting a nice girl. From the sounds of it, you seem like a nice guy anyway, so don't worry :p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't think I'm needy, like I say, I'm pretty detached most times and in my own world. But when I do finally focus on something, intermittently, I really focus, if that makes sense. Maybe thats what confuses them. I'm not ready for something serious as in time commitment per day, or having kids, but I wouldl ike to have a sutained relationship that isnt all about instant gratification, that is romantic and worked at. Plus, most single women of an age at my age or a bit older(who I often go for) would be looking for something serious more than someone who's about 21
    How old are you?

    I didn't mean to offend you or anything, that's just how you came across that's all
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    (Original post by Reue)
    Ive nothing to be bitter about, nor do I much need to confidence boost. I come on H+R Purely for my own amusement and to offer real advice (albit in a non-traditional format).

    As I said, from the sounds of your post, you've mentioned nothing particularly exceptional. Simply being romantic and looking for something serious right off the bat doesnt even being to differentiate yourself in any meaningful way.

    Prehaps spend your evening actually attempting to meet these females you desire rather then whining about it on the forums.
    Mentioned nothing expeceptional, and yet you just say my post is full of self-love:rolleyes: The point was not to 'mention anything exceptional anyway, it was to lay out my case as it stands so someone can advise me(my postive qualities were relevant to a giving a true picture, otherwise I would have gotten self-esteem advice etc) Face it, you're just being picky and negative, *****ing, and you're not even honest enough to admit it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Mentioned nothing expeceptional, and yet you just say my post is full of self-love:rolleyes: The point was not to 'mention anything exceptional anyway, it was to lay out my case as it stands so someone can advise me(my postive qualities were relevant to a giving a true picture, otherwise I would have gotten self-esteem advice etc) Face it, you're just being picky and negative, *****ing, and you're not even honest enough to admit it.
    I wouldnt define self love as exceptional, especially as the qualities you listed as having are so very comon.

    I think you'll find I did offer you advice, you've just overlooked it.

    And I should also point out that my initial reply was not picky, *****ing or particularly negative. You've created an arguement and are now attempting to label me as picky when all ive done is respond to your aggression.

    My ultimate point still stands: Why, if you're so serious about finding a girlfriend, are you listing your apparent 'exceptional' qualities as anon on an online forum? Not exactly the most obvious methods many would pick, im sure..


    Regardless, this thread has bored me now anyway so I shall depart. Good luck finding that special girl from posting anon online.
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    Oh dear.... Reue has quite a knack for kicking people when they're down.

    Just remember that the worst a girl can do is turn you down, and the best way to meet the person you;re looking for is to get out there and socialise
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