Is my dad being unfair

My rents are divorced and my dad has never exactly ben a great dad, but what he did last night just made me feel like ****. its my nans birthday today but i didn't know that (not close to that side of the family) so when we (me, dad and stepmum) went around last night with their presents and i didn't have anything i felt really bad, but then i noticed that they'd put the present from my stepmum, dad and stepsister, but they missed me off. and they've done it before. yet whenever my mum puts things to my strpdads side of the fmaily she'd never miss me off, she always includes me. it's like he doesn't consider me a part of that fmaily and it really hurts, and i haven't had time to drop her present round (mistakenly thought my mum would give me a lift) becos of worketc and amongst other things that are stressing me out i just feel like **** and i dont know what to do.

sorry this is really long :frown:

Reply 1

Herleif

*hugs*

dads are bastards. :frown:

EDIT: wtf? how come that isnt filtered? :confused:

Reply 2

Frogsofhope

2

Maybe have a word with your Dad ask him to put your name on future presents, tell him you will contribute a little towards the cost, this would solve you the hassle of having to find a suitable present for someone you are not that close to, i don't mean that in a mean way, just that you might not know what to buy them. I think your Dad would happily do soemthing as small as putting your name on a card/present if you explain to him that it would make to feel more accepted in that part of your family, he may not have realised you feel this way, and telling him might make him want to make a big effort and do all sorts to make you feel included.

Reply 3

xXMessedUpXx

OP

15

i had a mjor argument last year with him (something thats been brewing for about 15 years) and i thought we had it sorted but he'll never change.

edit: and my boyfriend is being unkind as well right no

*hugs*

xXMessedUpXx

i had a mjor argument last year with him (something thats been brewing for about 15 years) and i thought we had it sorted but he'll never change.

edit: and my boyfriend is being unkind as well right no

awww

heres a penguin , penguins are cool maybe he can cheer you up

:penguin:

Reply 6

Chris.

1

Jesus christ get some perspective.

Reply 7

mankyscot2

1

xXMessedUpXx

i had a mjor argument last year with him (something thats been brewing for about 15 years) and i thought we had it sorted but he'll never change.

edit: and my boyfriend is being unkind as well right no

Sorry honey. You must be feeling like poo.

Wish that the internet could actually send one of my scottish hugs to you right now.

That would make you feel better.

Reply 8

mkenani

welcome to the club of Unfair fathers, i go through worse stuff all the time, if i survive then you too can. :smile:

Reply 9

Logan

4

at least you only have unfair father while i have unfair parents

Reply 10

frost105

14

Parents arent perfect and they **** up a lot. Tell him what you think and if that doesnt work then just accept things as they are. You'll save tourself a lot of grief and expectation.

My dad is crap but I accept that he forgets stuff and boasts about the daughter doing a phd but doenst actually know what its in to his pals. Heck I even accept that he broke up with my mum cause he thought he was better than her and he thought she showed him up with his golf crowd. At the end of the day the relatioship I have with my father isnt the strongest or best but in his own way he loves me and if i was in serious trouble he'd give me anything and thats the most important thing in the end.

Reply 11

LittleFrog579

awhh

I'd get so mad and sad if that happend to me, storm off and ignore lol :s-smilie:

Reply 12

xXMessedUpXx

OP

15

mkenani

welcome to the club of Unfair fathers, i go through worse stuff all the time, if i survive then you too can. :smile:

Yeah, well i've been putting up with him for 18 years...hopefully at uni i can see him less :smile:

Its a shame, i mean i'd love to have a proper father/daughter realtionship, but there's at least 16 yeasr of my life he's made no real imput to so i think that idea is stuffed. :smile:

I just get on with it...

And thanx marisad_uk for the penguin... :biggrin:

Reply 13

hippieglitter

19

I always feel really sorry for people in these threads cos my parents are great. Maybe talk to your dad or if not your dad someone else in your family, how is your relationship with the steps. Ask him why he left you off, tell him how it made you feel. Try and make him understand what his behaviour is doing to you.

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