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    (Original post by HyperGiant)
    wise words.

    I do not understand all the hate aimed at him. I'm sure he hasn't chosen to have the desires he has. It's not his fault and he is reaching out and asking for help and people are just telling him to kill himself. I'm sure none of this is helping.
    I also do not understand why people don't play on the safe side and assume he is telling the truth even if he is a troll. The internet is a cruel place.
    Couldn't agree more, considering this forum supposedly consists of those of us who are meant to be intelligent and academic, both the internet and TSR remain the worst place to come for advice on any subject other than courses and universities.
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    Just don't act on it at all. Think about why you are attracted to them and can you substitute it for something else? Maybe you could imagine petite women instead? Maybe you should try hypnosis or something but don't ever even consider acting on it.
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    (Original post by Suffix)
    Stop being so dramatic.
    Oh yeah, sorry. Its not such a big deal is it?
    God I wish people would stop making films about the Holocaust as well.
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    (Original post by rowe1992)
    Shut up your just as bad for condoning it you idiot
    Who said I was condoning it you *******. I was commenting on your idiotic arse for brains post.
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    (Original post by Just for this thread)
    I'm a 20 year old guy...
    Firstly, I'm gay and understand the point you make in reference to homosexuality without taking any offence. I think you should definetly seek help from a counsellor or psychiatrist- they are bound by law to confidentiality. You can't be the only 'paedophile' in the world to want to change. I think it's important and good that you realise paedophilia is wrong and you want to do something about it. Perhaps you could also try aversion therapy on your own? A psychiatrist might do that with you anyway. It's basically where, when you get those thoughts, you immediately do something to distract yourself, e.g. pinch or slap yourself. Then you may (gradually) associate those thoughts with pain and they will decrease or stop. Or perhaps you could think about if it was you as a child, your sibling or your own child and how you would feel if paedophile 'went after' you/them. Hope this helped.
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    (Original post by mel45)
    Oh yeah, sorry. Its not such a big deal is it?
    God I wish people would stop making films about the Holocaust as well.
    Woah, it took a whole 7 and a half pages before Godwin's Law was invoked. Could be a record.
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    (Original post by Christian_j)
    Couldn't agree more, considering this forum supposedly consists of those of us who are meant to be intelligent and academic, both the internet and TSR remain the worst place to come for advice on any subject other than courses and universities.
    faith in humanity seeping away at a steady rate. People just don't give a **** and have no sense of empathy.

    I just hope the guy who started has stopped watching before he tops himself as many people here advise.

    Just disgusting.

    I think If I were a mod I would delete this thread as soon as I saw it and write him a message myself.
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    I suppose everyone understands what it's like to have a secret just maybe not something as serious and dangerous as this. If you keep it to yourself, your at risk of hurting others and yourself and would you really be able to live with yourself then? Would you really want to remembered as a monster?
    The guys before me are right, you should seek professional help. Before it gets out of control. It's not fair to those you could potentionally harm. One day, who knows? You might have a bad day and then before you know it you've done something you didn't want to do. I don't really know much about peadophillia but every 'criminal' or 'abnormal' person has to start somewhere right? How do you know they once had it under control?
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    (Original post by Christian_j)
    Woah, it took a whole 7 and a half pages before Godwin's Law was invoked. Could be a record.
    I literally have no idea what you just said.
    Explain.
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    (Original post by CMJBGBWC)
    DO mods report IP addresses to the relevant authorities in such cases as this?
    Why should they? Paedophilia isn't illegal. (other than, yes, the distant claim of accessing child pornography, but it isn't something that could stand up in a court).
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    (Original post by Dairy Milky Chocolate)
    A murderer may have genetics that make him insane and then he kills. It is not a valid excuse.
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    well he hasn't abused anyone yet you ******* retard, so that's obviously an awful anology

    and im honestly horrified at the replies in this thread. people either saying 'troll', you dont think that this kind of thing exists? or calling him sick and whatever, yeah, he didnt choice to be this way. until the day he does abuse a child my deepest sympathies go out to this man
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    (Original post by mel45)
    I literally have no idea what you just said.
    Explain.
    Please Google it, I can't be bothered to explain something to someone who equates somebody having *thoughts* about younger children to the murder of 6 million people in the holocaust. Think through what you said tbh.
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    Wow. Umm... Wow.

    As others have said, you really do need psychiatric help. I can understand the linking it to homosexuality - you say, however, homosexuality cannot be 'cured' which isn't true. There are hormone drugs and other treatments that can low sexual impulses or shift the desire to something else. These 'treatments' are frowned upon because homosexuality isn't a lifestyle which negatively effects society, whereas paedophilia obviously is. I'm pretty sure that you will not be the first person a psychiatrist has encountered with this problem, and they could do something to help.
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    Look if he's telling the truth then poor him. You'll just have to live life ignoring any thoughts like that and getting on with life. If you do that then you're not evil or anything you just have a though process problem...
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    (Original post by Garnelaf)
    I think it's scary, people's reaction. He hasn't acted on this. People have rape fettishes. That doesn't mean they should be shot and burnt because they're not actually going to rape anyone. Just learn to roleplay or something. I don't think you've done anything wrong (yet) and hope that you continue to not act on it. If it's really scaring you seek psychological help. Unless you're a troll, in which case GG.
    THIS.

    I can't quite believe the reactions in this thread - it's like I've accidentally clicked onto the Daily Mail website. I'm not condoning paedophilia in the slightest, but the OP hasn't acted on his urges, isn't planning to, and recognises that he has to do something about what's happening to him before it gets out of hand. It's mad to suggest he ought to kill himself or suffer in some way because of something he has no control over. He's expressed regret about looking at porn on the internet 18 months ago, and he's not done anything to directly harm a child.

    OP: You're brave for posting this. Not sure how sensible a suggestion this is, but perhaps you could go to a phonebox and give someone like the Samaritans a call? You do need to get help before anything develops, but I can understand your reluctance to go to a GP. Eventually, though, if you can't find help anywhere else, that's what you're going to have to do.
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    (Original post by GapYearGirl)
    You need to seek professional help. If more people came forward as having a problem before they acted on it then perhaps fewer children would be abused. Even if the doctors do judge you, they can't act on that, they have a duty to treat you as they would any other patient. You already admit to watching child pornography. You've already crossed a line and you really should see a doctor before you do anything worse.
    And more adults would wind up being forcibly castrated by inhuman, reactionary ****s. So long as two-thirds of the posts in this thread continue to represent ninety-percent of the U.K. population, yours really isn't a viable suggestion.
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    People love to ******* judge

    OP, I think it shows a lot of honesty and self-awareness to make a post like this, don't let the utter ***** in this thread get you down. You can't help how you feel, like others have said you need to find someone you can talk to about this, someone you can be open with and won't judge you negatively on it.
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    (Original post by Dairy Milky Chocolate)
    Are you stupid? There is no evidence for these made up genes that you are talking about.

    You just said you watched child porn. Indecent images of children is illegal.

    Yeah I know a mod here, so I'm going to get your ip address and report you to where ever that address points to.
    You are the stupid one, not to mention reactionary, bigoted and wholly ignorant. The OP has not harmed any children and has no intention to act on his urges. He has been brave enough to admit his inclinations and wants to seek help, and in typical TSR fashion, everybody with an IQ in double figures has been drawn to this thread to make unhelpful comments. If you think there is no evidence for genetics influencing sexual preferences and orientation, I suggest you start here and educate yourself better before you comment again.

    OP - I know this is incredibly hard, but you've already taken a massive step in admitting to yourself and others (albeit anonymously) that you feel this way. You must seek professional help. Even if you start by ringing a helpline and go from there, I think the only right thing to do here is to speak to somebody who can help you stay on top of your urges and hopefully still lead a full life. I don't know if it makes any difference, but I am one person who does not judge you at all. I don't think you're sick or wrong, in fact I feel very sorry for you. I don't believe there is anything morally wrong with being sexually attracted to children, and I completely believe that you have had no choice in the matter. That said, you don't need me to tell you that acting on your urges would be morally wrong, as children cannot legally (or realistically) understand or consent to sex, and obviously to either engage a child in those activities or watch child porn would be to create harm. I just feel sad that you will have to fight your natural urges for the rest of your life. But I think it's important that you evaluate how well you think you will be able to control yourself, and perhaps ask yourself what is more important to you - your freedom from lifelong monitoring by psychiatric professionals, or the safety of children you may encounter. Best of luck.
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    If you aren't a troll, then I think a child's innocence is a WHOLE more important than you being scared of what people will think of you. I hate paedophiles, whether this is a joke thread or not. What about if you ever have children? What are you going to do to them?
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    Just wanted to put this out there... Is it specifically that you're attracted to children, or is it more a sexual excitement over what you know to be wrong? For example, do you get excited over other 'taboo' subjects, e.g. incest (sorry, know it's bleurgh to talk about), or is it just children?
 
 
 
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