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    (Original post by EmiPark)
    If you aren't a troll, then I think a child's innocence is a WHOLE more important than you being scared of what people will think of you. I hate paedophiles, whether this is a joke thread or not. What about if you ever have children? What are you going to do to them?
    probably nothing for the same reason that gay men arent attracted to their brothers
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    Having the feelings indicates that yes, there is something wrong and you need to seek professional help.
    I'm not going to say 'Kill yourself' or any of the other not so helpful suggestions here, at least you realise it is wrong to feel this way and I understand you are saying you didn't choose to feel like this. However, it was entirely your choice to 'look up' child pornography and you must realise that is entirely wrong and everyone here has every right to feel disgusted with this behaviour. Perpetuating the creation and distribution of child pornography can never be condoned and I would urge you to please speak to a real professional, whether that be face-to-face (speaking to your GP may put you in contact with people who can help) or over the phone.

    You need to do this. Clearly just thinking about children turned out not to be enough and you escalated your behaviour into needing visuals of your fantasies. You need help before your behaviour escalates further. I know you say you'd never do this but I don't think you could ever be sure, and while you feel like this I'd be so scared of you starting a family or being entrusted to look after relatives' children.

    I hope you find some help.

    Oh and I don't think equating the situation to being born gay or straight is going to help anyone here, it is bordering on becoming offensive.
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    (Original post by Christian_j)
    Please Google it, I can't be bothered to explain something to someone who equates somebody having *thoughts* about younger children to the murder of 6 million people in the holocaust. Think through what you said tbh.
    I did not equate the Holocaust to child abuse. I was merely trying to make a sarcastic statement that both things are obviously big deals. The person who quoted me previously called me dramatic, and I was trying to illustrate the fact it is a huge problem, as was (and still is) the Holocuast.
    So keep your hair on. I am not one of those nonchalant people who dont give a ****.
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    The fact that you realise you need to change now is good, cause something can be done about it before anything goes out of hand. A doctor/psychiatrist really is the best option. There are probably specialist ones you may be able to see who have dealt with much worse than you - people who have actively done something much worse.
    If it helps, you could write it down on a piece of paper and hand it to the specialist. It would give them a start to help you.
    You see all this hatred in this thread...that surely must make you want to do something about it quickly - see somebody.
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    (Original post by Natasharox)
    Just wanted to put this out there... Is it specifically that you're attracted to children, or is it more a sexual excitement over what you know to be wrong? For example, do you get excited over other 'taboo' subjects, e.g. incest (sorry, know it's bleurgh to talk about), or is it just children?
    This is a very thoughtful and interesting suggestion. OP I would have a real think about this, as with any luck if it's true you may be able to transfer your attraction to something more easily managed.
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    (Original post by TaeKwonDo)
    probably nothing for the same reason that gay men arent attracted to their brothers
    I can see where you're coming from but how do you know gay men aren't attracted to their brothers??? Because they don't tell everyone?? He has never acted on his actions but if the chance was so close to him, god knows what he might do. Lots of parents rape their own children. I know someone who used to know someone who was raped by his dad. It's a sick world.
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    (Original post by Dairy Milky Chocolate)
    The fact that you can masturbate at videos of a 5 year old girl rape/sexual assault is disgusting.

    Yeah, take your own life.
    You sound so childish (excuse the pun). Im female and similar to the op in terms of I have a sexual preference thats 'wrong'. Seeing movies where people are flogged on the bare back (and even children who are caned in movies) really turns me on for some reason I imagine its happening to me. I can have feelings for men but the thought of doing anything with them is nowhere near as intense as this fetish or whatever I have. Im never going to act it out in reality I wouldn't want to but I can't help how I am and I believe its the same with people like th op.
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    (Original post by Just for this thread)
    I

    ps Have set up this account specifically. Sorry mods, but kinda want to hide this from you to... Also, pm with anything you want to say, that you don't want public. Good or bad.
    You are a disgusting, vile inferior person and even worse for making everyone read that disgusting self-justifying passage.

    Stop comparing yourself to normal people, having jacked off to children already means you cant control your urge at all, what if next time ur urge gets stronger, and their just happens to be a young child around. If i knew who you were i would run you out of town and never let you near any kids.

    its a pity your inferior genes werent detected and aborted. And you're too dangerous and sick to ever have kids or be near one.
    What if ur around them 24/7.

    This is **** scray knowing there r people likey ou around who think themselves to be normal whilst having these tendencies. Do the decent thing and stay away from normal people
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    I have a theory about the OP which may be right or wrong, as I am not a psychologist, but I may as well put it out there.

    Maybe he first started thinking about sexual stuff very young, when he himself was only 6/7/8 or whatever. At that age, he was naturally attracted to people his own age, so he concentrated on thinking about people that age even after he himself got older. Eventually he reached a point when he realised that he was too old to be attracted to people that young, but by that point it was so ingrained that even when he discovered normal porn, got a girlfriend etc., it just wasn't the same.

    I reckon what he should do is get another girlfriend - maybe a petite girl - and simply concentrate on getting as much satisfaction as he possibly can with her; absorb himself in her body, try out as many different positions as he can etc., so that basically he enjoys himself so much physically with her, if he does think about children again, it simply won't compare any more. Hopefully, over time this will become the complete norm, and he won't need or want to think about children again.
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    (Original post by Meow7)
    Having the feelings indicates that yes, there is something wrong and you need to seek professional help.
    I'm not going to say 'Kill yourself' or any of the other not so helpful suggestions here, at least you realise it is wrong to feel this way and I understand you are saying you didn't choose to feel like this. However, it was entirely your choice to 'look up' child pornography and you must realise that is entirely wrong and everyone here has every right to feel disgusted with this behaviour. Perpetuating the creation and distribution of child pornography can never be condoned and I would urge you to please speak to a real professional, whether that be face-to-face (speaking to your GP may put you in contact with people who can help) or over the phone.

    You need to do this. Clearly just thinking about children turned out not to be enough and you escalated your behaviour into needing visuals of your fantasies. You need help before your behaviour escalates further. I know you say you'd never do this but I don't think you could ever be sure, and while you feel like this I'd be so scared of you starting a family or being entrusted to look after relatives' children.

    I hope you find some help.

    Oh and I don't think equating the situation to being born gay or straight is going to help anyone here, it is bordering on becoming offensive.
    Why would you assume he would be capable of abusing children? I don't know the OP, neither do you, I don't think you have a right to assume that. It's a fantasy. People have all kinds of sick fantasies, it's a very different thing to act on them.

    I get the sense from your post you think he 'shouldn't' think these thoughts, but what if he can't help it? In all likelihood he'll have these feelings all his life, since there's no 'cure'. It doesn't make him a bad person does it?
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    Where has this consensus come from that it's a sexual orientation? Why have you people ruled out it just being a weird fetish like having people piss on you?

    (Original post by Just for this thread)
    so i chose it?
    That's not what that means. Accents aren't genetic, but they aren't something you can choose. Sometimes environmental factors can turn you a certain way without you actively choosing to be that way, or wanting to.

    Anyway, assuming you're telling the truth about this, it sounds like you could be a danger to children if not now but in the future. You're only 20 and you've already:

    - rejected responsibility for your feelings 'it's not my fault' etc

    - acted on it by watching child porn (if you hadn't thought about it this way, you're watching innocent children having their childhoods wrecked by being raped, and you're supporting the way that their humiliation and pain is broadcasted accross the net for sadists to **** off to)

    Plus, you're twenty. You don't know how you might change and what you may do in the future. I believe you when you say you've no intention of hurting a child but if this preoccupupation grows it could become an obsession and you could lose control of this even more. That's really not a risk somebody with your predispositions can take. I know that at times, after being under a lot of pressure, my state of mind has changed I've done things I've never ever thought I would and behaved in ways I couldn't really have predicted (nothing like paedophilia obviously). That's why I definitely think you should go to a doc and try to sort it out as soon as possible since you clearly have these tendancies in you.

    To go back to your gay analogy: Some people are so disgusted by being homosexual they don't even admit it to themselves til they're in the 40s. I'm concerned that you've accepted being a paedo, acted on it, and are talking about it so soon... doesn't sound like you set yourself as many boundaries as most people.

    Maybe hypnosis could help. :dontknow:
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    You need to see a counsellor or a doctor mate.. These things happen, you just gotto deal with them in a proper way. Best of luck pal.
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    (Original post by whiplash)
    You realise that your username is logged to an IP which identifies you on the internet. Not smart admitting to watching child porn on the net.
    good point, op seriously could be prosecuted for this. Lots of pedos have been caught online not directly by doing anything but admitting to it or mentioning it in messages. there was a girl who wass sent to prison just for a few insult msgs on facebook
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    (Original post by Just for this thread)
    for something that i'm born with, and have had no choice over?

    Was waiting for this one, and i don't blame you for thinking this. It's not really a fair punishment though? killing someone for something they haven't chosen?
    lol yeah course u were haha rubbish
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    (Original post by jurishat)
    good point, op seriously could be prosecuted for this. Lots of pedos have been caught online not directly by doing anything but admitting to it or mentioning it in messages. there was a girl who wass sent to prison just for a few insult msgs on facebook
    There's no way the OP could be prosecuted for anything he's said in this thread. You're wrong.
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    (Original post by EmiPark)
    I can see where you're coming from but how do you know gay men aren't attracted to their brothers??? Because they don't tell everyone?? .
    lol

    i thought maybe youd suggest(and perhaps rightfully) that pedophilia might be different, but not this
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    I was disgusted when reading this. The thought of someone forcing themslves on an innocent and defenceless child brings me to tears.alas, you came here for advice and im going to give it to you.

    seek help. don't rely on your self-control. what if you lose control? the damage will be irreovocable.
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    Hey yo, PM me. I found a keeper from the GCSE sub-forum.
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    (Original post by TaeKwonDo)
    lol

    i thought maybe youd suggest(and perhaps rightfully) that pedophilia might be different, but not this
    Lol, I did write that at first but then I thought naaaa, that's too obvious...

    If you thought I'd write that then why did you reply TT___TT
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    It's established that he's not going to do jack turd. Now can we all stop fantasising about him being publicly hanged?

    He gets off on kids. It may be illegal to act on it but it's not illegal to think.

    I have fantasies about stealing. I don't act on them. What makes everyone think the OP will?
 
 
 
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