Clubs. Dancing. And my stupid morals.

My head's feeling a little messed up, because I can't decide what I actually want. I know most of you will think I'm wayyy over analysing this, which I know I am.

I made a somewhat similar thread some time ago, but it's a little different this time. When I dance with guys in clubs that I don't know, I feel really bad about it the morning after once I'm sober, kind of dirty and disgusted with myself and all that. But the thing is, I want to be dancing with guys - but dancing with randomers makes me feel used and kinda crap, but dancing with mates is just, you know, you can't go past a certain line, or things get awkward. But I do actually want to be dancing with guys - I just can't figure out what to do to stop feeling, I don't know, so bizarrely, stupidly moral. Any advice, if anyone actually read this insanely stupid post??

Just gotta figure out where you think the line is for you and then keep to it. There's not much else you can do, really... Some people just don't like the club atmosphere.

My head's feeling a little messed up, because I can't decide what I actually want. I know most of you will think I'm wayyy over analysing this, which I know I am.

I made a somewhat similar thread some time ago, but it's a little different this time. When I dance with guys in clubs that I don't know, I feel really bad about it the morning after once I'm sober, kind of dirty and disgusted with myself and all that. But the thing is, I want to be dancing with guys - but dancing with randomers makes me feel used and kinda crap, but dancing with mates is just, you know, you can't go past a certain line, or things get awkward. But I do actually want to be dancing with guys - I just can't figure out what to do to stop feeling, I don't know, so bizarrely, stupidly moral. Any advice, if anyone actually read this insanely stupid post??

Unless you're blowing them in the toilets, i can't see your point.

Hmm, ok I'm dancing with you , you've just met me and you like me. What do you want?
Just to dance?
Maybe a fun kiss?
Or possibly more?

I guess.. if you're a nice, non sleazy kind of guy, just to dance really. Suggestive dancing if I really like you. But nothing more than that. Hmm.. but then I think I'd still feel crap the next day. Unless we kept in touch, like met up and stuff. But I'm definitely not looking for a relationship.. so what does that mean now?? More confusion..

I guess.. if you're a nice, non sleazy kind of guy, just to dance really. Suggestive dancing if I really like you. But nothing more than that. Hmm.. but then I think I'd still feel crap the next day. Unless we kept in touch, like met up and stuff. But I'm definitely not looking for a relationship.. so what does that mean now?? More confusion..

I guess.. if you're a nice, non sleazy kind of guy, just to dance really. Suggestive dancing if I really like you. But nothing more than that. Hmm.. but then I think I'd still feel crap the next day. Unless we kept in touch, like met up and stuff. But I'm definitely not looking for a relationship.. so what does that mean now?? More confusion..

My head's feeling a little messed up, because I can't decide what I actually want. I know most of you will think I'm wayyy over analysing this, which I know I am.

I made a somewhat similar thread some time ago, but it's a little different this time. When I dance with guys in clubs that I don't know, I feel really bad about it the morning after once I'm sober, kind of dirty and disgusted with myself and all that. But the thing is, I want to be dancing with guys - but dancing with randomers makes me feel used and kinda crap, but dancing with mates is just, you know, you can't go past a certain line, or things get awkward. But I do actually want to be dancing with guys - I just can't figure out what to do to stop feeling, I don't know, so bizarrely, stupidly moral. Any advice, if anyone actually read this insanely stupid post??

I feel exactly the same.. I'm just not 'comfortable' with it and I have no idea why! Most of my mates don't really think twice about it but, like you, I feel a bit weird about it the next day

Hmm I think you have some problems that females sometimes have - usually where they've been brought up in a restrictive culture where sex is wrong etc, but then end up fighting themselves because they do want to be out there having fun with guys.


Haha yes I am definitely not sleazy lol. Ok fun dancing it is - do that then! If you find it fun.


Not everyone's a jackass, this is actually how I met my last gf, we danced loads that night, kissed and eventually started going out... Neither of us felt 'dirty'...

This is true, I'm actually Indian, so my parents would look down on this kind of stuff quite a lot. So I suppose it is the British in me conflicting with the Indian in me

Well everyone hides stuff from their parents lol... do you think I mention my every activity.

Hmm, seriously hun, if you like doing it just do it. If you only want to dance, then dance if they try anything more just move away.
If you only want to kiss and nothing else - do that - I know plenty of girls who do that but don't want to take the guy home.

If you want to kiss but are interested in meeting up with them another time afterwards soberly, then do that.

Enjoy! C'mon when you're older you'll regret not having fun.

Yeah, dont want to leave room for regrets later on. Thanks for all the advice!