Girls: Prenuptial agreement for marriage?

I never implied them all. In fact, I specifically devised a fool proof - or so I though - plan that would avoid people misrepresenting what I meant by explicitly stating, in basic English words, that I am not referring to every woman with my post.

Alas, my plan failed.

Can you?

I didn't read your later posts when I decided to rant at you.

Feeling a little sorry for you now.

Just (please) re-evaluate some of your stereotypes.

I couldn't marry someone who asked for a prenup... Not becasue I care about money. But quite frankly anyone who is even thinking about getting divored BEFORE marriage seems wrong to me .

How the **** does it undermine trust? Would you refuse to wear a seatbelt in someone's car because it undermines the trust you should have in them not to crash into a tree?

Divorces happen to couples who think they're going to stay married forever - nobody marries thinking they'll get divorced. It's best to be realistic, and acknowledge that you MIGHT get divorced, even if the chance is minimal. I therefore can't see any valid reason for refusing to sign a prenup really; it just gives the impression you're quite happy to screw over your partner (or have him screw you over) should you get divorced.

I don't think anyone sees a divorce coming. That's fair enough.

But a prenuptial agreement is essentially defence against someone's character. It's saying "I need you to sign this, because I don't trust you not to be a mega bitch at some point in the future"

I'm not a mega bitch. If I get married, if I get divorced - I have no intention of being unfair.

If firstly, the person who wants me to be with them forever doesn't think of me well enough to consider that I would be a mega bitch just cause we split up, then goes on to tell me "we can't get married because I don't trust your word.. it has to be written down"..

Of course that undermines trust.

It is not comparable to a car crash - because
a) a car crash does not have to be the driver's fault
b) even if you think they're **** at driving this doesn't reflect on their character
c) Wearing seatbelt doesn't have emotional implications

If other people want to sign prenuptial agreements - I don't have a problem with it.
But I would be hurt, and it would probably make me question the premise of the marriage.

If that means being screwed over come divorce time, at least I can say I -didn't see it coming, and was stupid enough to go through with it anyway-.

I couldn't marry someone who asked for a prenup... Not becasue I care about money. But quite frankly anyone who is even thinking about getting divored BEFORE marriage seems wrong to me .

What stereotypes? Can you not read either?

Pre-nups are a defence against someone's character in the same way that seatbelts are a defence against someone's bad driving. Your attacks against my analogy are all rubbish and thus don't stand. You strap up in a seatbelt when in a car in case something bad that you didn't plan to happen comes up; just like I will be signing a pre-nup when I get married in order to protect myself in case something unforeseen comes up. No one can argue that those who refuse to sign it are not planning to gain if the **** hits the fan.

It's just sensible. You can never predict how life will turn out; that's why you pay for all kinds of insurances. To have a safety net doesn't mean you plan to use it. (You don't plan to fall ill so that you can use your health insurance.)

Probably you could compare it to agreeing with your partner to have regular STD tests. Even though neither of you will cheat, it's a very sensible thing to do anyway. Just out of curiosity, would you object to that also?