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    Hey,

    I have been seeing so many threads about depressed students who can't manage to befriend anyone, even after joining societies etc...

    So I wanted to ask: How easy is it to make friends at university in your first year? Are most of the friends you make during Freshers week? and I will be 17 when I start uni, so will this mean I won't make any friends because I won't be able to go out drinking? Is there a way to go out drinking with people even at 17?

    Sorry for the amount of questions but this is probably my biggest worry atm lol.
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    join societies and sports clubs and socialise with your room mates

    also go to all the events thta arnt alchahol related
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    (Original post by papajames)
    join societies and sports clubs and socialise with your room mates

    also go to all the events that arnt alchahol related
    thats better
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    (Original post by papajames)
    join societies and sports clubs and socialise with your room mates

    also go to all the events YOU CAN thta arnt alchahol related
    thats better
    Much better:p:
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    (Original post by lol2003)
    Ahhh sorry... didn't read your post properly...

    you're 17!!! oops... well i hope my advice i've posted is good advice in general for anyone worried!

    Honestly, I really do not see being 17 is a problem!! Again, as long as you don't hide in your room! Maybe suggest a few days in freshers you spend some time in your halls just drinking and having a party there?? After freshers week people don't go out as much and there's a lot of socialising done in uni halls rather than going out clubbing all the time (because it's very expensive).

    Before you know it you'll be 18 and everything will be fine - and nothing will be stopping you! Being 17 is all the more reason to not spend freshers in your room worrying - if you;re out there socialising before everyone goes out and during the day there won't be any problems! Chances are once the term gets going academically there'll be people who won't have time to go out on certain nights and you won't be in your flat alone on nights out!

    Well I will be 17 for the whole of first year lol, and since i'm doing Law, then maybe your point about when the term gets going academically will be stronger...

    Thank you so much for your advise, it seems quite clear now.

    Thanks again.
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    making friends is pretty easy as everyone is in the same boat. if you join societies, clubs etc. and if your living in halls then there will always be people around that you can have a chat with.

    As for the going out drinking, if its a uni night or something then just by showing your student card im sure you would be fine
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    A couple of my friends are 17 and I don't think they've struggled really. A lot of people seem to go out as a group with their flatmates. I am friendly with my flatmates, have friends on my course and at the societies I joined. The people I'm living with next year I met on a night out in Fresher's week. Everyone is in the same boat when you first start- not knowing anyone etc. so as long as you don't isolate yourself you will be fine.
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    If you stay in Uni accomodation, very easy. You'd have to be a deliberately obnoxious ******** (...we had one in our halls...) to FAIL to make friends with people.

    As for being 17... err... drink anyway? Ahaha. Even if your union is ultra-strict about it, just get tanked up before you go out. There were quite a few 17 year olds in my group of friends in first year, all were fine drinking at the union. Well, actually one was ID'd by a bouncer with a drink in his hand and got caught, but all they did was ban him from the union until his 18th birthday (a couple of months).
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    How are you going to university at 17?
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    The majority of threads I've seen are from home students.
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    (Original post by LawIsBraw)
    Hey,

    I have been seeing so many threads about depressed students who can't manage to befriend anyone, even after joining societies etc...

    So I wanted to ask: How easy is it to make friends at university in your first year? Are most of the friends you make during Freshers week? and I will be 17 when I start uni, so will this mean I won't make any friends because I won't be able to go out drinking? Is there a way to go out drinking with people even at 17?

    Sorry for the amount of questions but this is probably my biggest worry atm lol.
    I don't drink alcohol at all, in spite of being legal age to do so, and don't even live at uni ... and I made friends on the first day. You're all in it together, so it's quite easy to made friends if you're willing to put yourself out there.
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    (Original post by lol2003)
    Also.... I hardly ever get ID'd - especially in the week - it's really only uni students who go out during the week (no one ever seems to go out during weekends at uni) and the bouncers just ASSUME you're over 18 since you're at uni. - unless you look stupidly underage!

    Take your student card out with you and if they ID you say you don't have your ID with you because you never seem to get ID'd anymore, but you're a student and have your student card with you so MUST be over 18! It's worth a try!

    You may as well attempt to go out with them, worst that will happen is you'll get turned away - just make sure you have enough money to get a BLACK cab back to halls by yourself if you get turned away! Your hallmates will appreciate you making an effort to go out with them and will KNOW that you want to go out with them in the future - so even if you do not get into clubs at 17, when you turn 18 you'll be ready and raring to go and your hallmates and also any other friends you make will accept that!

    Good advice

    Thanks,

    as to the person who asked how i'm going to uni at 17...I don't actually know haha, I'll be 17 for my whole first year though, ...luckily i'll be living in halls so that'll will also make it much easier...
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    really really easy to make friends both on your course and in your accom.... just be open minded and try have confidence
    good luck with starting uni !
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    Go to the Student Union stuff, they never ask for ID.
    How long will you be 17 for after you start?
    You really don't need to drink to fit in, just act like you're drunk
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    (Original post by Smiling...Rain)
    Go to the Student Union stuff, they never ask for ID.
    How long will you be 17 for after you start?
    You really don't need to drink to fit in, just act like you're drunk
    For the whole of first year, my brithday is 6th August so that's not good haha...

    Don't I need to be 18 to get into clubs? Or can I get in without actually drinking?
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    All my tight friends I made in first couple of weeks, all my other friends I have made as uni has gone on !
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    The people complaining about not making any friends at uni are the ones who hibernate in their rooms, all the while complaining on here about not making any friends.

    You get out what you put in. University is the perfect environment in which to makes friends, but if you don't make the effort to get to know people, you can't expect anything in return.
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    (Original post by Student2806)
    The people complaining about not making any friends at uni are the ones who hibernate in their rooms, all the while complaining on here about not making any friends.

    You get out what you put in. University is the perfect environment in which to makes friends, but if you don't make the effort to get to know people, you can't expect anything in return.

    Yeah i've noticed that, well those threads have taught me to put myself out there at all costs, some people have considered DROPPING OUT because they haven't made any friends, so I don't want that to happen to me.
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    (Original post by LawIsBraw)
    For the whole of first year, my brithday is 6th August so that's not good haha...

    Don't I need to be 18 to get into clubs? Or can I get in without actually drinking?
    Well it depends how old you look really, just go in with lots of girls, they rarely ask then :p:

    I hope you have an amazing time, you will without doubt make friends in your accomodation, nobody cares how old you are. However cliched, just be yourself.
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    just talk to a few people..im sure if you're not a retard you'll find someone..at least one person
 
 
 
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