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A plea to all of you with girlfriends/boyfriends
I've been in a relationship for some months now with a guy who I don't get to see very often, due to the fact that we live at opposite ends of the country. We mostly speak on MSN, and text, and phone calls about once a week. That's enough background really: suffice it to say that before me he wasn't the most experienced guy, and so at times didn't really know how to act at first.
After we'd been going out for just about 2 weeks, he said he loved me. HOWEVER, he did this in a text message in a really offhand way, if my memory serves me correctly it was along the lines of "I still love you and haven't run off with a giant tinwhistle". This bugged me at the time, and I didn't act on it, as at that point I didn't know if he meant it as "I love you" and just didn't know how to say it, or he was just playing around and didn't mean anything by it. This is turning into a bit of a marathon now, sorry). He hasn't said it since, nor have I.
Now comes the crunch. I feel ready now to tell him that I love him, and I'm as sure as I can be that he would say it back and mean it. But now, I'm left wondering how he would take it - whether he would take it as something offhand or understand that I really mean it.
My plea to TSRians therefore is this: PLEASE don't say to your girlfriend/boyfriend that you love them before you actually do, as it creates complicatoins later on! And also, if you do mean it, say it properly and in a way that cannot be misinterpreted!
After we'd been going out for just about 2 weeks, he said he loved me. HOWEVER, he did this in a text message in a really offhand way, if my memory serves me correctly it was along the lines of "I still love you and haven't run off with a giant tinwhistle". This bugged me at the time, and I didn't act on it, as at that point I didn't know if he meant it as "I love you" and just didn't know how to say it, or he was just playing around and didn't mean anything by it. This is turning into a bit of a marathon now, sorry). He hasn't said it since, nor have I.
Now comes the crunch. I feel ready now to tell him that I love him, and I'm as sure as I can be that he would say it back and mean it. But now, I'm left wondering how he would take it - whether he would take it as something offhand or understand that I really mean it.
My plea to TSRians therefore is this: PLEASE don't say to your girlfriend/boyfriend that you love them before you actually do, as it creates complicatoins later on! And also, if you do mean it, say it properly and in a way that cannot be misinterpreted!
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Thanx for the advice *-)
My bf said "I love you" after about a month of us going out. I said it back, but I was taken by surprise! Then we were talking about it and we both admitted that even though we didn't know it, we didn't really love each other back then because we didn't really know what it felt like. But now we mean it, and now we can appreciate what it means a bit more and don't take it for granted. So, if you do love him, you should be able to talk to him about it.
It well annoys me when people say "I love you" very early on in relationships. You know it's not true, and also my main reason for getting pissed off with it is that they waste the most meaning ful words you can possibly use, so then if they do actually fall in love how are they supposed to say it when they've already used those words for a lesser feeling?
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I'll add that to the List of Reasons to Stay Single.
(Or, you know, use it to begin the list...)
(Or, you know, use it to begin the list...)
I'm laughing over here!
i no someone who claims to love a different girl every few weeks, this really annoys me!
This thread is possibly the world's lamest moan. Do you really have nothing better to start threads about?
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Apparently I commited a bit of a faux pas by not replying to my boy when he told me he loved me. I wasn't ready to say it yet as I've been paranoid for years about saying it when I didn't mean it. He understood though and was much more appreciative when I did finally say it a month or so later. My friends were horrified to hear I'd not replied to him though - but it would have been a lie!
I realised i was falling for my bf a couple of months into the relationship
I've got to admit it's not said amongst us much, but in a way we feel we don't need to cos we know how we feel, plus when it is said it means more.
I've got to admit it's not said amongst us much, but in a way we feel we don't need to cos we know how we feel, plus when it is said it means more.
if you're nervous about telling him, do it on msn followed by the embarrassed smiley, or a kiss, or a heart. whatever type of lass you are. i was nervous about telling my bf (like you dnot get to see him), but i felt better after, and we both laughed about how it'd taken us months to say how we felt, ah young love *thinks back*
Saying you love someone and meaning it is great. I told my current boyfriend as soon as I felt it, which was after about 2 months. Took him to a quiet place upstairs at a party in a pub to say it! Luckily he said it back, and apparently nearly said it the day before weirdly. I wouldn't have minded too much if he hadn't said it back though, I just knew I loved him and wanted to be completely open about it.
Now we say it all the time, it's quite sickening.
Cxx
Now we say it all the time, it's quite sickening.
Cxx
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I'll add that to the List of Reasons to Stay Single.
(Or, you know, use it to begin the list...)
(Or, you know, use it to begin the list...)
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nice one 
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Me and my current boyf said it to each other after about 5 months. My boyfriend hates people saying it too early or when they dont mean it and he swore to me early on in our relationship that he wouldnt say it unless he meant it. So when he did say it it was special and I knew he did actually properly love me
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It well annoys me when people say "I love you" very early on in relationships. You know it's not true, and also my main reason for getting pissed off with it is that they waste the most meaning ful words you can possibly use, so then if they do actually fall in love how are they supposed to say it when they've already used those words for a lesser feeling?
My boyfriend told me he loved me the day he asked me out, i was a little worried of that and didn't feel i could say it back so early in the relationship, but now a year on he is still saying it would he still be saying it if he didn't love me?
I don't think there ever is a too early to say I love you in a relationship. Me and my bf said it extremely early because we both felt it, we have been together for nearly two and a half years now and are living together. So if you feel it then say it providing that you don't think the other person will be really freaked out.
In reply to the person who wrote this post, tell him you love him but do it in a serious way ie in person or if not possible then on the phone not on msn. If you are ready then tell him.
In reply to the person who wrote this post, tell him you love him but do it in a serious way ie in person or if not possible then on the phone not on msn. If you are ready then tell him.
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