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    Hi just looking for some advice, I think there's a sort of similar thread here but Im really scared about the whole house thing.

    I have no friends, and no one to get a house with. I dont know where exactly I want to live. I dont know how to BEGIN going about getting a house, everyone else seems to be able to group together and work it out together.

    I have had a terrible time at uni, I had always looked forward to the 'house' part of uni so much, before I even got here. Im really really upset at the fact that everyone I know (boyfriend, mates etc.) have managed to find upwards of 8 really close friends who they can get a house with and have the time of their lives. .. I obviously wont get this, and am terrified that I'll be put living with randomers who I dont really have much in common with or dont get along with. It seems way too optimistic to assume that 'fate' will plonk me in a magical house with people who will end up being my best mates, but I feel completely frightened and upset about the whole situation.

    Any advice would be very much appreciated x
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    (Original post by Scarlet Pimpernell)
    Hi just looking for some advice, I think there's a sort of similar thread here but Im really scared about the whole house thing.

    I have no friends, and no one to get a house with. I dont know where exactly I want to live. I dont know how to BEGIN going about getting a house, everyone else seems to be able to group together and work it out together.

    I have had a terrible time at uni, I had always looked forward to the 'house' part of uni so much, before I even got here. Im really really upset at the fact that everyone I know (boyfriend, mates etc.) have managed to find upwards of 8 really close friends who they can get a house with and have the time of their lives. .. I obviously wont get this, and am terrified that I'll be put living with randomers who I dont really have much in common with or dont get along with. It seems way too optimistic to assume that 'fate' will plonk me in a magical house with people who will end up being my best mates, but I feel completely frightened and upset about the whole situation.

    Any advice would be very much appreciated x
    Get into a house with a living room, will make you socialise more with the other people in there, if you do get stuck with randomers. My house doesn't have one, so everyone tends to be isolated and just stays in their own rooms. It's pretty grim.
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    Renting a house sucks anyway. There's always someone who refuses to turn on the heating unless temperatures are sub-zero, plus I know so many people whose heating has broken over winter. Try Unite or something, they seem to infest most cities. They don't have the best of reputations, but at least you don't need to worry about bills.

    I haven't a clue who I'll be living with next year - I'm a second year and most people I know will be going on placement in September, so may not even be living in Bristol anymore. So I'll probably end up living with random folk in halls. If you've got no friends, what other option do you have? It's better than living with people you sort of know but don't really like.
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    I found a flat through easyroomate.com (I think that was it) when my plans changed and I ended up staying in Cardiff. I just viewed a few places and chatted with prospective housemates and it worked out - I found a great house with people who I really got on with. Moving in with strangers may seem a bit odd, but go in with an open mind and see what happens. I made loads of good friends in that house and was gutted when we went our separate ways at the end of the year (although we're all still in touch).
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    I went on rightmove and found a room in a houseshare in Ealing with randoms (owned by a company called view property solutions, which is good because it means I'm not dealing with a potentially dodgy landlord). I've found it really good so far and I've been renting here about 9 months. Best of all, I've made new friends outside of uni - I live with some great people. It's quiet because everyone works, it's clean and it's not like it really matters if anyone falls out with anyone else as we all have our own tenancy agreements. It's VERY important that if you do this, you make sure you have your own tenancy, NOT a joint tenancy. Don't panic!
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    im sorry you dont have any friends...
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    It's not so bad. I was pretty upset when I found out I wouldn't get a place in halls for my first year... Halls were like one of the big parts of university. But, I viewed several places found on various room renting websites and spoke to some landlords before I found one I liked and moved in. It's clean, spacious, there are no arguments over bills (included in our separate rents), no one steals my food because my housemates are mostly young professionals rather than drunk students and although they're not great friends they aren't bad people. There's enough space to stay separate if we want, but we also just get together and socialise every now and then.

    Not the best situation, but also far from the worst. I'm happy here. Might just end up staying here for second year too.
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    (Original post by Ribbits)
    It's not so bad. I was pretty upset when I found out I wouldn't get a place in halls for my first year... Halls were like one of the big parts of university. But, I viewed several places found on various room renting websites and spoke to some landlords before I found one I liked and moved in. It's clean, spacious, there are no arguments over bills (included in our separate rents), no one steals my food because my housemates are mostly young professionals rather than drunk students and although they're not great friends they aren't bad people. There's enough space to stay separate if we want, but we also just get together and socialise every now and then.

    Not the best situation, but also far from the worst. I'm happy here. Might just end up staying here for second year too.

    Sounds pretty similar to my house, really. Don't worry, I don't think you missed out on too much - I spent my first year in halls and it was dreadful - I actually took to going to bed by about 10 so I would have enough sleep before my flatmates crashed back in with their friends and started screaming, shouting and being generally noisy in the hall at about 4am EVERY NIGHT.

    I'd definitely live here next year too if I could afford to keep up the rent over the summer, but I need the money to finance my summer jolly
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    Does your university have a ad section like online or in the union? [Leeds uni does I know because its how i found one of my housemates]
    My situation last year was that I came back after xmas, and realised the girls I was going to live with a)werent all getting on anymore all the time and it just looked like disaster b) id kind of been hanging round with them because i had no1 else and they werent really my type of people.
    so me and my one other friend decided we definitly wanted to live together but would rather have a few more housemates, so we put an ad on the portal asking for housemates.
    we met up with a few people, and some meetings were painful im not going to lie and we almost gave up, but then we met two girls who had had a similar situation to me we met up a few times and eventually decided to move in together.
    Theyre now my best friends and we get on amazing, you wouldnt ever think we met online and tbh i always forget thats how we met.

    Also, just cause people live with 8 people and they appear to all be getting on now, ive found that out of all my friends those that live in houses of more than 4/5 people have the biggest issues! No doubt they will hardly every see at least 2 of them, one of them will argue over the heating constantly, and one of them will be mega messy etc

    It will all work out, dont worry!!
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    Hi Thanks to everyone who's replied so far. xx


    (Original post by northernsoul)
    Does your university have a ad section like online or in the union? [Leeds uni does I know because its how i found one of my housemates]
    My situation last year was that I came back after xmas, and realised the girls I was going to live with a)werent all getting on anymore all the time and it just looked like disaster b) id kind of been hanging round with them because i had no1 else and they werent really my type of people.
    so me and my one other friend decided we definitly wanted to live together but would rather have a few more housemates, so we put an ad on the portal asking for housemates.
    we met up with a few people, and some meetings were painful im not going to lie and we almost gave up, but then we met two girls who had had a similar situation to me we met up a few times and eventually decided to move in together.
    Theyre now my best friends and we get on amazing, you wouldnt ever think we met online and tbh i always forget thats how we met.

    Also, just cause people live with 8 people and they appear to all be getting on now, ive found that out of all my friends those that live in houses of more than 4/5 people have the biggest issues! No doubt they will hardly every see at least 2 of them, one of them will argue over the heating constantly, and one of them will be mega messy etc

    It will all work out, dont worry!!

    Hi northern soul thanks for your advice- Im not sure if the uni itself has an advert board but its a pretty big uni so I know there are definitely advert boards for it...

    What Im scared about really is the people I could be living with. I *desperately* want to go in an all male/predominantly male household as Im just happier when I have some guy mates (Im only friends with girls at the moment and its doing my head in!)- this alone poses problems as I dont know how to say this on the ad without sounding like a bit of a ****!

    So it is common to meet up with people before living with them?? Im terrified of 'blindly' moving in with people who just arent on my level and my 2nd year being even worse than my first if that's possible! Do you get to arrange a couple of meets or is it a quickie job, because Im just wondering how much you can gauge someone on a first meet..

    Really freaking out because everyone seems to have it all sorted now, but thanks for your help! x
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    (Original post by Scarlet Pimpernell)
    Hi Thanks to everyone who's replied so far. xx





    Hi northern soul thanks for your advice- Im not sure if the uni itself has an advert board but its a pretty big uni so I know there are definitely advert boards for it...

    What Im scared about really is the people I could be living with. I *desperately* want to go in an all male/predominantly male household as Im just happier when I have some guy mates (Im only friends with girls at the moment and its doing my head in!)- this alone poses problems as I dont know how to say this on the ad without sounding like a bit of a ****!

    So it is common to meet up with people before living with them?? Im terrified of 'blindly' moving in with people who just arent on my level and my 2nd year being even worse than my first if that's possible! Do you get to arrange a couple of meets or is it a quickie job, because Im just wondering how much you can gauge someone on a first meet..

    Really freaking out because everyone seems to have it all sorted now, but thanks for your help! x

    I'll give you an example of what our advert stated when we were looking;
    Looking for housemates;
    Hi we are two first year girls looking for either male/females who are interested in joining together to make up a bigger house.
    We like the usual clubbing, pubbing, but also like quiet nights in with a film and hot choc. Anyone interested email us on... and we could meet up for a drink.

    You can put that you want to live with males, or you could just put either male or female and if you get a reply back from say 4 girls who have a spare room just tell them your already sorted. Its easier being on your own as alot of people sign for houses and have someone drop out, or just fall in love with houses, and have to look for an extra person.

    You just need to go and meet people and have a clear checklist in your head, some of the things we asked to see if we would get on were a) what course do you study [me and my friend are in the social sciences so we do around 6/8 hours a week, i dont think we would have liked to live with people who are in all day every day as we like going out alot], what clubs do you like [just to see if they are similar, what are the people you live with now [sometimes you can cage if they are the type of people who are overly tidy and shout at you for not washing up as soon as youve finished, or if they are someone who wont let you play your music after 6pm... or you could just find theyre lovely but have been put in a flat now where they just dont get on with them]. Also, if they havent yet found a house ask what they are looking for in a house, check you all want the same area and the same things, some people want a big kitchen and living room and are less fussy on bedrooms, others dont spend much time in the living room so want better bedrooms etc. They are just some good questions to go off that really helped us.

    Some people you will just know from probably 5 minutes of being with them that you dont want to live with them. Others you will come away from and have to deliberate... But then what happened with us is we found these girls and pretty much just knew. We met up twice I think and were just forward and asked if they were interested in living together.

    The thing is, people just rush into these things but you DO have to live with these people for a year. I know one girl who rushed into signing with her housemates in like the first week of Jan and is having the worst time because they realised a few weeks later that they had changed and she really wasnt looking forward to living with them. People change abit in the second semester, you know your way around uni and the city, your used to living away from home and so people let their colours show. Id say I met all my best friends in the 2nd semester, and thats true of quite alot of people. Why dont you join up to a few societies seeing as its the beginning of a new year, new year new you sort of thing. I got to know people off my course alot more in the second semester and I spend alot of my time with them now.. they get on well with my housemates too.

    I hope ive answered your questions ok, if you want to know anything else just ask! I dont like to see people panicing about this as Ive been there myself.
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    Also i want to add, dont be nervous meeting up with people, they are in the same boat as you remember!
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    Similar situation kinda I guess.

    Have friends and people I get on with but don't really know anyone well enough to be asking to live w/ them next year.

    As suggested, living with random people might be an option but am slightly worried I get put with people who I don't really get on with...I don't mind going out really in general, enjoy going to pub etc, but not really a clubber, which seems to be a small prerequisite.
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    (Original post by northernsoul)
    I'll give you an example of what our advert stated when we were looking;
    Looking for housemates;
    Hi we are two first year girls looking for either male/females who are interested in joining together to make up a bigger house.
    We like the usual clubbing, pubbing, but also like quiet nights in with a film and hot choc. Anyone interested email us on... and we could meet up for a drink.

    You can put that you want to live with males, or you could just put either male or female and if you get a reply back from say 4 girls who have a spare room just tell them your already sorted. Its easier being on your own as alot of people sign for houses and have someone drop out, or just fall in love with houses, and have to look for an extra person.

    You just need to go and meet people and have a clear checklist in your head, some of the things we asked to see if we would get on were a) what course do you study [me and my friend are in the social sciences so we do around 6/8 hours a week, i dont think we would have liked to live with people who are in all day every day as we like going out alot], what clubs do you like [just to see if they are similar, what are the people you live with now [sometimes you can cage if they are the type of people who are overly tidy and shout at you for not washing up as soon as youve finished, or if they are someone who wont let you play your music after 6pm... or you could just find theyre lovely but have been put in a flat now where they just dont get on with them]. Also, if they havent yet found a house ask what they are looking for in a house, check you all want the same area and the same things, some people want a big kitchen and living room and are less fussy on bedrooms, others dont spend much time in the living room so want better bedrooms etc. They are just some good questions to go off that really helped us.

    Some people you will just know from probably 5 minutes of being with them that you dont want to live with them. Others you will come away from and have to deliberate... But then what happened with us is we found these girls and pretty much just knew. We met up twice I think and were just forward and asked if they were interested in living together.

    The thing is, people just rush into these things but you DO have to live with these people for a year. I know one girl who rushed into signing with her housemates in like the first week of Jan and is having the worst time because they realised a few weeks later that they had changed and she really wasnt looking forward to living with them. People change abit in the second semester, you know your way around uni and the city, your used to living away from home and so people let their colours show. Id say I met all my best friends in the 2nd semester, and thats true of quite alot of people. Why dont you join up to a few societies seeing as its the beginning of a new year, new year new you sort of thing. I got to know people off my course alot more in the second semester and I spend alot of my time with them now.. they get on well with my housemates too.

    I hope ive answered your questions ok, if you want to know anything else just ask! I dont like to see people panicing about this as Ive been there myself.
    Hiya just wanted to say thanks for the response it will provide the beginning of my find-a-house material! Very good advice, cheers x
 
 
 
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