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    Tell your mum your GF is going another uni.. simples
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    (Original post by ipulledhermione)
    aww mate, i thought this was going to be some epically disturburbing porn!

    your mums actually on the right lines, and she seems pretty cool. Go to different Unis, if you and your GF were meant to be, then you'll be. But its best to go to what your first choice is, if its the same then thats great, if not then thats good to.
    i dont believe something is meant to be but rather it is or isnt.. i dont know a single person who stayed together when at different places. its just hard and almost impossible. all the decisions you make determine what happens...well her orignal first choice was york cos of its awesome phychology (allegedly) and cumbria was insurance cos of lower entry grades. but after rejectiong from york shes thinking of lancaster as first so if she goes its because of her life not just me.
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    (Original post by Tetrahydro)
    "Me, My Girlfriend and My Mum" - I'm glad this thread didn't go in the direction I thought it was going to!
    Was totally thinking the same thing. :rofl:

    Yeah OP, I understand both view points , hmmm apply to different accomodation maybe? :dontknow:
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    (Original post by J1mjam)
    i dont believe something is meant to be but rather it is or isnt.. i dont know a single person who stayed together when at different places.
    My girlfriend is at Lancaster, I'm at Bristol. I agree lots of people break up but it can work.

    I know a few people who came to the same uni together, and they seem to be going fine. A mate of mine and her boyfriend specifically chose separate halls (about half an hour apart) so they wouldn't be tempted to just spend all their time together. Another two people I know live closer together but seem to be doing fine socially, but then again I've got a friend who we hardly saw last year because he'd be off seeing his long-distance girlfriend every weekend. It's your attitude that matters.

    I'd recommend applying to separate colleges, my girlfriend has got a couple in her flat and she says it's not great.
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    I think what your Mum is concerned about is that IF you do go to the same university, you may end up breaking up and it would make things extremely difficult. She does have a point and I think she's looking out for you in the long term. I don't think she has anything against your girlfriend.
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    I'm 21, my girlfriend 22, she's just graduated, whereas i've just started uni (sept last year) She comes down at weekends and stays til tuesday and i've still made a few friends whilst there.
    It all comes down to you, what do you want. Do you want the single life and to be free?
    With me, i'm not a drinker, not very comfortable in large social situations anyway as i'm shy, and i'm much more suited to being in a relationship, i'm much more family orientated and want to settle down. The uni 'experience' doesn't interest me so much, i'm there to get a good degree.

    Might be different as im a bit older than you though aswell.
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    and a bucket of Vindaloo. . .
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    While I don't totally agree with your mum, it's really understandable that she feels this way. All she wants to do is make sure you get the full 'making lots of friends and having fun' side of going to uni. But on the other hand, I've known couples who've lived in the same house, gone to the same uni etc and have made it through and still had fun with their own friends, may be less than most people would but not enough to actually ruin the experience or anything.

    Just tell your mum you feel it won't play out the way she sees it will.
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    If you're in different flats then you will mix with loads of different people and it will be pretty much the same sutuation that you're in now in college. She's probably genuinely worried about you making firends and doesn't mean to be harsh about it, she might come around if you explain the stuff you've said.

    If it comes to it you could tell her that you've broken up near the time of confirming and sorting where you're going to uni, then that you got back together later?
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    (Original post by Preasure)
    My girlfriend is at Lancaster, I'm at Bristol. I agree lots of people break up but it can work.

    I know a few people who came to the same uni together, and they seem to be going fine. A mate of mine and her boyfriend specifically chose separate halls (about half an hour apart) so they wouldn't be tempted to just spend all their time together. Another two people I know live closer together but seem to be doing fine socially, but then again I've got a friend who we hardly saw last year because he'd be off seeing his long-distance girlfriend every weekend. It's your attitude that matters.

    I'd recommend applying to separate colleges, my girlfriend has got a couple in her flat and she says it's not great.
    this is another helpful post, my attitude is one that will make me find friends and be social but i do not want to leave her for no apparent reason. i know intend on applying to separate colleges once the choice comes.

    (Original post by AnfieldRoad10)
    I'm 21, my girlfriend 22, she's just graduated, whereas i've just started uni (sept last year) She comes down at weekends and stays til tuesday and i've still made a few friends whilst there.
    It all comes down to you, what do you want. Do you want the single life and to be free?
    With me, i'm not a drinker, not very comfortable in large social situations anyway as i'm shy, and i'm much more suited to being in a relationship, i'm much more family orientated and want to settle down. The uni 'experience' doesn't interest me so much, i'm there to get a good degree.

    Might be different as im a bit older than you though aswell.
    another interesting view. i also do not particularly like to drink and mainly for one reason. the only times my family fall out is when they are drunk and i hate seeing it. i therefore do not like the idea of being drunk and falling out with people. also all the best times of my life so far have come from being sober. i may be younger but i actually feel quite mature in my relationship with her. this is something my girlfriend likes in me. the attitude where i would rather have a quiet night in than get wasted down the pub. a few social drinks yeh, maybe. this may all change by uni but i feel my mum cannot chose what i want or what i should and shouldnt do.

    thanks

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    (Original post by Mmm Danone)
    If you're in different flats then you will mix with loads of different people and it will be pretty much the same sutuation that you're in now in college. She's probably genuinely worried about you making firends and doesn't mean to be harsh about it, she might come around if you explain the stuff you've said.

    If it comes to it you could tell her that you've broken up near the time of confirming and sorting where you're going to uni, then that you got back together later?
    yes im planning on explaining the things in this thread soon..trust me timing is crucial with her. shes still actually in a mood and a downer from last nights argument although ive been and said sorry for walking away from her.
    i cant really go down the route of telling her weve broken up as and all that as both our mothers have started work together over the past few months. she will find out. im just going to be honest and if she doesnt like there seriously isnt anything she can do. i chose lancaster before i even knew my girlfriend was going to uni. its now my girlfriends choice if she wants to come lancaster also, not mine.
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    (Original post by J1mjam)
    i dont believe something is meant to be but rather it is or isnt.. i dont know a single person who stayed together when at different places. its just hard and almost impossible. all the decisions you make determine what happens...well her orignal first choice was york cos of its awesome phychology (allegedly) and cumbria was insurance cos of lower entry grades. but after rejectiong from york shes thinking of lancaster as first so if she goes its because of her life not just me.
    cumbria is my firm choice for psychology do you know anyone else doing it?
 
 
 
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