My boyfriend is really shy. We spent a really long time getting to know each other, which may put some people off, but I think it was definately worth it.
It didn't put me off at all. We've been going out for almost 2 years and he's not shy or quiet or awkward when we're together like some people think 'shy' guys are.
Soooo, if he was generally awesome apart from being 'shy' then its worth sticking it out
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Girls: If you know a guy likes you but is ridiculously shy, would it put you off? watch
- 16-01-2010 19:44
(Original post by Valjean)
- 16-01-2010 20:03
...come back when you have a personality.
but if its as bad as not even ordering food in a restaurant then that doesn't really sound like shyness to me, that actually does sound like no personality, i'm extremely shy (would pass the criteria for SAD), but there's no way i'd order the same as my partner just cos thats what theyre having, & i would voice my opinions for sure, especially to a gf/bf - you should be naturally more relaxed & comfortable around your love partner in the first place anyway (once things get going a little)
(Original post by Valjean)
- 16-01-2010 20:35
If he can't hold a conversation, voice opinions, be assertive or have fun with me, what makes him reckon he has a chance of being my bf tbh.
I know someone who is frightfully shy and who I once had a soft spot for. But I've grown up and he is still exactly the same. He won't order food in a restaurant until I order first (and then he orders the same)/he wont suggest we do anything, it has to be my choice/he wont choose a dvd or a film to see at the cinema. I think its because he is shy and scared of what I'll think of his opinions, so he refuses to give them no matter how hard I try to relax him and get him to come out of his shell. I just know that if I were with him I'd have to make all the moves, in the bedroom he'd be a lay back and let you do it all sort of guy. So when he tells me he likes me its like no, come back when you have a personality.
(Original post by QwentyJ)
- 16-01-2010 20:59
Actually, on those two points, it sounds like he's being polite.
I'd rather disagree with someone on things and have conversations rather than them just going along with whatever I do.
I literally took his hand and tried to pull him onto the floor to look at the dvd cabinet with me and choose something and he refused and said I had to choose, he'll watch whatever I choose.
- 16-01-2010 21:06
I quite like shy guys, although not to the point where they don't try to get to know you any more (let alone ask you out) because they are [U]that shy - which is annoying especially if you aren't that confident yourself, but you're trying :P but no i wouldn't give up unless he had a boring personality, but if i knew he wasn't as shy round other people i wouldnt give up
- 16-01-2010 22:06
It depends how much I liked him, but I don't usually go for shy guys, so yes it would put me off.
- 16-01-2010 22:22
i think if i guy was shy it would put me off becoz i would be thinkin he doesnt exectly like me and make me feel bad about my self i dont know why but it would lol