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    theres this guy i go to college with he is so hot! hes i great friend we decided that we are "friends with benefits" it feels like we are in a realtionship but were not. Thing is i get really hurt whn i hear hes been with other lassies and he doesnt look to happy him self whn i have been with other guys. im also confussed becoz im not sure if he has i girlfriend becoz he said they broke up but the other laddies in college r tellin me hes on and of with his girlfriend all the time. its causin alot of heartach i duno mayb friends with benefits isnt workin out for me has anyone else felt like this
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    A 'friend with benefits' is exactly that. They are not someone you should be particularly emotionally attached to.
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    Stop having heatache and getting hurt, you said its friends with benefits what do you expect?...
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    It's always harder for the girl because it's easier for her to get attached (need I say- HORMONES) =\
    I condone friends with benefits and similarly, **** buddies lol... but to be honest if it's going to cause you heartache then maybe a friend with benefits isn't for you? There's a possible friend with benefits for me but I'm scared I'll feel the same way you do!
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    The key to making this sort of arrangement work is to keep feelings out of it. Once feelings come into the picture, it just starts to go downhill from there...more often than not it doesn't end well.
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    totally i should probly stop things becoz i will just get hurt but sumtimes its worth it if you wana keep a good thing tht u got going, going
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    There are three sorts of relationships in the world to quote Mr. John Mayer:

    Friends

    Lovers

    ORRRR...

    Nothing

    Take your pick, because you can only be one of these. Blurring the lines and trying to come up with some new-age **** in terms of your relationship will only end badly.
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    only end badly unless you end it now. Or if you can restrain your emotions then there's no harm in keeping it going but I agree with Woolcott.
 
 
 
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