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    Ive been reading and seeing quite a few threads that say they have no friends/social life at uni, which has made me feel more scared about this september tbh!!

    I'm quite shy at first when I meet people, but once I find the right set of people like me I really come out of my shell, and am quite outgoing My first choice is hopefully going to be Surrey, so I think there is quite a diverse range of different personalities there (I guess at most unis though this is the case)

    So I just wanted peoples good experiences of their social life throughout uni, and how they made their group of close friends? Also who you chose to live with in the 2nd year.
    Just to cheer me up, and other people who may be worried about not making friends. Good stories only please, as I dont want to feel more scared!
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    I had a great time at university.

    I wasn't big on clubbing, though. I found most of my friends whilst working in voluntary roles throughout the uni, including within the SU and working on the student newspaper.
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    thats because most people on tsr spend so much time studying they dont have time to socialise, i've met some of the best friends ive got at uni, and im a bit like you. dont worry about it, and don't try too hard.
    uni is the chance for a fresh start, no one has any preconceptions about other people because you are all in the same boat.
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    Thanks for the replies anyone else have good experiences?
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    (Original post by ranbow99)
    Ive been reading and seeing quite a few threads that say they have no friends/social life at uni, which has made me feel more scared about this september tbh!!

    I'm quite shy at first when I meet people, but once I find the right set of people like me I really come out of my shell, and am quite outgoing My first choice is hopefully going to be Surrey, so I think there is quite a diverse range of different personalities there (I guess at most unis though this is the case)

    So I just wanted peoples good experiences of their social life throughout uni, and how they made their group of close friends? Also who you chose to live with in the 2nd year.
    Just to cheer me up, and other people who may be worried about not making friends. Good stories only please, as I dont want to feel more scared!
    lolz..
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    (Original post by Imson)
    lolz..
    Whats funny? I'm scared about uni and all these 'i'm alone at uni' threads are making me feel worse about it.
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    I met a girl who had 6 virgin friends. Suffice to say I worked my way through and had sex with them all. Then left them and have never seen them since.

    Good times :borat:
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    Loved being a fresher so much.
    Still am, brb, seeing friends in my kitchen
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    (Original post by ranbow99)
    Whats funny? I'm scared about uni and all these 'i'm alone at uni' threads are making me feel worse about it.
    im sorry about that:o: i just laughed when i saw u wrote 'just to cheer me up' anyway it doesnt matter that much of what others peoples experiences are

    You seem very confused and at odds about what you want. It's good you're researching the options, but remember that the experiences of other people won't necessarily translate to you

    what I'm looking to get out of the university experience is quite probably different to you and some people may not be enjoyin uni it doesn't mean it will happen to you

    It's hard to know what opinion you take - for all the people who say they not enjoyin it , you're also going to find people who love it.You shouldn't completely disregard personal accounts, just keep in mind they're personal accounts.
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    Tbh these forums are for people seeking advice on bad situations since no one needs advice on good situations, so you can see why they're all negative.

    I'm enjoying being at uni and the social aspect of living in halls. I've had to make the extra effort to get to know people and initiate convos (which I found you HAD to do in order to start an acquaintance-ship/friendship). I know lots of people in my hall by name and I love my friends on my corridor...though sometimes I wonder whether we're friends because of convenience....so....I very luckily made really good mates with two girls who live kind of near me but not on my corridor and I feel so much better now.
    I find that what other people say is true, you probs don't meet your 'real' friends until well into first year or even second year (I even heard someone say till Postgrad!!!)
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    my gosh! I'm shocked by the amount of people who haven't made many friends!

    I know I go to one of the smallest unis, so everyone knows everyone else anyway, but I had a solid group of friends by the 3rd day of term and none of them live in my flat or are on my course.
    Obviously I am friends with people on my course, my flatmates however are more like acquaintances but **** happens.

    I did however chat to around 1/2 of said group of friends before we even got to uni via. a uni forum.
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    No-one I know is best best friends with their flatmates here. I didn't meet my group of friends until a few weeks before Christmas and we don't all live in the same halls! I get on with my flatmates but they are by no means my social group (apart from maybe one girl). Not having my social group in my halls isn't an issue at all - it means I'm always out and about in the city having fun, and if we want a night in we'll all hang out together at someone's halls. You just have to make the effort to get to know people as I find that friendships in halls really are just friendships of convenience which usually peter out after a while.
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    (Original post by morfin)
    No-one I know is best best friends with their flatmates here. I didn't meet my group of friends until a few weeks before Christmas and we don't all live in the same halls! I get on with my flatmates but they are by no means my social group (apart from maybe one girl). Not having my social group in my halls isn't an issue at all - it means I'm always out and about in the city having fun, and if we want a night in we'll all hang out together at someone's halls. You just have to make the effort to get to know people as I find that friendships in halls really are just friendships of convenience which usually peter out after a while.
    That sounds good, how do you meet your group of friends outsdie halls? Do you just ask people if you can join with them for lunch or something?
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    (Original post by ranbow99)
    That sounds good, how do you meet your group of friends outsdie halls? Do you just ask people if you can join with them for lunch or something?
    I met a girl on my course and we had a really good night out together so consequently she introduced me to her group of friends who I've really clicked with and am living with next year you will always have more in common with coursemates than flatmates! I've also made some very good friends through one of my societies.
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    (Original post by morfin)
    No-one I know is best best friends with their flatmates here. I didn't meet my group of friends until a few weeks before Christmas and we don't all live in the same halls! I get on with my flatmates but they are by no means my social group (apart from maybe one girl). Not having my social group in my halls isn't an issue at all - it means I'm always out and about in the city having fun, and if we want a night in we'll all hang out together at someone's halls. You just have to make the effort to get to know people as I find that friendships in halls really are just friendships of convenience which usually peter out after a while.
    At lot of peopple at my uni have said the same thing...but I'm best mates with my housemates [who I lived with in my first year, and am living with in my third year!]. I guess we were just really lucky, but we all just clicked amazingly. I'll admit though that because of my friends being 'at home' as it were, I didn't put it much effort on my course, whereas most people I know have a close group of mates on the course, but not at home [well, until 2nd year]
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    I love my university friends... I am really close with one girl who I lived with in first year, am friends with a lot of coursemates and friends of friends, and have made some of the best friends I've ever made in my entire life. We meet up (even though we're situated around the country/world) in the holidays, and I can't wait til third year when I move in with some, and fourth year when I move in with everyone I go out, stay in, go for food, watch a film with them, and I don't care what I'm doing because we just have fun. University can be amazing
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    I feel the similar about Uni. Currently in a Gap year, but have some nice stories of some friends. One went to Birmingham and really struggled at first, partly due to flatmates who were anti-social to start with, but by persevering and not going home she ended up meeting a girl on a different course who she is now really close to, and they are so hilarious together. Also, she's really getting on with a flatmate now. She has lots of friends from different courses now, and a lot she has met through her friend. She also struggled with people on her course at first (she's doing fashion for those who are nosy like me), but now really enjoys being with a lot of them. I think it's the big change that can be disconcerting, and that although it may only take a couple or few weeks to settle it seems a long, long time because you're in a new situation and are feeling a bit sad/lonely.

    Another friend went to do a foundation year at Falmouth. She's had a fab time, and her flat is crazy. They eat sunday dinners together and have 'family afternoons', weird but cute. A lot of them visited her for her birthday over christmas in London, and she's also met a lot of people on her course (Art) she really gets on with.
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    I am one of the people who complain but only when i am in a bad mood. What you need to remember is that people who are enjoying themselves dont often feel the need to write about it on an internet forum, therefor you will only see the negative posts from people as the people enjoying themselves wont be posting things like 'i am sooo happy'

    I have had really great times with my friends, just chatting going out or cooking but i never post about those because when i am feeling down its the negative that get to me.

    Dont worry, smile and always look on the bright side. I am sure you'll enjoy uni
 
 
 
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