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    it is self explanatrory really, but the long and short of it is my two closest mates at uni are in a relationship, and that is fine. but when i am involved it feels like there is pressure on me to invite them to everything and if they don't fancy it i am not allowed to invite antone else. i was hanging out with one other mate the other day and i got called and asked what i was doing and when i said i was just hanging with them i was asked 'so are u not interested in us anymore'. i am allowed to be friends with other people as far as i can see and they should see this, if we are with anyone else in the group i don't mind that they hangout with other friends of ours, so why is it such a big deal. i am coming to the end of my patience i feel. i want to stay mates with them and do my best but it is possible to be friends without spending everyday with them and having no other friends, isn't it?
    Anyone got any advice on what to say or anything.
    any advice welcome
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    What are these m-eight-s you speak of?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    it is self explanatrory really, but the long and short of it is my two closest mates at uni are in a relationship, and that is fine. but when i am involved it feels like there is pressure on me to invite them to everything and if they don't fancy it i am not allowed to invite antone else. i was hanging out with one other mate the other day and i got called and asked what i was doing and when i said i was just hanging with them i was asked 'so are u not interested in us anymore'. i am allowed to be friends with other people as far as i can see and they should see this, if we are with anyone else in the group i don't mind that they hangout with other friends of ours, so why is it such a big deal. i am coming to the end of my patience i feel. i want to stay mates with them and do my best but it is possible to be friends without spending everyday with them and having no other friends, isn't it?
    Anyone got any advice on what to say or anything.
    any advice welcome
    Jesus H Christ. No wonder we are a country of idiots. Just talk to them and balance it out. If they can't deal with it, sod it. Seriously, man up!
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    all i was looking for really was something like that and a chance to get it off my chest
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    it is self explanatrory really, but the long and short of it is my two closest mates at uni are in a relationship, and that is fine. but when i am involved it feels like there is pressure on me to invite them to everything and if they don't fancy it i am not allowed to invite antone else. i was hanging out with one other mate the other day and i got called and asked what i was doing and when i said i was just hanging with them i was asked 'so are u not interested in us anymore'. i am allowed to be friends with other people as far as i can see and they should see this, if we are with anyone else in the group i don't mind that they hangout with other friends of ours, so why is it such a big deal. i am coming to the end of my patience i feel. i want to stay mates with them and do my best but it is possible to be friends without spending everyday with them and having no other friends, isn't it?
    Anyone got any advice on what to say or anything.
    any advice welcome




    This really sounds like what my best mate does to me, but she also does it with guys at clubs and parties etc (she has a boyfriend herself) I was really irritated by her behaviour; it felt as if she was controlling my life, and whenever I did something seemingly ‘unacceptable’ by her standards she was judging me! (Some of my other close friends even began to comment about it!) I have recently told her how I feel and the situation has become much better, perhaps you could politely explain how you feel to them My friend explained her behaviour as her way of protecting me?!
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    yeah i tried to tell them what i felt and it has resulted in the two of them decideing they need to control me even more. i can't do anything right for them and so i reckon it is no longer worth it. i can still see if the mates i have that live with them want to hangout with me and socialise but i honestly don't care anymore what these two ***** think of me. i will get by one way or the other. i hate that i have been put in this situation but at the end of the day it is the end for us as mates and life will go on.
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    Are they so uncomfortable being alone together that they need you so much? Relationship issues methinks.
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    Are they so uncomfortable being alone together that they need you so much? Relationship issues methinks.
    i don't think it is that cuz they practicaly live together and they seem to love being together but they don't like me making plans with other friends even if i have asked them. But if it was that then i don't think it is fair to put that pressure on me to maintain their relationship.
 
 
 
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