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    Everyone is shallow, sadly. Judging people based on appearance is pretty much hardcoded into us, which is why most people want to buy stylish clothes, want nice bodies and hair, etc — and seeing this on other people is generally appreciated too. Nothing particularly wrong with that, pretty much every animal does it.

    Sounds like you're just encountering those who emerged from the arse end of the world. Some people do get kicks from making people they perceive as successful/beautiful feel bad, using their flaws — which everyone has — to try and 'knock them down a few notches'. Confidence can encourage this even more, so outgoing people probably get it more than most.

    Don't worry about it; sheer probability dictates that a lot of people out there are filth. Good job there're plenty of good people to balance it out.
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    The reason people are so shallow is that instincts run deeper that the rational brain. People need instant gratification, they go by the basic animal instincts of find food, don't get killed and reproduce and there is not so much pressure nowadays not to behave that way.
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    (Original post by Simisanerd)
    Tell me about it! It sucks that some people can be soooo shallow.
    I partly blame the media, they make such a big deal out of apperance 'too fat', 'too thin', 'too tall', 'too short' It's all a load of cack.
    Of-couse apperance is important, but only to an extent.
    I believe that as long as your beautuful on the inside, it shines on the outside.



    The girl is obviously insecure and maybe a tad jealous.
    Don't worrry, there ARE genuinely nice people out there who don't judge you for your looks but for who your are!
    God it just annoys me, some peoples expectations that is - especially when as you say they dont look at themselves. It's like they have no sense of reality. Interestingly enough, the good looking girls I find seem to be less shallow generally; always the mingers that have a dig. Like the other night a hot girl I know pointed out her nose being crooked after I told her that she looked like someone in a picture.
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    (Original post by lora491)
    I'm not sure if I am understanding you correctly here but are you saying designer clothing is designed for people who are out of shape/have bad figures?
    The material and cut is better with designer clothing generally speaking. Shirts for example would go in at the waist, and if you are slim - you don't want to be wearing baggy clothing; you want to be wearing well fitted clothing.
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    People who criticize are nearly always insecure about themselves. They're just preempting the (in their eyes) insult.
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    You think this is hard, try living in some asian society...
    Even pretty people get rip apart because you need to have certain type of skin tones or size of eyes or nose and colour hair to be consider 'pretty'.

    As long as you are happy, that should be all that matter.

    Next time she start critising, tell her to STFU. :/
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    Because we are genetically pre-disposed to be so.

    That coupled with people's insecurities and percieved shortcomings mean every-one is shallow and will at some point judge some-one by their appearence.

    You can't deny this, if you say you never have then you're a liar.
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    (Original post by Chrosson)
    I think this appears to support your argument - http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1150635
    That is just cruel
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    (Original post by chronic_fatigue)
    That is just cruel
    Whoa! I didn't start the thread, dont blame me (I can't tell if you are or not).
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    Social conditioning brought on by photo-shopped celebrities.
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    Maybe you hang around with really shallow people? I think its pretty shallow make a point about all your clothes being designer.
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    (Original post by Chrosson)
    Whoa! I didn't start the thread, dont blame me (I can't tell if you are or not).
    Im not blaming you, im blaming the thread starter probably some insecure guy
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    Because I sleep better.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My dress sense is very good. All of my clothing are designer, and most of them are "fitted".
    Shallow much?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Recently I underwent a jaw op, anyway I lost A LOT of weight, and since then I have been unable to recover the weight I have lost - due to stress and a very active alcohol infused based lifestyle. If not partying I have been studying like mad.

    Anyway, I dont particularly like being skinny, 9 stone 10 at 6 ft = not good. I was 11 pre operation, but my dress sense is very good. All of my clothing are designer, and most of them are "fitted". But yeah, I'm skinny and you can still see it.

    So I was speaking to a girl today, out of nowhere she starts having a dig at me,calling me a bag of bones, how my style is **** and all this ****. On our previous meeting she was having another dig at me by sarcastically making a remark about my imperfections by using someone else as an example, i.e. I have a very bad hooked nose.

    For the most part I brush these comments off, but I am starting to see how people are so shallow generally, if it isn't me they are criticising, they end up critising someone else. Just recently on facebook, a couple of mates ended up taking the piss out of curvy women - setting up pro size 10 groups and all this ****. And I just cant see the point in it, cos they themselves dont look like supermodels.

    Irony with the first girl (that criticised me) above her eyes are crossed, and she is a bit pudgy and if I really wanted to I could have ripped her hard about her appearance but I chose not too.

    Why don't people just accept people are, accept the fact that if they choose to be a certain way then be it, and instead of critcising them, encourage them to do something that can help them improve say their weight or whatever? Rather then bashing them?
    It seems this girl is very insecure about herself (as is trying to make herself feel better) and is trying to divert attention away fro herself (you're not going to notice anything wrong with her if you are worrying about yourself).

    Don't be a wimp, if it happens again fight back and if she says anything just argue that she shouldn't dish is out if she can't take it back; just be carefull you don't take it too far or else you might end up looking like a prick. for example you said she is a bit lardy if she was to say anything about being skinny just ask her for a few pounds seeing as she seems to have plenty spare.
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    (Original post by Conorrr)
    It seems this girl is very insecure about herself (as is trying to make herself feel better) and is trying to divert attention away fro herself (you're not going to notice anything wrong with her if you are worrying about yourself).

    Don't be a wimp, if it happens again fight back and if she says anything just argue that she shouldn't dish is out if she can't take it back; just be carefull you don't take it too far or else you might end up looking like a prick. for example you said she is a bit lardy if she was to say anything about being skinny just ask her for a few pounds seeing as she seems to have plenty spare.
    Yeah normally I do have witty banter back, but there are times where I just cannot be ******. That is what happened here.

    As I said, I could have ripped her so easily, but then I couldnt be bother going down to her level.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah normally I do have witty banter back, but there are times where I just cannot be ******. That is what happened here.

    As I said, I could have ripped her so easily, but then I couldnt be bother going down to her level.
    if you just let her say mean things to you then she will always do it because it will make her feel better all you need to do is say that one thing and you wont bother you much more.
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    (Original post by nellydee)
    Simon Cowell must be the most insecure cow on Earth in that case...
    Haha perhaps. I think he just does it for show to make "good" TV.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The material and cut is better with designer clothing generally speaking. Shirts for example would go in at the waist, and if you are slim - you don't want to be wearing baggy clothing; you want to be wearing well fitted clothing.
    I agree with you, but I don't see how they would suit people who are out of shape I can imagine they are hideously unflattering on a girl with a big tummy or big thighs.
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    go to the gym fool!
 
 
 
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