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    Okay, so I've 'liked' this guy for a while now.
    He used to 'like' me, but one of his friends began 'liked' me and he moved on.
    Now we're pretty firmly in the friend zone... (I'm talking best friends.)

    Advice?
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    Start dressing sexier, being more flirtatious then make a move.
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    Ask him out. Sounds like he doesn't like playing games that are often associated with modern dating. He wont even compete with his friend. But be warned, he may have made up his mind and won't reciprocate, in which case shrug it off and move on to.
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    Good grief, I misread this as '(for a guy)' it's so common.
    If he liked you once, he could like you again.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay, so I've 'liked' this guy for a while now.
    He used to 'like' me, but one of his friends began 'liked' me and he moved on.
    Now we're pretty firmly in the friend zone... (I'm talking best friends.)

    Advice?
    I'm now in a relationship (and have been for over a year) with the guy who became my best friend at University. We were close for the first year and then in the second year we had our first and only major row which lead us to realise we wanted to be together and cared about each other in a deeper way than friends.

    Unless something drastic like that happens (and I don't reccommend it!), try talking to him? The old fashioned, honest approach? Tell him how you feel? If you can't do that, send him an email or letter?

    Or, you could invite him out somewhere and subtly drop it into conversation, if he rejects you, laugh it off and move on OR tell him that you understand and want to remain friends.

    Be certain you 100% want to be with him before rushing into anything because I know situations where friends -> lovers has gone horribly wrong. Just be aware of his feelings, his reactions and his interaction with you. Do some digging first, find out how he feels and try and pick up on the signals.

    It's funny, 50% of our friends said they saw it coming and the other 50% had no idea and said we were more like brother and sister. You sometimes have to let a friendship grow and form the roots for a stable relationship...without sounding cheesey "let love grow" haha!

    I wish you all the best, anyway! :yes:
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    Let him know you want to be more than friends is a start.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay, so I've 'liked' this guy for a while now.
    He used to 'like' me, but one of his friends began 'liked' me and he moved on.
    Now we're pretty firmly in the friend zone... (I'm talking best friends.)

    Advice?
    Depends. If you don't already, dress sexy, flirt a little bit (increased touching etc), and a key one is, again if you don't already, start working out. For a girl to get out of the friend zone, they just have to cross the line of attraction.
    And don't play games. Honesty should get you very far.
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    Depends. If you don't already, dress sexy, flirt a little bit (increased touching etc), and a key one is, again if you don't already, start working out. For a girl to get out of the friend zone, they just have to cross the line of attraction.
    And don't play games. Honesty should get you very far.
    Although I agree that honesty will go far... why should it be solely about appearance? Why would flirting/working out make her more attractive to him? I disagree that by "working out" he'll fall for her and they'll be in love and skip into the sunset holding hands.

    It frustrates me that I'm seeing this alot on forums at the moment. It's not all about looks!!
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    (Original post by Girl♥RadioHeart)
    Although I agree that honesty will go far... why should it be solely about appearance? Why would flirting/working out make her more attractive to him? I disagree that by "working out" he'll fall for her and they'll be in love and skip into the sunset holding hands.

    It frustrates me that I'm seeing this alot on forums at the moment. It's not all about looks!!
    Definitely not all about looks, but I think it's one way of hinting or to put the idea of you being a possible romantic partner in his head. Once the idea is in there it should be easier. He'll mull it over, maybe realize hidden feelings, etc. It's not the solution. Merely the catalyst.

    Anyway, most guys have probably entertained the idea of being romantically involved with a female friend at least once during their relationship. Probably early on while it was relatively new. But still. It was considered.
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    Viagra then sit on it.
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    just offer him a bj.
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    Show him your bajoobies babayyyyyyy :woo:
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    Ha ha. If you come on to any guy there is a 99% chance he won't resist, never mind someone who used to want yo buns in the first place.
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    (Original post by Girl♥RadioHeart)
    Although I agree that honesty will go far... why should it be solely about appearance? Why would flirting/working out make her more attractive to him? I disagree that by "working out" he'll fall for her and they'll be in love and skip into the sunset holding hands.

    It frustrates me that I'm seeing this alot on forums at the moment. It's not all about looks!!
    Look say something about the person though. Someone who works out generally has a good attitude towards health and is aware of their image, unlike someone who is obese as an example.
    Also as a general rule of thumb, most people can look better, and so this is where working out can be a big benefit.
    Plus guys are basic in that sense - if it looks good, you can't help but be attracted towards them in a way that goes beyond just talking & being friends. Flirting is just a hint towards being more than a friend, but if it was me, I like women just to be upfront about their feelings, so if the OP wants to just say to the guy how she feels, go for it, though most people don't have the courage to be so bold.
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    (Original post by SahilB91)
    Viagra then sit on it.
    Maybe not as extreme but yeah basically jump him then sit on it
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    Punch him in the face and kill his mum.

    I think that should get you out of the friend zone.

    As to how to then get into the sex zone; that's a bit trickier.
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    Guys don't have friend zones.

    Problem solved.
 
 
 
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