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When do we know when Love has hit us?

I've been wondering about this for a while - When exactly can we be srue that the relationship has got to the stage where we actually love the person we're with?
:confused:
I've been dating this guy for about a month, but we were friends long before that - but now we're going long distance... - within that month we both declared that we loved eachother - now that we are appart - i am beginnign to doubt myself.... BUt he doesn't seem to have given up... I feel terribly guilty signing off my email - love you - somethign like that... but then again i almost feel i do still... I am so confused - it's not very funny any more!!

can we say that Love is an emotion too great to understand - or that everyone's definition of love is unique - (think of the confusion that would cause!) - or is it... once we feel we've reached the same wavelength as the other person and we know and carefore that person through everything...

What does anyone else think - and what do I do??> :redface:
It's about as obvious as a nuke bigger than hiroshima landing in your bedroom.
Reply 2
cornflower_blue
I've been wondering about this for a while - When exactly can we be srue that the relationship has got to the stage where we actually love the person we're with?
:confused:
I've been dating this guy for about a month, but we were friends long before that - but now we're going long distance... - within that month we both declared that we loved eachother - now that we are appart - i am beginnign to doubt myself.... BUt he doesn't seem to have given up... I feel terribly guilty signing off my email - love you - somethign like that... but then again i almost feel i do still... I am so confused - it's not very funny any more!!

can we say that Love is an emotion too great to understand - or that everyone's definition of love is unique - (think of the confusion that would cause!) - or is it... once we feel we've reached the same wavelength as the other person and we know and carefore that person through everything...

What does anyone else think - and what do I do??> :redface:


Most people who have got experience will tell you you're in love when you forget about yourself...and the only person who counts is the person you love. The trouble is, a lot of people mistake dependence on someone for love.

Not that many people fall in love though. In this world, there are for more important issues that push people to get together: security, sex, money, power, social image...
SamTheMan
Most people who have got experience will tell you you're in love when you forget about yourself...and the only person who counts is the person you love. The trouble is, a lot of people mistake dependence on someone for love.

Not that many people fall in love though. In this world, there are for more important issues that push people to get together: security, sex, money, power, social image...


I agree with you - love isn't necessarly the strongest feature in a relationship... and i really like your definition - but that could be infactuation too... anything could make u forget about youself...
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cornflower_blue
I agree with you - love isn't necessarly the strongest feature in a relationship... and i really like your definition - but that could be infactuation too... anything could make u forget about youself...


Well I can't speak for myself. I've had ****** relationships. But I've noticed that some friends after a couple of years, despite having grown very attached to their girlfriend/boyfriend, decided to break up one day. They realised that they had only grown attached to their partner, become very dependent on them but that they weren't in love.

It takes time to realise what love is. I used to be convinced that I'd already been in love. After a couple of years, I'm not too sure. But anyone who will tell you that you have to be older to be in love is lying. When you become older, financial security and social image and sex become so much more important, that you become even more blinded. Ok, when you're a kid, your criteria for dating a guy might be pretty stupid: it could be because he's popular or because he has a style you like... but nothing stops you from developing strong feelings.

What happens though, is that when you grow older, you become better at interpreting your feelings and questionning them more.