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Being ostracised by so called friends
At the end of June i left school along with my friends after our A Levels. I had a close circle of school friends, we went out lots and i felt i could confide in them.
since the end of june i've only seen these friends once. i was surprised that things werent organised and did try to do some things but ppl werent interested. but tonight i have found out that these 'friends' have indeed done lots of things together eg beach, bluewater, going out but never with me. i have been in contact with all and when i asked have they seen whoever they always said no. now it turns out there were seeing each other, just without me. so i go to call them tonight and tell them i know, when guess what, they're all mysteriously out.
i've been thinking and the only issues i can think of is that my best friend isnt in this group and didnt go to our school, whilst in the year i had other ppl who i was v friendly with. in contrast my closest group of 'friends' were very insular.
obviously i'm upset about the situation but fortunately can fall back on other ppl but how should i take it from here? just say i'm fed up with this and dont really want anything to do with them (yet they've been my group of friends for the last five yrs at school)???
thanks
since the end of june i've only seen these friends once. i was surprised that things werent organised and did try to do some things but ppl werent interested. but tonight i have found out that these 'friends' have indeed done lots of things together eg beach, bluewater, going out but never with me. i have been in contact with all and when i asked have they seen whoever they always said no. now it turns out there were seeing each other, just without me. so i go to call them tonight and tell them i know, when guess what, they're all mysteriously out.
i've been thinking and the only issues i can think of is that my best friend isnt in this group and didnt go to our school, whilst in the year i had other ppl who i was v friendly with. in contrast my closest group of 'friends' were very insular.
obviously i'm upset about the situation but fortunately can fall back on other ppl but how should i take it from here? just say i'm fed up with this and dont really want anything to do with them (yet they've been my group of friends for the last five yrs at school)???
thanks
Similar things happened to me since leaving after the exams. I found out from one of them that they'd been to the cinema, met up around someones etc etc.
Its probably not that uncommon. I still talk to the people that are (hopefully) going to the same uni as me (UEA), and no doubt i'll meet lots of new people there as well.
Its probably not that uncommon. I still talk to the people that are (hopefully) going to the same uni as me (UEA), and no doubt i'll meet lots of new people there as well.
I think its one of those things that happen. People drift apart or just change, see opportunity and forget the past. Yes it can be very gurtful but at least your best friend is outside of school, outside of that group and when we go our seperate ways sometimes it is for the better. There will always be 'groups' but always that special person or few people.
It seems a little spiteful to me, more than absent minded and if they cannot admit to you certain things - perhaps they do not like something about you for whatever reason etc etc, then they are not worth the bother. It seems that there is no reason. Quite silly and pathetic really =0(
Don't get too down
It seems a little spiteful to me, more than absent minded and if they cannot admit to you certain things - perhaps they do not like something about you for whatever reason etc etc, then they are not worth the bother. It seems that there is no reason. Quite silly and pathetic really =0(
Don't get too down
i would feel v upset. i'm lucky as quite a few of my good friends want to meet up but saying that haven't seen others for weeks. i would talk to them and ask them why you haven't been included, one might be upset with you for whatever reason :s but if they're just discluding you for no other reason it sounds like you're better off seeing your other friends, and as others have said you'll make loads more at uni !
This happenned to me every year with school (different friends each year). I eventually learnt to enjoy my own company, which, although not always satisfactory, does not put you in a situation where this can happen. My advice would be to enjoy the summer in whatever ay you can without them and keep looking forward. I'm sorry they've put you through this.
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At the end of June i left school along with my friends after our A Levels. I had a close circle of school friends, we went out lots and i felt i could confide in them.
since the end of june i've only seen these friends once. i was surprised that things werent organised and did try to do some things but ppl werent interested. but tonight i have found out that these 'friends' have indeed done lots of things together eg beach, bluewater, going out but never with me. i have been in contact with all and when i asked have they seen whoever they always said no. now it turns out there were seeing each other, just without me. so i go to call them tonight and tell them i know, when guess what, they're all mysteriously out.
i've been thinking and the only issues i can think of is that my best friend isnt in this group and didnt go to our school, whilst in the year i had other ppl who i was v friendly with. in contrast my closest group of 'friends' were very insular.
obviously i'm upset about the situation but fortunately can fall back on other ppl but how should i take it from here? just say i'm fed up with this and dont really want anything to do with them (yet they've been my group of friends for the last five yrs at school)???
thanks
since the end of june i've only seen these friends once. i was surprised that things werent organised and did try to do some things but ppl werent interested. but tonight i have found out that these 'friends' have indeed done lots of things together eg beach, bluewater, going out but never with me. i have been in contact with all and when i asked have they seen whoever they always said no. now it turns out there were seeing each other, just without me. so i go to call them tonight and tell them i know, when guess what, they're all mysteriously out.
i've been thinking and the only issues i can think of is that my best friend isnt in this group and didnt go to our school, whilst in the year i had other ppl who i was v friendly with. in contrast my closest group of 'friends' were very insular.
obviously i'm upset about the situation but fortunately can fall back on other ppl but how should i take it from here? just say i'm fed up with this and dont really want anything to do with them (yet they've been my group of friends for the last five yrs at school)???
thanks
girls are just bitches. Youll make madder mates at uni ill bet.
yeah i always has issues with friends at school. i never really found close group to hand out with. But since i've come to Uni I've made loads of really good friends, including one who has become my boyfriend of 9 months.
So don't worry. do your best to keep in contact - don't close any doors - but move on and find real friends at uni!
So don't worry. do your best to keep in contact - don't close any doors - but move on and find real friends at uni!
Friends tend to fall apart after leaving school. My best friend left after year 12 and though i've seen her a few times i haven't seen her as much as i did during year 12 even not including at school, we'd go out in the evenings. Since she left i became closer and best friends with another friend and i haven't seen him since the Summer ball although i have texted him and we had short conversations on MSN.
i'm in a similar situation, but i'm in year twelve, so i have a whole year left of school with my old mates either ignoring me or being bitchy. Thing is, as i was forced out by them, i have loads more friends than i did when i belonged the tight knit little group, and it's great. Don't worry about it, move on and make new friends, they will regret being so mean when you are way more popular than them!
tha happened to me with my 'school friends' so now im just spending lots more time with my friends who i didnt really see in school. they're much better friends cuz they survive not seeing them everyday
Thats sounds like the epitome of year eight friendships and judging on their actions they arent worth your time. You dont want to spend time with people like that anyway.
If you dont want to also let go of them altogether then get in touch indiviually with those that you preferred in the group. They sound pathetic though, peacenik
If you dont want to also let go of them altogether then get in touch indiviually with those that you preferred in the group. They sound pathetic though, peacenik
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