When I got together with my girlfriend I was relatively inexperienced sexually. We've been together 3 months. When we first had sex, after about a week, the first time we tried it, we tried to use a condom, however, I put it on and just completely lost my erection, and couldn't get it back. Then the next night we tried again and the exact same thing happened. She then told me she was on the pill too, and we decided from then on to just not use a condom and she would carry on using the pill. We have been having sex regularly like this from then on.
However, the other night she said she forgot to take her pill and could we try using a condom, so I agreed. She told me this in the middle of foreplay, I was hard, but as soon as she mentioned a condom I got all nervous and lost my erection, I guess because of what happened before. I did get it back, but we decided just to leave it for the night.
She then told me that she'd like to start using condoms as well as using the pill, just to be extra safe. Now, part of me feels that this is unneccessary, and that using the pill is enough. However, I also want her to feel happy and secure when we are having sex.
So I ask does anyone have any experience or advice they could offer? Is it really necessary to use both forms of contraception? And how do you think I can stop losing my erection when trying to use a condom?
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- Thread Starter
- 18-01-2010 10:38
- 20-01-2010 00:05
There are other forms of contraception she could try, like the implant for example, if you read the stickies on the top of this forum you could suggest some of those if she's worried.
- 20-01-2010 02:06
i know this may sound a bit weird but maybe you should practise putting on ur condom when you're alone at home or something, just to see if you can still keep your erection. because i think its you start thinking '****, my erections gonna go like last time' and because thats on your mind (instead of perhaps sexy thoughts), it ends up happening. just a suggestion
- 20-01-2010 20:49
Try masturbating while wearing a condom.
- 20-01-2010 22:37
she is not being unreasonable but responsible young woman , you should try alone and see what happens shes doing her bit so u should too
- 21-01-2010 17:17
That's ridiculous. If she's that concerned about not being pregnant she should just stop having sex. The pill is fine as a contraceptive. And there's plenty other methods.
- 23-01-2010 07:30
But condoms do offer protection from STI's so it is very responsible of her.