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    So basically my mate met this random guy at a club on Saturday and they swapped numbers etc. She was meant to go out with me and some other mates on Monday night, but declined because she "has no money". I then get a text from her saying how excited she is that this random guy asked her out on a date on Monday night and how she has suddenly realised she has enough money to go out.

    What happened to mates before dates? ¬_¬

    Why can't people lie successfully?

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    i reckon you're right to be angry. tell her you are annoyed, hopefully she'll say sorry, job done. otherwise you need to explain to her a bit that just because there's a guy on the scene she can't start neglecting her friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What happened to mates before dates? ¬_¬

    Why can't people lie successfully?
    They changed that to dates before mates 7 days ago.

    I don't know
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    Girls do this all the time perhaps she has been single for a while or just loves the attention?
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    I'd certainly make more of an effort for a date rather than just a night out with a mate. I've borrowed money to invest in a night out with a potential future rather than just another night out.
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    She's probably hoping on him paying.
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    I'd certainly make more of an effort for a date rather than just a night out with a mate. I've borrowed money to invest in a night out with a potential future rather than just another night out.
    I'd rather she just say she didn't want to go out and honour that decision rather than fly to the whims of some randomer she met on Saturday night. I mean, there's the rest the of the week to go out.
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    give her a break, let the girl have a date. what are you... jealous?
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    I'd rather she just say she didn't want to go out and honour that decision rather than fly to the whims of some randomer she met on Saturday night. I mean, there's the rest the of the week to go out.
    No, what I'm saying is that she probably didn't have any money to go out but because something potentially special came along she's borrowed the money or something, something not worth doing for just another night out.
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    give her a break, let the girl have a date. what are you... jealous?
    I don't mind her having a date :rolleyes: I do mind having to change my plans at the last minute when there are other people involved too because she decides she wants to jump for this random guy.
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    That's whats goin around everyday in this world!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't mind her having a date :rolleyes: I do mind having to change my plans at the last minute when there are other people involved too because she decides she wants to jump for this random guy.
    i know i know, you're right.... but i guess just from her perspective you are her mates, you're gonna be there for nights out all the time, she might see this as once chance with this guy, like if she turns him down he won't bother asking again *shrug*
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't mind her having a date :rolleyes: I do mind having to change my plans at the last minute when there are other people involved too because she decides she wants to jump for this random guy.
    Your plans would have been altered had she picked up a date or not. If she's only just found out that she's off out on a date with him, then it didn't affect her earlier decision in saying that she won't be going out with you, so your plans remain unchanged. If she knew beforehand, then she would've just said, "Sorry, I'm out on a date."

    She might get paid before then, sees a potential partner, can go out with you anytime but would seem strange to turn down a first date, or she's banking on him paying.

    If you're really upset, then talk to her about it. There could be a ton of reasons, and it's probably not as black and white as you're seeing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No, what I'm saying is that she probably didn't have any money to go out but because something potentially special came along she's borrowed the money or something, something not worth doing for just another night out.
    fair enough :dontknow:
    Anyway, if you're her friend you have to acknowledge that dates are important to her? You should be happy for her that she's found someone she likes rather than seething in some sort of obsessive jealous rage that she chose him over a normal night out. First date > just another boring night pretty much every time.
    e: also changing your plans is bull. You knew she wasn't coming from the outset, so don't try and make your friend seem like the bad one here.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So basically my mate met this random guy at a club on Saturday and they swapped numbers etc. She was meant to go out with me and some other mates on Monday night, but declined because she "has no money". I then get a text from her saying how excited she is that this random guy asked her out on a date on Monday night and how she has suddenly realised she has enough money to go out.

    What happened to mates before dates? ¬_¬

    Why can't people lie successfully?

    Discuss.
    Why don't you tag along? germaine tagged along with bret and it worked out fine..

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pY8jaGs7xJ0

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    no your not.
    she said she'd go out with you, and when she didn't keep her promise, she lied.
    if there was a really good reason why she couldn't reschedule, she should have asked you about it and explained why its so important she accepts his invitation to go out monday night
 
 
 
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