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Dad treating mum like crap
Does any one have this problem with their parents? I don't mean like domestic abuse or anything but just not being very fair or nice 
I've realised lately that my dad shows no respect for my mum. He can't give her a straight answer to any question she asks, he doesn't acknowledge her when she talks and blames her for everything. I'm ashamed to admit that not that long ago, i used to sort of join in with this and had no respect for my mum. But recently i've been spending more time with her and have become closer to her and now i feel bad for her. More than that, i started crying tonight in the livingroom because all night my dad has been acting really moody towards my mum but fine with everyone else.
For instance, my little sister, for some reason, left my mums shoes lying in the middle of the floor, and my dad tripped over them. He kicked them across the room and started shouting that it was a stupid place to leave shoes. I knew where it was going. He was going to start blaming my mum and have a moan about how stupid she was and it would just upset my mum so i shouted (and i mean really shouted at him) that it was my little sisters fault and he shouldn't bother blaming my mum. I don't know why its upsetting me so much all of a sudden cos before, i couldn't give a damn if they went as far as splitting up, but it is. Sorry that was so long had to get it off my chest but yeah, would really like to know if anyone else has went through this or something similar. Thanks if you managed to read that.
I've realised lately that my dad shows no respect for my mum. He can't give her a straight answer to any question she asks, he doesn't acknowledge her when she talks and blames her for everything. I'm ashamed to admit that not that long ago, i used to sort of join in with this and had no respect for my mum. But recently i've been spending more time with her and have become closer to her and now i feel bad for her. More than that, i started crying tonight in the livingroom because all night my dad has been acting really moody towards my mum but fine with everyone else.
For instance, my little sister, for some reason, left my mums shoes lying in the middle of the floor, and my dad tripped over them. He kicked them across the room and started shouting that it was a stupid place to leave shoes. I knew where it was going. He was going to start blaming my mum and have a moan about how stupid she was and it would just upset my mum so i shouted (and i mean really shouted at him) that it was my little sisters fault and he shouldn't bother blaming my mum. I don't know why its upsetting me so much all of a sudden cos before, i couldn't give a damn if they went as far as splitting up, but it is. Sorry that was so long had to get it off my chest but yeah, would really like to know if anyone else has went through this or something similar. Thanks if you managed to read that.
My dad used to treat my mum like that, and when i was 9 he just disappeared over christmas, (was working away) and it got to the point where my mum was so upset that she mustered up teh strength to stand up to him, and as sooon as she realised that this wasn't how she was meant to be treated, and started becomming strong, with us children behind her, she was a new woman. It was the best thing ever when he left, we were allowed to do anything that we wanted, having had to be quiet all the time and having to be at his beck and call...
To be honest, you just have to make your mum as strong as she can be... sounds like their relationship isn't really going to last, and splitting up isn't as bad as people make out, for us it was liberation! Don't know if i'm much help, but good luck! I hope that everything works out for you!
To be honest, you just have to make your mum as strong as she can be... sounds like their relationship isn't really going to last, and splitting up isn't as bad as people make out, for us it was liberation! Don't know if i'm much help, but good luck! I hope that everything works out for you!
I'm really sorry for your mom,just try to help her always,and your dad shouldn't have yelled at your mom,maybe it's just out of rage and anger,yet that is no reason,standing up for your mom must have meant alot to her,and you did that because now you must have realised that your mom is not your enemy
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My dad used to treat my mum like that, and when i was 9 he just disappeared over christmas, (was working away) and it got to the point where my mum was so upset that she mustered up teh strength to stand up to him, and as sooon as she realised that this wasn't how she was meant to be treated, and started becomming strong, with us children behind her, she was a new woman. It was the best thing ever when he left, we were allowed to do anything that we wanted, having had to be quiet all the time and having to be at his beck and call...
To be honest, you just have to make your mum as strong as she can be... sounds like their relationship isn't really going to last, and splitting up isn't as bad as people make out, for us it was liberation! Don't know if i'm much help, but good luck! I hope that everything works out for you!
To be honest, you just have to make your mum as strong as she can be... sounds like their relationship isn't really going to last, and splitting up isn't as bad as people make out, for us it was liberation! Don't know if i'm much help, but good luck! I hope that everything works out for you!
Thanks
I think my mums started realising that. She told me that she's going to start becoming more independent and go out and get a job once my youngest sister starts school after the summer. Although, my dad doesn't sound half as bad as your dad. 
He's a great dad and all, and he doesn't order us all about and make us stay quiet. He just... isn't very nice to my mum.need_money
Thanks I think my mums started realising that. She told me that she's going to start becoming more independent and go out and get a job once my youngest sister starts school after the summer. Although, my dad doesn't sound half as bad as your dad. He's a great dad and all, and he doesn't order us all about and make us stay quiet. He just... isn't very nice to my mum.
I think my mums started realising that. She told me that she's going to start becoming more independent and go out and get a job once my youngest sister starts school after the summer. Although, my dad doesn't sound half as bad as your dad. He's a great dad and all, and he doesn't order us all about and make us stay quiet. He just... isn't very nice to my mum.You'll all be ok... our dad leaving was the best thing that happened to us! and we are the tightest 4 ever... me my two younger brothers, and mum are unbreakable!
When your mum gets her independence it will sort her out, just stay on her side, like you are! as she needs you!
and don't take it out on your dad either... he sounds great!
Ditto. Support her and show her that you care even though it may seem that he doesn't. If this is sudden then I truly hope that things can go back to the way they are. Always remember that you are not to blame and try not to take it all on, but see it from both sides if possible. On a personal note I know what you are experiencing can be very upseting, resulting in unusual behaviour. But you be strong too and enjoy life =0)
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