Still annoying friend: new problem

well plan lots of cool things to do so she wont...

If she's coming to stay with you and the original plan was actually to stay with YOU then it is only good manners that she stick with you and not run off with your friend, and if your friend is insisting on taking her away knowing full well that you are gonna be left completely alone then she is really being very selfish.

no the plan is she stays half the time at mine half the time at my best friends.
my friend is put in the middle and says she doesnt mind what she does.
im having a huge argument with my friend at the moment on msn. shes making me so angry

lauren i know im 18 and i still cant go im living under my parents roof and intend of doing so for a couple more years.

Is the party happening at the time she is with you or with your friend? Because if it is while she is with you then it is still only good manners that she stay with you but if it is while she is with your friend then I don't see how you can stop her and its only fair on your friend that she goes.

Out of interest, where is 'somewhere over the rainbow'?

Is this friend from England a good friend of your best friend as well? Surely it's up to her what she does in her time over the rainbow, if she says she's going to stick with you, why assume she won't? Why won't your parents let you go to celebrate your friend's Birthday? Can't you persuade them otherwise?

hey, how you doing
i think you should speak to your best mate, and tell her the way you feel, and that you want to spend as much time as possible with your friend while she is here (i think your best mate will understand, and will stop asking your friend to come to the party as she will take into account your feelings about it)

You're 18: go with them.

Basically...

Why are your parents stoppping you from going?

thats the thing we havent organised if shes staying at mine or hers yet.
if shes going to the party then shes staying at hers those four days and if she isnt then at mine but thats not what im worried about.
im just angry that she thinks she can take her away.

I'm just a tad worried that you speak of your friend like she's an object to be fought over between you and your "best friend".

There's no "taking her away" cus if she goes it's her choice.

If this "best friend" of yours really is your best friend, even if she is annoying, then surely she'll listen to you and understand? Have you talked to her and told her you think it's unfair? - and not in an irritated manner I mean really talk.

And anyway people who insist things like that in the end I just flip out at them and they end up ruining the entire friendship. The way your best friend is going about things, soon she's gonna lose all of her friends. If you hate her that much, maybe you can think about this and either be sympathetic or smirk - I advise be sympathetic, but wouldn't blame you if you had to grin. lol cus I have a friend who persists in asking questions that he knows clearly makes me uncomfortable and has now caused me to avoid him completely.

No offence intended at all, but I think your parents are being over-protective because you're not acting 18. You sound like my 13 year old sister (again, not trying to offend, she's my sis and I love her). Stop being so possessive of your mutual friend, and instead of bitching about the other girl, have a word with her. If you calm down and speak to her in a mature way, then she'll listen and stop with the sarky comments. But while you're acting like this, you're sinking to her level and she's unlikely to listen to you. Plus, when you continue with this kind of attitude, you can't really accuse her of being childish or whatever (which she is, I totally agree with you there), because that would be very hypocritical.

I also think if your parents gave you some space and responsibility, you would learn to handle this kind of thing with no problem. Tell your "friend" to grow up or piss off, and let your other friend decide for herself. And get a new best friend!

so my best friend is still annoying me
another one of my friends from england is coming down for a week and my "bestfriend" is going to another town for the weekend to celebrate one of our other friends birthday.(i know its hard to follow but bear with me please!) so my best friend insists on taking our friend with her for 2 days and leaving me alone.

thing is i cant go to the birthday thing cos my parents wont let me and they all know that. my best friend has no right on taking her with. she can invite her but she insists on taking her, not taking into account any of my feelings.

our friend, when back in england planning all of this said no no im gonna stay with christina( me) when u go what am i gonna do with u and kept insisting.

i dunno what to do cos im afraid my "bestfriend" will manage to convince her to go and im gonna hate her so much if she does.

No offence intended at all, but I think your parents are being over-protective because you're not acting 18. You sound like my 13 year old sister (again, not trying to offend, she's my sis and I love her). Stop being so possessive of your mutual friend, and instead of bitching about the other girl, have a word with her. If you calm down and speak to her in a mature way, then she'll listen and stop with the sarky comments. But while you're acting like this, you're sinking to her level and she's unlikely to listen to you. Plus, when you continue with this kind of attitude, you can't really accuse her of being childish or whatever (which she is, I totally agree with you there), because that would be very hypocritical.