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Keep missing opportunities or just wishful thinking? watch

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    I keep thinking that perhaps I could have had a chance with a guy and then was too shy to get anywhere close.

    For example, with a group at the pub, there was this guy with whom I'd make eye contact regularly and who'd smile at me. He was explaining something to another girl and yet he'd look at me. Or we'd make eye contact and smile about something someone else did. We didn't have an extended conversation or anything but we did talk a bit. I saw him as "potential" before and put as much effort in as I dared. BUT nothing ever happened - no further contact.

    Or there's this guy with whom I think I was quite flirty (for my standards anyhow) and I really did fancy him but I think it morphed into friendly banter more than anything else because it never went past that stage.

    I was bullied extensivly in school and although I've gained a lot of confidence at Uni, I still have trust issues around other people. I don't like making myself vulnerable so I'd never admit that I liked someone, even to my closest friends.

    So the question is, how do I get over that and become more proactive? I know what I should do (text someone more/add them on fb to make initial contact etc) but I'm too scared.
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