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    I'm a 1st year university student. I've managed to make some really good friends and groups of friends off my course, including people in my corridor, in other corridors of my accommodation and in other accommodations too.

    On my course is a completely different matter :cry: I made 2 friends to begin with but when I started skipping a few too many lectures in the middle of last term, they got quite close and are now bf and gf. They don't like me hanging around them anymore and it feels awkward. I know a few people here and there, who I can talk to occasionally if the opportunity comes up, but no solid group. I feel so self-conscious of sitting on my own in lectures that I skip most of them now. I've skipped about 90% of lectures this term and I don't see this getting any better as long as I have no group of friends to be with. Striking up random conversations with people feels silly, wrong and just weird.

    Is there a solution to my problem? have other people experienced this? I'm fine off my course with friends but I can't face the lecture halls on my own when everyone else is with their friends and enjoying things Please help TSR!
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    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.

    This, but in a less harshly-worded manner. Lectures aren't exactly ideal for socialising anyway.
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.
    Thats the spirit, i wish all of tsr members were like you
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.
    God dammit i agree!
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    You'd be more likely to make friends with people on your course if you actually went to the lectures.
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    its actually better not having friends in lectures, you can concentrate and get a good degree
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.
    Easier said than done I would look weird sitting on my own all the time and I need to have some friends to talk to during the day. I can't survive going to lectures and not having people to talk to.
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    Its better that you have friends outside your course then in your course. Just sit with aqaintances and start chatting, i'm sure they're all nice
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    (Original post by xmarilynx)
    You'd be more likely to make friends with people on your course if you actually went to the lectures.
    Yes I know that if I skip lectures, I won't make any friends. but its got to the point where everyone has formed their own groups and it seems impossible to make friends with people. or just people I chat to in lectures.

    also, if I have people I am friends with on my course, we can do work together (I know I should learn on my own but sometimes its useful to learn from working with a group. I cant do that at the moment )
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    Easier said than done I would look weird sitting on my own all the time and I need to have some friends to talk to during the day. I can't survive going to lectures and not having people to talk to.
    Actually, if you sit on your own and look confident I guarantee no one will think you're weird. It will actually be quite the opposite.
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Wtf
    Quit being a *****, go to your god damn lectures to learn the god damn subject. Outside of your subject you can socialize all you god damn want.

    God damn sake.

    This really. How do you expect to make any friends if you don't go to your lectures? Haven't you tried the 'Oh dear I've dropped my pen' technique? Great way to start convos
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a 1st year university student. I've managed to make some really good friends and groups of friends off my course, including people in my corridor, in other corridors of my accommodation and in other accommodations too.

    On my course is a completely different matter :cry: I made 2 friends to begin with but when I started skipping a few too many lectures in the middle of last term, they got quite close and are now bf and gf. They don't like me hanging around them anymore and it feels awkward. I know a few people here and there, who I can talk to occasionally if the opportunity comes up, but no solid group. I feel so self-conscious of sitting on my own in lectures that I skip most of them now. I've skipped about 90% of lectures this term and I don't see this getting any better as long as I have no group of friends to be with. Striking up random conversations with people feels silly, wrong and just weird.

    Is there a solution to my problem? have other people experienced this? I'm fine off my course with friends but I can't face the lecture halls on my own when everyone else is with their friends and enjoying things Please help TSR!

    what course do u do and where?
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    (Original post by Mango24)
    This really. How do you expect to make any friends if you don't go to your lectures? Haven't you tried the 'Oh dear I've dropped my pen' technique? Great way to start convos
    You wait for people to approach you. Make small talk in a que. When you act aloof around people, and then interact with them they become fascinated with you because you're giving them attention and as when they previously associate you with ignoring everyone, it makes them feel 'special'.
 
 
 
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