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    I am now in my second year at uni and I still dread going to lectures because I have no solid group of friends on my course. (I'm a guy btw). I have people who I know but aren't great friends with.

    I would consider my 'group' to be my housemates but I'm starting to want to mix with others. It is weird -

    my housemates think I can get on with anyone instantly. Within our social group, I am always the first to make a big impression on new people. I am usually cheerful and just making people laugh.

    But on my course, because I'm alone possibly(?), I'm rubbish at socialising with people. It instantly knocks my confidence, and therefore I can be uncomfortable when talking to them because I think they think I'm some weird loner. Also, people are quite cliquey. Now that we're well into year 2, everyone has their group of friends. I would say I have one mate who I sit with in lectures, but he usually bunks and he doesn't do a few of my modules... so I consequently miss lectures too (yes I know, it's pathetic).

    Does anyone have any tips? I'd like to get to know my coursemates better. I'd really like to get in with a lot of them and gain a wider set of friends. Also, I think it may be related to my social skills. I'm not gonna lie, a lot of the people I've met have been on nights out so I'm usually off my face which amuses them and instantly makes them like me, I suppose. Any tips?...
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