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    I know it's nothing new but it is something that has bugged me and probably added to the whole problem. My girlfriend, quite wrongly, have had sex (for like a minute or something though, then realised it was stupid) without using a condom and it's been fairly fine and I've been able to maintain an erection easily so it's not really the worry of having sex. But, I don't know, whenever we've tried using a condom (about 4 times now) I just lose my erection and it's really annoying and sort of embarrasses me cause I feel like something is wrong with me.

    It's like I get anxious even though I've had sex before and it's with the same person if we think about using the condom - I guess because it's failed before and so now I automatically think I'll lose the erection and it won't work. Just wondering exactly what I can do about it. Tried getting her to put it on me but even that didn't work so now I'm just clueless.
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    It's more of a psychological thing than anything. This is probably more common than you think.

    Anxiety/nerves can affect you and a condom that is too tight can as well. You'll probably become more relaxed about the issue with time. Also, google kegels; a strong PC muscle helps with erection quality.
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    It's more of a psychological thing than anything. This is probably more common than you think.

    Anxiety/nerves can affect you and a condom that is too tight can as well. You'll probably become more relaxed about the issue with time. Also, google kegels; a strong PC muscle helps with erection quality.
    I do feel as though the condom is too tight but I really don't know if this is normal or maybe I need to get a bigger size. I mean I get normal/regular size and it is annoying because of the tightness but I've never tried getting larger ones because I'm worried it'll be far too large and slip out easily or something.

    Is there anywhere like a chart or something to see what size you should have for certain girth/length?
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    why don't you buy a packet and try it by yourself? Use it when you masturbate and get comfortable with wearing it.
    If it is too big, at least you will have tried. I had the same problem and found that masturbating with it a few times helped reassure me
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    dw I'll send my girl right over, she will sort you out

    lol but seriously, when you masturbate try it then. Try sticking one on while you are watching porn or whatever just to get comfortable with it. Also see if you can get her to put it on, that may take some stress off you. goodluck.
 
 
 
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