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    Hello,

    I've been in a relationship with my gf for a while now, coming up to a year. I'm currently at Uni while she is still back home. Throughout the first term, everything went absolutely perfectly, I would go back and see her at weekends and then have a great time in the week at Uni, no problems.

    However, over the Christmas period, when I went home for around a month I felt my feelings start to change towards her. I felt that 'spark' burning out, and starting to reconsider what I wanted. I've been stuck in between ending it, moving on and just getting on with my life at Uni, or continuing with and seeing how it goes.

    After all, a month is a long time and I suppose any couple would get on each other's nerves if they saw eachother everyday. I've only been settled back into Uni for a few days now and already I'm missing her, but I just don't know what to do. I've never been one for sleeping around, going out on the pull or these kinds of things, its just not me, and I know the grass is unlikely to be greener on the other side, but I just feel like I'm missing out. On the other hand, if I decide to end it and discover that the single life is not for me, it'll be too late to fix things and I'll be left with nothing.

    Any ideas?
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    I'd see how it goes, see what it's like the next time you see her, and if you feel 'that spark'. Thing is, you might just be comfortable with her- if so, I'd end it. Don't stay with her because you're comfortable and don't want to be alone, and afraid of hurting her. You should want to be with her.
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    I do want to be with her, but at the same time, yes I do feel comfortable. I'm determined to make a go of it though, and not fall at the first hurdle. Perhaps we just need to introduce something new to the relationship, something different? I does feel as though we've been coasting all this time.
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    (Original post by alex345)
    I do want to be with her, but at the same time, yes I do feel comfortable. I'm determined to make a go of it though, and not fall at the first hurdle. Perhaps we just need to introduce something new to the relationship, something different? I does feel as though we've been coasting all this time.
    Er, like what? Actually don't tell me.

    If you want to make a go of it, do. If you think it's worth it, work on it, and if you still have doubts I guess you'll know it's not meant to be.
 
 
 
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