Why do I end up with girls who aren't attracted physically?

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Quite a few girls I've gone out with have admitted that the first time they saw me, they weren't particularly attracted physically but then attraction developed. Does that happen a lot? I'm 23 and still don't get how girls are attracted...

I know girls who have found me attractive the first day I met them but never girls I would find attractive or that I could go out with. Actually thinking about it, apart from one or two exceptions, most of the girls I've gone out with I haven't been extremely attracted to physically either.

Strange

What a sad post this is :frown:

Reply 1

alio~

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SamTheMan

Quite a few girls I've gone out with have admitted that the first time they saw me, they weren't particularly attracted physically but then attraction developed. Does that happen a lot? I'm 23 and still don't get how girls are attracted...

I know girls who have found me attractive the first day I met them but never girls I would find attractive or that I could go out with. Actually thinking about it, apart from one or two exceptions, most of the girls I've gone out with I haven't been extremely attracted to physically either.

Strange

What a sad post this is :frown:

Shows you have a mega good personality firstly since you got the girl to go out with you at first plus youv'e changed her opinion of your attractiveness to positive :smile:

Reply 2

kriztinae

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when it comes down to it its about both personality and looks.
for them to have gone out with u in the first place means they were at least slightly attracted to u no matter what they say, and its your personality that kept them there and made the attraction stronger.

i dont find myself wanting to be with a person if i dont know their personality. i can fancy someone and not want to be with them!

at the end of the day its all about personality so dont worry :wink:

plus you're fit so shhhh :cool:

Reply 3

Sophdoph

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I think lust starts the process, hence immediate attraction, then "love" takes over where it becomes more about personality and other factors, so maybe the intial attraction is reduced?

Reply 4

viviki

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people tend to grow on me there aren't many blokes that I've been turned on by (by looks) the first time I've seen them.

Reply 5

Logan

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Sometimes the face does not matter.. But that does not mean you are ugly. I think you are onse super cool guy, women tend to stick to guys who cares a lot for em. Maybe they say that because they want to say.. "I'm with u cuz I like the way you are". :smile:

Reply 6

Ellie4

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Weird... I thought lots of girls fancied Matt Damon :p:

Reply 7

IZZY!

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yer i also think looks are not that important. self confidence and personality and the keys for the girl's heart.lol.

Reply 8

Adarah

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Ellie4

Weird... I thought lots of girls fancied Matt Damon :p:

urgh, no he's ugly ...

:p:

Sam, it is alot about personality, as others have said, it normally starts with physical attraction (i mean, mainly because you don't know that guy, so how can it start otherwise - so even if they say they weren't like really attracted to you physically, they were at least a bit - like with you and your girlfriends).
Not being really attracted physically to your partner at first is not 'sad' - its sad when people are so concerned with looks that that's all they can care about and don't understand how attractive certain character traits are. So you are the opposite of sad :smile:

Reply 9

SamTheMan

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Adarah

urgh, no he's ugly ...

:p:

You see Ellie, it's possible not to be attracted by me :rolleyes:

Adarah

Sam, it is alot about personality, as others have said, it normally starts with physical attraction (i mean, mainly because you don't know that guy, so how can it start otherwise -

Well no, apparently with this ex it started the first time we talked. When she saw me, there was nothing there...

Adarah

so even if they say they weren't like really attracted to you physically, they were at least a bit - like with you and your girlfriends).

Not at all actually. I had one girlfriend who I first saw at a party and apparently, despite not remembering staring at her (I actually walked another girl home that night :rolleyes:

), she remembers noticing me and thinking "Why the **** does that strange guy keep staring at me"?

Adarah

Not being really attracted physically to your partner at first is not 'sad' - its sad when people are so concerned with looks that that's all they can care about and don't understand how attractive certain character traits are. So you are the opposite of sad :smile:

I was saying my post was sad because it sounds like a desperate plea for help. Pathetic :p:

But how else am I ever going to solve this mysterious problem?

Reply 10

Ellie4

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SamTheMan

You see Ellie, it's possible not to be attracted by me :rolleyes:

Have you seen Team America? 'Cos that film hurt Matt Damon... It made him a lot less attractive in my eyes!

Reply 11

SamTheMan

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Ellie4

Have you seen Team America? 'Cos that film hurt Matt Damon... It made him a lot less attractive in my eyes!

I haven't seen it but I heard about his character that's supposed to be a bit dumb and repeat his name all the time. So? He's a bit stupid? I thought girls liked a guy who isn't too bright :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Ellie4

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SamTheMan

I haven't seen it but I heard about his character that's supposed to be a bit dumb and repeat his name all the time. So? He's a bit stupid? I thought girls liked a guy who isn't too bright :rolleyes:

"Matt Damon!" LOL. Sorry, I guess you had to see it...

Reply 13

kriztinae

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SamTheMan

I haven't seen it but I heard about his character that's supposed to be a bit dumb and repeat his name all the time. So? He's a bit stupid? I thought girls liked a guy who isn't too bright :rolleyes:

to be honest your just picky :rolleyes:

Reply 14

kriztinae

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Ellie4

"Matt Damon!" LOL. Sorry, I guess you had to see it...

heh i think so too cos i have no idea what your on about :redface:

Reply 15

naelse

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i think part of attractiveness is personality too. It affects your smile, your eyes, your expressions etc and these are the most important physical attributes for me. When I met my bf, I didn't even notice how good looking he was for a few moments because he was in a corner scowling. Then once we started talking his eyes lit up and he had thise huge warm genuine smile with cute dimples and I was just blown away. If he had been a miserable son of a b all night I don't think I would have found him attractive, but he was a really fun guy and that altered the way he looked slightly.